This is very personal, and is kinda..yeah, but I really need advice from several people.

 

 

Today, I come home from school and notice my dad is home early. I walk into to greet my dad, and he is on his laptop. He sorta jumps, but I don't really pay attention to that. I walk up to him and greet him, and I glance at his laptop. I thought I caught sight of male genitalia, but I said to myself no. He didn't realized I looked at the computer, and he goes into the bathroom and takes a shower, leaving his laptop open.

 

I saw a minimized window on his task bar that read "Bare", and I decided to click it. What do I see? Gay porn.

 

I don't know whether to feel angry, sad, or otherwise. I am not feeling any emotions right now, because I am in denial. I don't know what to do, who to tell, anything.

 

This also leads me to justify beliefs that he is actually cheating on my mom with this other guy.

 

Should I tell her? I'm just confused as hell right now.

I think you got to tell your mom about this she got a right to know the truth that he maybe cheating on her with some guy.

I think you got to tell your mom about this she got a right to know the truth that he maybe cheating on her with some guy.

 

Yeah, but if I tell her, a divorce will surely happen, along with other drama. I don't want my mom to have to go through with that, she's been through enough already.

I think you should confront your Dad about it first before taking any extreme measures. Just tell him you saw what he was looking at and ask him to explain himself.

 

Be sure to look for the common signs of lying such as mumbling, excessive blinking, twitching, sweating a lot, complaining about something unrelated to the topic, scratching and acting like they said something else.

 

From there I guess you should decide whether to follow your heart or your brain.

I think you should confront your Dad about it first before taking any extreme measures. Just tell him you saw what he was looking at and ask him to explain himself.

 

Be sure to look for the common signs of lying such as mumbling, excessive blinking, twitching, sweating a lot, complaining about something unrelated to the topic, scratching and acting like they said something else.

 

From there I guess you should decide whether to follow your heart or your brain.

 

I'm just..this is just too surprising and shocking. And my dad can get very angry, and I don't know how he would react if I brought this up to him. But I will try.

I think you got to tell your mom about this she got a right to know the truth that he maybe cheating on her with some guy.

 

The question is would she even believe him? But if he was truly in a relationship with a man why would he need porn?

 

Until you know 100% that he's seeing someone there is no point telling your mother, you can't risk being wrong with this.

 

I think you got to tell your mom about this she got a right to know the truth that he maybe cheating on her with some guy.

 

The question is would she even believe him? But if he was truly in a relationship with a man why would he need porn?

 

Until you know 100% that he's seeing someone there is no point telling your mother, you can't risk being wrong with this.

 

Well, I just told her about the porn aspect. She called him on the phone and talked about it..he said that it "just popped up", which is complete and utter bullshit.

Ah "It just popped up." the oldest trick in the book. He is definately lying. Of course you have to be sure. Check the history and see if there is anything there. You will find one of three things...

 

1. One or two visits indicating it was a pop up.

2. Multiple page visits. Take a screenshot for evidence and put it in a hidden folder so he can't delete it.

3. Nothing. Which means he could have cleared his history. The only way to catch him would to catch him in the act.

Well, I had a long talk with my dad. Turns out that he was clearing out his spam folder, and he clicked a gay porn link disguised as a business ad or something. But, I still believe he is watching porn, because I recall another time seeing a naked woman doing stuff on one of the sites he goes on, and when I entered the room, he clicked out fast.

Well, I had a long talk with my dad. Turns out that he was clearing out his spam folder, and he clicked a gay porn link disguised as a business ad or something. But, I still believe he is watching porn, because I recall another time seeing a naked woman doing stuff on one of the sites he goes on, and when I entered the room, he clicked out fast.

 

his so lying also like Fred said the only way to catch him is with him red handed.

Well, I had a long talk with my dad. Turns out that he was clearing out his spam folder, and he clicked a gay porn link disguised as a business ad or something. But, I still believe he is watching porn, because I recall another time seeing a naked woman doing stuff on one of the sites he goes on, and when I entered the room, he clicked out fast.

 

He could be telling the truth. But he could also be lying. I think you will need a lot more evidence. Maybe rig the computer so it takes a bit longer to close a window? I don't know for sure. You'll need to get crafty to get the info you need without getting in trouble.

I'm just going to wait for another instance. I am also going to be more sneaky and stealthy when he gets on the CPU, to and peek to see exactly what he is doing.

Not to be that guy but maybe you should just leave it be? He is over 18 years of age and is fully entitled to watch adult material on the internet.

 

If it was gay material I would understand, that has a huge effect on you and your family, but if It's just run of the mill normal stuff I see no reason to pursue it further.

Hmm. You have a point. He has the right to watch it, I just don't want my parents relationship to be broken up over it. That's why I am concerned.

i know how you feel....i made a thread about a similar thing before...but i haven't said anything...but check out the cookies and other things cause history can be erased.

Similiar thing happened to me... a long time ago. I asked to use my dad's computer, and i was typing on he address and a porn site option appeared. I didn't know what it was and... I hate to look back at it...