I´m still wondering... why? After a year I still wondered why? 

One year ago a huge problem was inside my family, it was too grave that literally it broke out. My father and his brothers never talked again. So what´s my problem with it? Well they littleraly cut down relationships with everyone of my family, obviously included me. What i feel in that moment.... sadness and pain. Why? because they were my family, how could they get us into that? Why everything happened by such a foolish and idiotic thing? So as usual with all my sadness and etc etc etc. I kept them inside me. 

 

Well it´s almost a year, and now... All of a sudden memories of that day came back... And i´m still wondering... How can I help to heal that? IS there a way to fix it? Why they blamed me and my family just for a floolish matter? ... And still sadness run in my head waiting for an answer... 

 

 

Listen to Fix a Heart by Demi Lovato

I'm still confused on the details of whatever this feud between your family was but I'll tell you this. It's a bit long so bear with me.

 

I lost people myself a while ago. I considered them important to me until they showed that they never really cared or understood as much as they claimed they did. We were friends, for over a year and all the sudden fighting broke out because of constant disagreements and everyone's mental health being at stake. I cut ties with them, a few of them cut ties with me. I won't lie. After a year of friendship to be suddenly taken away, it hurt like hell. I felt betrayed because I expected them to care, support and work with me.

 

It's been about four weeks tops since we've been no longer friends. When I look back on it now, I think it was for the best that they're no longer in my life. I feel better, freer, healthier. Even though I tend to have momentary relapses of hurt, betrayal and anger. What do I do to cope when these happen? I type rants. I vent on my blog. I talk it out with friends and family. Afterwards, when I do, every time, it's like a load has been taken off my chest. Doing this helps me heal, mentally and emotionally.

 

It won't be great 100% of the time. There will be moments where you slip up. Do what you can to cope when you do visit that dark place. Type out your feelings or talk to someone. Or if that doesn't work, find something that fits you better. And afterwards? Spoil yourself, concentrate on you, anything you can think to take your mind off of it or to make you feel good or happy. Live your life to the fullest even when the motivation isn't there. Because your existence shouldn't be spoiled by something so negative when there's so much out there you can do to feel positive.

I would give some helpful suggestions if I could pinpoint the problem exactly. But this is pretty vague: all that I can tell right now is that something bad happened within your family.

I'm in a similar situation, my dad has cut off all his relationships on his side of the family, and won't talk to my mom's side of the family either. I don't know the reason, but knowing my dad, I know he's the one that messed it up.

And to answer your question: I always say that you should discuss about your problems etc. But that hasn't worked out for me. My dad's relatives have been so offended that they won't even talk to me, my mother or anyone on our family. So I can't really help you on this one. Let's hope that someone else can.