I know that I shouldn't be angry that my dad's dating--I mean, it's part of life. But it's the idea that she's there standing in for my Mom infuriates me. Why can't my dad just be happy with having his kids? Aren't the four of us enough for him?

 

I was talking to a friend about this, and she pointed out that he may want companionship and a romantic type of love, and she's right. But I really wish that he didn't. I mean, sure, I guess she's nice enough, but having her there just.. really gets me angry.

 

If it isn't enough that it feels like my dad has betrayed my mom, then the twins make it sure as heck worse. They actually LIKE her. I know I really shouldn't hate her, but I don't like the idea of someone replacing my mom. I mean, she was really special to us all--how can my dad just throw that away? They were together twenty-one years, and even had kids. I know I sound terrible, but I wish he'd just stay single. I don't want anyone to stand in as my mother--I want my biological Mom, not anyone else.

 

I wish he'd never met her. I hate her. How can she possibly ever be anything to me like my mom was?

This is the only kind of advice I can give you, becuase the same kind of thing appened to me, but it was my mum dating a guy instead of a dad dating a girl, but it's kind oof the same situation...... Don't think of her as replacing your mother, that will not help in any way. If your dad really loves her, then you can't stand in the way, you have to think of him too, when my mom started dating, I hated him, but I saw how happy he made her, so I tried to accept him, he can't replace my dad, but he's someone that makes her happy, so I accepted him, maybe you should try that too....

 

Just give her a chance at least, if your mother and father were married for 21 years, then I don't believe he is trying to replace her, and I don't believe she would try to replace your mother.........

I guess so. We all went to dinner and she kept saying things like, "sweetpea" and stuff.. >.< I wished she'd shut her trap. She's probably not trying to, but it just feels like it. I mean, when she heard I liked ice skating, she was practically begging to take me skating. I know she's just trying to win us all over and stuff, but I really don't like it.

 

Thanks for the advice.

You have to know that there are times to let go of things. I know he holds a special place in his heart fr your mother, but it really isn't your decision... Sadly.

 

Think of his happiness, not just your own. It may seem harsh and really irritating for something like that to happen,but give her a chance... She doesn't have to be your mom. Maybe just a friend would suffice...

Not to sure if this advice well help or not but here goes nothing: Sounds to me shes trying to bond with you. Give the woman a chance, I know your really sad about this, but I Lost my dad, so when my mom started to date other guys, I was happy for her really. while there were ton's of guys, they all seem tot ry to bond with me,and it was honestly fun. think of it as an extension of love, of a new adventure ofor you and the familey.

 

See I agree with SuperPunk, becuase it really isn;t your decision. Just keep an oopen mind and give her a chance, who knows you might like her.

you're dad's girlfriend isn't meant to replace your mother, just he wants to date again.

 

although she does sound really annoying, you'll just have to put up with her if you really don't like her.

I know exactly what you are going through My mother is dating this guy that she met on a dating site. I do not like it one bit...

 

As for you I believe that although you may have these feelings for the moment, they will go away soon and maybe you will even like her. If you don't then I do not know what to tell you. I'm sorry I could not be more of a help I may ponder this more and come back with some words of advice that will actually help you