Warrning: Thread will contain swearing.

 

For those of you that don't know, my dad is a stupid asshole that isn't worth the dirt he walks on. He mocks me and sometimes hits me aswell. Most of the time I don't really care but lately it's really getting to me.

 

The things that he mocks me for are just awesome. He makes fun of me whenever I pass out (which happens a lot these days...) or when I have a "gasping attack" as I call them.

 

He has no faith in me whatsoever, he just thinks I fail at everything I do, which really pisses me off cause I've always been a hard worker even though I miss 50% of all school days because of my illnesses and I always, always, try my best in sports even though I'm not suposed to push myself.

 

He complains about being broke, even though HE'S the one wasting all our money and smokes and beer and other pointless crap that no one needs! And when he can't find his own money he raids mine. (In case you're wondering, my dad made me get a job when I was nine and he won't let me quit)

 

The thing that bugs me most about him is that he just makes stuff up as he goes along. Even when he's talking about me. I remember one time, when he was talking to a friend, I think, he said that I was a special needs child. I'm not! I'm sorry if I'm offending anyone by being offended by that, but I was pissed! I cried myself to sleep that night.

 

Yesterday when he was talking to his sister he was telling her a bit about my brother and I. Here's a list of all the information he got wrong:

My brothers Birthday

How old I am

My grandma's phone number

My grades C's and B's my ass

And, as always, he doen't have a clue what my middle name is, even though he's the one that named me.

 

 

My mom is the nicest girl in the whole world! She should be married to an actor, or at least someone that doesn't make her lung disease worse just by standing next to her. I wish she would just divorce him, but she's just to kind. I've talked to her about it before but she always has some excuse.

 

I could go on and on forever about him, but I feel like I've already used up a lot of your guys's time, so I guess I'll stop there. Sorry about ranting like this, but I really needed to get it off my chest.

Oh, Idk cali In this messed up world anythings bound to happen and it does, I just wish Something would improve in your life.

Don't be sorry. You dad should be the one that should be sorry. You're a good friend and you don't need him making your illness worse. I'm sure you're under a lot of stress and too much stress could make illnesses worse. I think you should call the police if he keeps hitting you. Or, at least, threaten to do that. My stepfather doesn't hit me anymore because I called the police on him and, even though he didn't get arrested, he knows better then to hurt me now. My advice is that you should keep staying close to your mom because she's the one who I'm sure means alot to you. It may sound mean, but I would tried to avoid your dad, that's what I do to my stepfather anyway because then it'll limit what you have to deal with.

Don't be sorry. You dad should be the one that should be sorry. You're a good friend and you don't need him making your illness worse. I'm sure you're under a lot of stress and too much stress could make illnesses worse. I think you should call the police if he keeps hitting you. Or, at least, threaten to do that. My stepfather doesn't hit me anymore because I called the police on him and, even though he didn't get arrested, he knows better then to hurt me now. My advice is that you should keep staying close to your mom because she's the one who I'm sure means alot to you. It may sound mean, but I would tried to avoid your dad, that's what I do to my stepfather anyway because then it'll limit what you have to deal with.

 

I try to stick with my mom, but she has several different jobs so I only get to see her for about and hour a day or something. My dad on the other home is almost always home deppending on what shift he's on.

I'd say to your mom, a little bit more than the truth. Say that he hits you every moment she isn't in home, and says that he threatened you. If he were to know that you told her, he would hit you more and more.... Really, say much more. Say everyday. Say that he can't keep on doing that. Say (lying) that you're planning on getting away from your house. At least I'd try that.

I see. Sounds like your dad's a pretty mean guy.

honestly....this may sound like the strangest advice your ever going to get but heres what you do:" okay are you with me? MOVE ON! your dad's your dad, Hoenstly I NEVER HAD ONE for abanding us, for years I was always angery @ for 18 years of my life! then @ age 19 after having the strangest heart 2 heart ever. I came to a HUGE Relaiztion that i sdiscovered at 17 but it took me awhile to figure it out. My father will alwasy be my father and while my mom & dad split up and she gave up on him. I came to respoect him that he'll always be jsut that dirt bag. jsut tell your dad how you feel and then move on. try to have a ehart to heart and tell him how you really feel if he stil acts the same way over the rest of the eyar tell him that he's "Lost his famiely."

I'm sorry, Roxas. >; I know that must be really hard. Just trust that things will get better. I'm sorry I don't have any better of advice to you. Even if you dad acts sort of mean sometimes, he's still your dad, and for now at the very least you should give your best attempt at getting along with him, or maybe even seriously talking. Again, I apologize for not having any better advice. I wish you the best, Roxy.

aww man! I totally agree with calling the police. It is ABUSE. It's almost all the types of abuse I'v heard of in school. Your dad could get some counseling, so he could lay off, hopefully all of the drugs. You'd probably have to live somewhere else away from your family for a while, but if your dad gets better you can go back. I'm Sorry you have to deal with this crappy stuff and I wish you and your mom luck. tell us if anything gets better.

I do agree with you but my cousins are in a similar situation and they actually started excersicing behind the dads back and showing him up, like one got straight A's,one excersices A LOT, one was 18 and left, one never talks, one just plain avoids him and the other doesn't give a crap so yea. I still do feel for ya because my mom used to date this guy who hit me and choked me, and I was only 7!!!!! I hate him. And my ppiece of crap father who left my mom right after she was pregnant. I ate him but the only thing I can even do is prove them all wrong and overacheive. then, when I'm rich, they will ask and I'l flip them off. So yea I have my plans and proirities and the becat thing you can do is set yours too. I still do feel for you. Please don't flip on me because I actually am in a similar situation.

you don;t hate you dads, in actualltiy you feel very sorry for them. all of you do. anger is jsut a "fake" emotion that "branches off" saddness. in most reailies its sadness but really what is the overighting feeling? then yeha there you go. I'm really sorry tat your dads a dirt bag but hey well all got them. we dslike them for not cairng,loving, or showing any emotions we crave for.