This weekend I've been very depressed and I feel a need to vent and just kind of came here because I don't know where else to go. So my girlfriend texted me Friday morning that she has bad news so I'm like "What is it now? Can't be that bad." But she said that she can't talk to me for a while, after a little bit of trying to get the reason why out of her, she just said that she had a bad grade (I'm guessing just on a test), her mom did something, her sister doesn't do chores right so her dad is on a rampage. She complained Thursday about having to stay up late to clean the house (this has happened multiple times and it annoys the crap out of me) But Friday she was really concerned and said it was bad, she doesn't know how long it'll be but she's going to be stuck with a lot of crap to deal with. You can justify this but I can't even explain because she's not grounded that I know of, just forced out of time, not allowed in her room she said, and not allowed to go out. This seems like torture and just the thought is driving me nuts. I know it's her going through it and not me but it hurts me as well, that I can't even talk to her?! We didn't even go into a full conversation just a few replies and she never even read my last text so that leads me to believe she doesn't have her phone. I understand if she's being punished...but for what, she doesn't deserve this! And I'm here (I get major anxiety and paranoia over stuff like this) just trying to keep myself busy to not even think about it. I mean I definitely want to do something, but I'm stuck with no idea how long this will last. It's only been a few days but it's felt like forever. Any advice?

 

By the way I'm not trying to reveal stuff about others or gossip or whatever, this is just me trying to help, trying to stay calm.

Edited November 12, 20177 yr by DaxtotheMax

If you think that somehow her parents are somehow overstepping their bounds, then you should tell someone. You said her dad was on a rampage - that does not sound good. It seems to me that there might be some kind of abuse of power going on. Of course I could be wrong and it could be nothing like that, but the red flags are there. Try talking to an adult about this if you think something is going on.

I think there is something going on to be honest but she doesn’t want anybody to do anything about it. It is an abuse of power because she still loves them and all but they mistreat her in my opinion, she’s the one who takes care of the family, not them.

 

Here's an update, she's back...which is great and more than I could ever ask for but the problem still sort of stands