Fact: Yes I am 21. And yes, I have had boyfriends in the past. But...I still have no flippin clue how they happened. T.T I don't know, and probably will never know, how to deal with guys. So, I am asking u guys for advice b/c...well....>_> i don't want to make a big deal in rl b/c my friends tend to be gossipy.

 

So...here we go. There's this boy who has had a crush on me for a long time and he recently kinda confessed his feelings. And I am not sure how to handle the situation so...let me tell u from the beginning.

Apparently, he started to like me when we met two years prior in chem class. I didn't notice it back then but a few months later, he got a gf so I didn't think anything of it. Over that time period, we to be really good friends and he turned out to be one of the nicest people I have ever met. But, I digress, I should have started to notice the signs when he and I started university (we ended up going to the same one). He paid for my lunches and hung out with me between my classes and I honestly at first thought he was doing all of this that b/c he was trying to help me adjust to campus life....until he just told me otherwise. So I am not sure what to do. I like him as friend and that's it. I feel guilty about it but there's nothing i can do to change how I feel. I don't want to ruin our friendship but at the same time, I can't think let him think there's going to be a chance where him and I are going to be together. I know that sounds harsh but it's the reality of the situation. I usually would just be blunt and say "haha, dude, that ain't ever going to happen!" but I'm not a jerk and I'm trying to be sensitive to his feelings as well.

 

I've never has this kind of situation on my hands, so does anyone know how I can handle it?

 

**please: the title of this threads sound kinda...>_> not fitting/rude, sooo please ignore it.***

Edited April 5, 201213 yr by Spiney

The best thing you can do is tell him you're not interested as soon as possible.

That's all you can do to be honest.

If he decides to be an asshole and break the friendship because you don't like him that way, then he wasn't a good friend to start with.

If he cares about you as a friend, he will understand and everything should be fine.

I am about as your age and I actually had that experience where I am the guy in ur story. This happen quite a lot really lol, my only advice to you is be direct and don't give him false hope. I think that it would hurt him more if you continue to give him that hope. Saying that it won't work out is the hardest thing to do but I believe that is all you can do. On the other hand, you might consider giving him a chance, you never know really. Sometimes, ur true love is just around the corner.

thanks guys, I'll think on the matter so more b/f i say anything to him.

Be Honest :]

You can't let guilt control your relationship if YOU don't feel the same way. If he is a good enough, supportive friend he should understand. For awhile there maybe some awkward feelings, but just be a good friend and don't get started in a realationship if you BOTH don't have parallel feelings.