I don't want to make two posts but there were two things on my mind that got me thinking:

 

1: I know a lot of parents want their children to be able to tell them things like what's on their mind or what's bothering them, but the children feel hesitant because their scared of their reaction. For me, my mom yells at me when she gets mad at me so I'm too scared to ever tell her what's on my mind. In result, she pretty much knows nothing about my personal feelings. Now that I think about it, nobody really knows my personal feelings (except for maybe my gf/some close friends). I think it may tie in to fear of being judged by others, which most likely would be the reason why I hide my feelings, etc. from my mom. But the thing is, I want a relationship with my mom where I wouldn't have to be afraid of telling her how I feel about stuff, but I feel like showing my personal feelings, whether I like or don't like something or if something makes me feel a certain way, would just get in the way; I guess I feel like I just have to deal with whatever is given. How can I be more open to my mom/friends/etc. without fear of negative judgement?

 

2: This was random but I was talking to my friend and I said how we need to hang out and as I thought to myself, I have no idea how to "hang out" with somebody. Ok I have a general Idea but that's only things like going to the mall/park/movie/etc. There's the socializing aspect that I have no idea about. Idk what things to talk about, how to act, what to say, yada-yada. For that reason I'm somewhat anti-social because I have nothing really interesting to say or I feel like its not important for me to say. I really just don't know how to act in social situations (which sucks cause I'm going to college in 1 1/2 yrs). So I guess I'm just asking for social advice just like what to say/what to talk about, pretty much anything that can help so the friends that I don't have to worry bout awkwardness when hanging around my friends.

I don't want to make two posts but there were two things on my mind that got me thinking:

 

1: I know a lot of parents want their children to be able to tell them things like what's on their mind or what's bothering them, but the children feel hesitant because their scared of their reaction. For me, my mom yells at me when she gets mad at me so I'm too scared to ever tell her what's on my mind. In result, she pretty much knows nothing about my personal feelings. Now that I think about it, nobody really knows my personal feelings (except for maybe my gf/some close friends). I think it may tie in to fear of being judged by others, which most likely would be the reason why I hide my feelings, etc. from my mom. But the thing is, I want a relationship with my mom where I wouldn't have to be afraid of telling her how I feel about stuff, but I feel like showing my personal feelings, whether I like or don't like something or if something makes me feel a certain way, would just get in the way; I guess I feel like I just have to deal with whatever is given. How can I be more open to my mom/friends/etc. without fear of negative judgement?

 

2: This was random but I was talking to my friend and I said how we need to hang out and as I thought to myself, I have no idea how to "hang out" with somebody. Ok I have a general Idea but that's only things like going to the mall/park/movie/etc. There's the socializing aspect that I have no idea about. Idk what things to talk about, how to act, what to say, yada-yada. For that reason I'm somewhat anti-social because I have nothing really interesting to say or I feel like its not important for me to say. I really just don't know how to act in social situations (which sucks cause I'm going to college in 1 1/2 yrs). So I guess I'm just asking for social advice just like what to say/what to talk about, pretty much anything that can help so the friends that I don't have to worry bout awkwardness when hanging around my friends.

 

talk about what you and your friend's common interests are. if you don't know for some reason, then find out. you can do this by talking about what you're interested in or you can ask what they're interested in talking about and then roll with it.

I feel the exact same way.My mom never understands me because I kept showing her the fake me. When I was little, my nickname is "Antisocial" because I never talk. That nickname still followsme today.

I can relate. My parents understand near nothing about me for the same reasons. By now, i can't tell them anything. From the reaction i got when i said i watched my little pony, i'm not about to say anything more about myself.

 

i am also a little anti-social as well. making friends is kinda hard when your bisexual...

 

what i would suggest, is find someone you CAN talk to about yourself and your feelings. I know that i feel great after talking to one of my friends about stuff.

 

I hope all goes well with you. good luck. life is hard...

1. People are gonna judge you regardless of what you say. But your parents will most likely not think negative of you no matter what you say if its truly how you feel. Sometimes they may be stubborn and disagree, but everyone is stubborn. Also, your friends if they are your friends will not judge you negatively they may criticize you, but it will probably be with their best intentions if you say something they don't agree with, but then again nobody has to agree with each other all the time.

 

2. Hanging out isn't anything special. It's just you doing whatever. The key to being social is to let things slide and do not think as much. If you haven't already you should read the book Perks of Being a Wallflower, it will speak to a lot of how you feel.

1) In my experience, just don't care. People are gigantic idiots out to hurt people for no good reason besides the fact that the person is not ideal to them. I myself have not been in your situation regarding a mother, but regarding friends, true friends that you can hold forever are the ones that will never judge you based on your likes, dislikes, etc.

 

2) Hanging out is basically to me just being with the people you care about.

2: This was random but I was talking to my friend and I said how we need to hang out and as I thought to myself, I have no idea how to "hang out" with somebody. Ok I have a general Idea but that's only things like going to the mall/park/movie/etc. There's the socializing aspect that I have no idea about. Idk what things to talk about, how to act, what to say, yada-yada. For that reason I'm somewhat anti-social because I have nothing really interesting to say or I feel like its not important for me to say. I really just don't know how to act in social situations (which sucks cause I'm going to college in 1 1/2 yrs). So I guess I'm just asking for social advice just like what to say/what to talk about, pretty much anything that can help so the friends that I don't have to worry bout awkwardness when hanging around my friends.

 

just talk about whatever comes to mind! sports, tv shows, movies, games, whatever. see if you have anything in common and then try and start up a conversation about it. if they seem like they're getting bored, or you are, just switch to something else.

 

it seems hard at first, but just let yourself go and relax a bit and you won't have a problem.