ZefiroTera47 50 Posted May 15, 2014 Have you already tried all of the suggestions that everyone has said? If so, and he's still the same, maybe you should really just tell him how you are feeling about all of this, you are a couple, he needs to respect you and your relationship. I know you tried to talk with him before, but this time you need to show him how this is starting to be bad for BOTH of you... He may be obsessed like some of the other members said, so you need to stop it before it gets too serious... Hope you guys get through this as fast as possible Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GotMilk5101520 573 Posted May 15, 2014 Pfthahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! Oh I just like this guy already. I'M A WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 Official Bowtie Artist, Amber Cole, Katara and 1 other reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Caxkj 481 Posted May 15, 2014 I'M A WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ...Oh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarLea Quinn 26,501 Posted May 15, 2014 When his gaming has infringed on your personal life in a negative way something should be said and the fact he's ignored you so rudely i'd find unacceptable let alone missing work/school/responsibilities like he's been doing .From what it seems like to me there hasn't been any boundaries set so he's basically stepping right on you and disrespecting you .If you don't put your foot down now it 'll set a precedence for future behavior .So show him now it's not ok and be a bitch . Being nice hasn't worked so don't be afraid to confront bc sometimes in relationships it's inevitable . Everyone fights .It's normal - just fight smart .Tell him how you feel and set BOUNDARIES NOW.If you don't this behavior will just continue . Don't let him even think he can get away with treating you like that or he will ...Which is what he has been doing . 8 Caxkj, Katara, MyDixieRect and 5 others reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Caxkj 481 Posted May 15, 2014 When his gaming has infringed on your personal life in a negative way something should be said You gave me a thought: this is all to do with an obsession of video games. If that's the case; ban him from them if it comes to it. 1 HarLea Quinn reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Katara 23 Posted May 15, 2014 When his gaming has infringed on your personal life in a negative way something should be said and the fact he's ignored you so rudely i'd find unacceptable let alone missing work/school/responsibilities like he's been doing .From what it seems like to me there hasn't been any boundaries set so he's basically stepping right on you and disrespecting you .If you don't put your foot down now it 'll set a precedence for future behavior .So show him now it's not ok and be a bitch . Being nice hasn't worked so don't be afraid to confront bc sometimes in relationships it's inevitable . Everyone fights .It's normal - just fight smart .Tell him how you feel and set BOUNDARIES NOW.If you don't this behavior will just continue . Don't let him even think he can get away with treating you like that or he will ...Which is what he has been doing . THANK YOU! This is exactly what I needed to hear I want to stand up and show him my true feelings but I just feel like it will only cause more tension. He usually NEVER acts like this. I don't know what the exact cause for this is. He makes excuses. 1 HarLea Quinn reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Caxkj 481 Posted May 15, 2014 THANK YOU! This is exactly what I needed to hear I want to stand up and show him my true feelings but I just feel like it will only cause more tension. He usually NEVER acts like this. I don't know what the exact cause for this is. He makes excuses. Some other side of him, perhaps? Maybe the games themselves opened some emotional floodgates that you never knew about. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarLea Quinn 26,501 Posted May 15, 2014 (edited) You gave me a thought: this is all to do with an obsession of video games. If that's the case; ban him from them if it comes to it. Or at the very least set rules and limitations..It's a must THANK YOU! This is exactly what I needed to hear I want to stand up and show him my true feelings but I just feel like it will only cause more tension. He usually NEVER acts like this. I don't know what the exact cause for this is. He makes excuses. You are welcome .I am married so I have some experience. You saw my hubby ( squirting demyx)say I won't deal with it either when he gets outta hand.If guilt and being nice doesn't work being a bitch does Sometimes you just have to be Edited May 15, 2014 by Flaming Lea 3 Sorual, Demyx. and Katara reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Caxkj 481 Posted May 15, 2014 You are welcome .I am married so I have some experience. You saw my hubby ( squirting demyx) Flaming Lea... Squirting Demyx... if any of your offspring should one day join here, have him call his username Gambling Luxord. 8 Sorual, Katara, Amber Cole and 5 others reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DaxtotheMax 193 Posted May 16, 2014 My dad has the same problem he got to the point where he wouldn't take his pills but he needed them, I suggest telling him the truth of how you feel about it, tell him it's too much, to slow down, take one step downwards at a time, to limit the time he plays Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sora96 17,256 Posted May 16, 2014 Dress up sexually for him? I wish you the best of luck in this difficult time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nick Sideris 1,551 Posted May 16, 2014 Well , this is addiction ,actually . I'd recommend contacting his family or a doctor . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DaxtotheMax 193 Posted May 16, 2014 Or you could find something to substitute games when he wants to play, like another hobby, or go for a walk to get away from it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Katara 23 Posted May 16, 2014 Oh wow... I'm sorry, I really wish I could help you. I don't know what to say. If I were in your shoes I'd try to confront him about it... if you haven't already tried. But I don't want you to get into an argument.... Have you tried maybe sticking a note on his computer screen for him to read? Maybe he'd read it... or maybe try to jump on a game with him, and try to talk about it with him... I'm sorry, Katara... I don't really know... I've never been in this situation before, but I really doesn't sound right. I'm not sure how to breach the subject, but you need to tell him that you're worried about his behavior. Make sure he knows that you care about him and that's why you're talking to him, because it could be that he's depressed or something and that's why he's become obsessive. Just make sure he knows that you are worried for him. Whatever you do, good luck. Whenever my wife wants me to stop playing video games, she makes me feal guilty about it. Try that. It stops me from playing everytime. Fool. It's not good if he's skipping work for it. He could be that he is becoming addicted. That's not good. I suggest an intervention. Has anyone else close to him noticed this changed behavior? The best things I can come up with for this kind of situation is confront about it with a fierce look, or contact a family member of his and ask what they think and what should be done. How long exactly has this been going on? It could be a phase he's going through at the moment and, over time, he'll get over it and become the man you remember again. If it goes any worse; I recommend shutting down his games and demanding a talk with him. This is my advice. Fool. How old is he? stop paying the electricity bill so everything stops. Then he'll have to stop. Other than that, I'm so sorry to hear about this im sorry I wish I could help, but I don't know much on relationships. I would say just pray about it. Do you know his friend? Maybe you can get some information from him on this subject. Also do you have the keys for the room he is in? You should confront him about it like everyone says, if it isn't him then it isn't him. If this is your first time trying to confront him, try to be kinder and less worried and ask him what the game is and whats so fun about it, you could get some information out of it. Not an expert on this situation so try to take my post with a grain of salt. If that fails then time to put your foot down. Maybe contact his family also. Good luck! I'm new here but all can say is can i beat him up? Have you already tried all of the suggestions that everyone has said? If so, and he's still the same, maybe you should really just tell him how you are feeling about all of this, you are a couple, he needs to respect you and your relationship. I know you tried to talk with him before, but this time you need to show him how this is starting to be bad for BOTH of you... He may be obsessed like some of the other members said, so you need to stop it before it gets too serious... Hope you guys get through this as fast as possible When his gaming has infringed on your personal life in a negative way something should be said and the fact he's ignored you so rudely i'd find unacceptable let alone missing work/school/responsibilities like he's been doing .From what it seems like to me there hasn't been any boundaries set so he's basically stepping right on you and disrespecting you .If you don't put your foot down now it 'll set a precedence for future behavior .So show him now it's not ok and be a bitch . Being nice hasn't worked so don't be afraid to confront bc sometimes in relationships it's inevitable . Everyone fights .It's normal - just fight smart .Tell him how you feel and set BOUNDARIES NOW.If you don't this behavior will just continue . Don't let him even think he can get away with treating you like that or he will ...Which is what he has been doing . My dad has the same problem he got to the point where he wouldn't take his pills but he needed them, I suggest telling him the truth of how you feel about it, tell him it's too much, to slow down, take one step downwards at a time, to limit the time he plays Dress up sexually for him? I wish you the best of luck in this difficult time. Well , this is addiction ,actually . I'd recommend contacting his family or a doctor . I finally told him how I felt. I told him how concerned I was for him. I confronted him last night. Here's how it went down: I was nice and blunt- that didn't work. I then stood right in front of him, and he kissed my cheek saying "Love you." he then added "Ok.....Can you move?" Hearing that from him angered me. I stood there, giving him a stare. "Babe....I'm in the middle of something. Please stop with the games" he said. A few moments later he was trying to move me out of the way so he could keep playing! That was the last straw. I remembered what some people ( including Flaming Lea ) had told me. I snatched his controller, and started yelling. ( No, I will not go into detail of what I said ) we yelled for a long time. Me being the sensitive one as I am, cried. I finally was fed up with it, and walked out the door. A few minutes later he came out of the room, and was trying to cheer me up. He promised to stop his ws, and limit his time. After that, he offered to take me out. We did, and as soon as we got home, he began playing again. -_- This might sound bad, but I then went to the basement and shut off his console. I'm not going to lie, that actually felt great! When he confronted me, he smiled, kissed me and almost went back down to turn it back on. When I asked him about it, and why he's been skipping church, work, etc. he simply told me he wanted to "unwind" and just felt like doing it. He promised to go to work, and church and to spend more time with me. He still plays a lot more than he used to, but at least now, when I come in and demand he stops, he presses that off button as quick as he can. Thank you all for the help, love, and support It really warms my heart to see so many helpful people by my side. I want to thank all of you, but more so for Flaming Lea, Amber Cole, and Cxkj. Please add me I may need your guys help in the future. Until more drama, this is Katara saying farewell 6 Mystics Apprentice, Caxkj, Demyx. and 3 others reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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Amber Cole 1,557 Posted May 16, 2014 I applaud you! I would have done the same thing! If you need anything let me know and I'll try to help. Just keep taking things in small steps and once he beats the games his addiction should decline cause I mean what else are you gonna do? and if it gets back to where it was, i'd try to get a marriage counselor. 1 HarLea Quinn reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarLea Quinn 26,501 Posted May 16, 2014 I bet it did feel good Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and be willing to fight when it comes to that .Remember to stay FIRM and make sure he sticks to his limitations he has set for himself . In other words , not just talk but 'walk the walk '. I'm happy for you and you are welcome . 3 Demyx., Amber Cole and Katara reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Demyx. 10,064 Posted May 16, 2014 I'm glad it worked out. 2 HarLea Quinn and KHUndertaleFan25 reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shana09 5,769 Posted May 17, 2014 Damn that went extremely well, good job! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites