Ok, this might be kinda long but bear with me. I want to ask this girl out at my school, but I'm afraid she will reject me as I'm not much of a sight (I have some acne, slightly overweight 170, need a tan) and we are in different grades so she has no clue who I am (I'm a Sophmore, she's a Freshman) so I need some help and advice here. First off, I want to excercise so I look more attractive. Does anyone have a really good way to go about this? I was thinking before school do some pushups (20-30) curl ups (20) and chin ups (10), then later in the day go for a bike ride around a lake near my house for about an hour or so and end with a healthy meal. I don't have any excersizing equipment at my place, so I gotta do it the old fashioned way. Second, could you guys give me some advice when I ask her? Like any tips on what to say? How do I approach her? The only time I see her is at school, and during passing time we constantly walk by eachother so I was thinking then? Would it be creepy if a random guy walked up to you and asked you out? Also, would Valentines day be a good day to ask her? I think if I work out really hard, eat right, obtain some courage, and boost my self-esteem I could ask her by then, it would also be most appropriate, and she's more likely to say yes, since it's a day of love. I will be checking this daily, so if you need more info I'll provide as much as I know. Please help me, I've never felt this way before in my life, it's the first time I've truly been in love, and I don't want to pass up this chance. I appreciate it if you've read this far, means alot to me.

Edit: I gotta go somewhere so I'll be on later to check the replies to this, if there are any

Edited September 21, 201213 yr by Hyperion

well, it's good your motivated. I say try this and see where it goes. But not on valentines day. Too generic.

Edited September 21, 201213 yr by Oniaku

well, it's good your motivated. I say try this and see where it goes. But not on valentines day. Too generic.

 

Alright, I'll just do it when I feel ready then, thanks.

Alright, I'll just do it when I feel ready then, thanks.

 

Yup, anytime.

I'ma girl too, so here's what's best: After you've done whatever-body-changes-and-weight-losing, try being just friends with her. Approach her in a way that makes you seem friendly and likeable, but don't get too over her head. It takes a lot of time to build up a friendship. You need to be able to trust each other. Although you may seem to be in a rush to just ask her and get her to say yes, you should take it slowly. One turn too fast could end your small friendship. You should take it easy, become friends, and after you've both hung out together a lot and really enjoy each other's company, go for it! Once you've already become best friends, try asking her to a dance. That gives her a hint that you like her Hope I helped!

Well Im a girl and from here to valentines day, just be ur self and talk with her like you do with anyone else you just met. Also it is a a good idea to excercise i suggest insanity, and asking someone out on valentines day is one of the most sweetest things, i was. also make sure ur good friends with her before valentines day ;P

Doesn't matter if a person is fat or not for example me and i managed to one time get a girlfriend and also you must certainly have courage if you are to ever confront this girl and say that you like her even if it means you get turned down in the end and if she only turns you down just because your fat then she's not worth it in the end also every both friendship and/or relationship encounter must turn out random somehow even if you don't want it to be and as for my tips ahem:

 

Be yourself most importantly.

 

Respect her interests if she yours.

 

Keep both calm and composed.

 

Ask her about something that she likes for a topic of discussion.

 

Plan like a date or something so that you two can go out somewhere without needing to waste time to plan it in the first place if she accepts your feelings.

 

Act like a gentleman if you both wish to be and if you can help it.

 

I think that's about it for me but yeah don't worry about your weight and while it's true that it wouldn't hurt to lose some you don't have to feel discourage about your weight unless you want to and i hope things turn out both good and right for you okay :]?

 

P.S: It would be very romantic if you got together on Valentine's day :].

Edited September 21, 201213 yr by Iamkingdomhearts1000

It's easy. Just tell her to go out with you.

I'ma girl too, so here's what's best: After you've done whatever-body-changes-and-weight-losing, try being just friends with her. Approach her in a way that makes you seem friendly and likeable, but don't get too over her head. It takes a lot of time to build up a friendship. You need to be able to trust each other. Although you may seem to be in a rush to just ask her and get her to say yes, you should take it slowly. One turn too fast could end your small friendship. You should take it easy, become friends, and after you've both hung out together a lot and really enjoy each other's company, go for it! Once you've already become best friends, try asking her to a dance. That gives her a hint that you like her Hope I helped!

 

Well thank you for that very wise comment! The problem though is that how could I be friends with her? I only see her for probably 15 seconds total every day, and we don't have any classes together. I'm incredibley shy, and I also stutter so I tend to not really talk to anynody.

Try not to ask her out right now since she doesnt know you but if you want her to know who you are just start a conversation. Find something to talk about and talk to her when you see her by the hallways. For example theres this girl i saw like 3 days ago on my way to the cafeteria, shes really cute and has amazingly beautiful purple hair so when i go up to her ill just say," wow you have really cool hair, do you mind if i walk you to your class c: ".First impression is important for everything so( and i dont mean this in a mean way at all) if your not comfortable talking to her with your current look try to change as quick as you can so when she does see you she just might fall in love c:

Try not to ask her out right now since she doesnt know you but if you want her to know who you are just start a conversation. Find something to talk about and talk to her when you see her by the hallways. For example theres this girl i saw like 3 days ago on my way to the cafeteria, shes really cute and has amazingly beautiful purple hair so when i go up to her ill just say," wow you have really cool hair, do you mind if i walk you to your class c: ".First impression is important for everything so( and i dont mean this in a mean way at all) if your not comfortable talking to her with your current look try to change as quick as you can so when she does see you she just might fall in love c:

 

Well what could I talk about? She doesn't have any crazy features such as purple hair. She's just a normal girl, but very beautiful. Do you have any ideas? I'm horrible at starting conversations

Well what could I talk about? She doesn't have any crazy features such as purple hair. She's just a normal girl, but very beautiful. Do you have any ideas? I'm horrible at starting conversations

 

Hmm thats a tough one, because its possible to sound "weird" if you says something "weird". Do you have the same lunch as her?

Edited September 21, 201213 yr by Destiny_of_a_Key_Bearer

Hmm thats a tough one, because its possible to sound "weird" if you says something "weird". Do you have the same lunch as her?

 

Yeah, we do

Well sit next to her at lunch only if shes not sittin with a big group or itll be awkward

Yeah, we do

 

Well sit next to her at lunch only if shes not sittin with a big group or itll be awkward

Well sit next to her at lunch only if shes not sittin with a big group or itll be awkwardWell sit next to her at lunch only if shes not sittin with a big group or itll be awkward

 

Well I'll have to see on Monday if she's with a big group. I know a few days ago it was just her and 2 friends, but even if someone is there with her it might be kinda awkward. I still wouldn't know what to talk about...

You would probably have a better chance if she at least knew who you were somehow. Just talk to her a little bit, don't even be flirty about it the first time just have a chat and ask her out a day or two later. This is especially important if you aren't in the best shape. If you just randomly ask her out she will be judging you almost entirely on appearance where as if she has at least talked to you for a bit she will have a general idea of how you are as person.

 

Also, you don't need a tan or even want one. Your natural color is the one that would look best on you. Tans also look ridiculous during this time of year where people in the Northern Hemisphere generally spend more time inside due to winter and all that jazz. It will look really forced.

Well I'll have to see on Monday if she's with a big group. I know a few days ago it was just her and 2 friends, but even if someone is there with her it might be kinda awkward. I still wouldn't know what to talk about...

 

Well ask he some questions to get to know her, act casual and try not to seem nervous. I get nervous too and i hate it, i feel like i cant breath so try your best to stay calm. Just ask her her name, her grade( even though you know it, just pretend you dont) and at the end when the bell rings and you need to go to class ask her what class she has next and ask its ok to walk her there

You would probably have a better chance if she at least knew who you were somehow. Just talk to her a little bit, don't even be flirty about it the first time just have a chat and ask her out a day or two later. This is especially important if you aren't in the best shape. If you just randomly ask her out she will be judging you almost entirely on appearance where as if she has at least talked to you for a bit she will have a general idea of how you are as person.

 

Also, you don't need a tan or even want one. Your natural color is the one that would look best on you. Tans also look ridiculous during this time of year where people in the Northern Hemisphere generally spend more time inside due to winter and all that jazz. It will look really forced.

 

Hmm well I gotta somehow talk to her then. I'll think of something I hope, I plan to ask her when I'm in shape so I have lots of time on what to talk about. And yeah, I guess the tan would be pretty stupid, lol. Thanks!

 

Well ask he some questions to get to know her, act casual and try not to seem nervous. I get nervous too and i hate it, i feel like i cant breath so try your best to stay calm. Just ask her her name, her grade( even though you know it, just pretend you dont) and at the end when the bell rings and you need to go to class ask her what class she has next and ask its ok to walk her there

 

Really? I wont come offas a creep if I do that? I guess I'll try it, thanks

Edited September 21, 201213 yr by Hyperion

Hmm well I gotta somehow talk to her then. I'll think of something I hope, I plan to ask her when I'm in shape so I have lots of time on whta to talk about. Thanks!

 

Well since you have the same lunch as her, a great way to start talking to her is to "coincidentally" wind up behind her in the lunch line. Then you can start chatting a bit and if it goes well you might be able to sit by her at lunch without it being completely awkward and random and chat it up even further.

 

Getting in shape isn't something that happens after a montage like it does in the movies. If this girl is rather popular (with boys and girls), flirty, and of course attractive she might be taken by the time you finish getting in shape.

Edited September 21, 201213 yr by Amon

Hmm well I gotta somehow talk to her then. I'll think of something I hope, I plan to ask her when I'm in shape so I have lots of time on what to talk about. And yeah, I guess the tan would be pretty stupid, lol. Thanks!

 

Really? I wont come offas a creep if I do that? I guess I'll try it, thanks

 

Ya just talk confident like, " hey whats up! Im hyperion. Is it alright if i sit here?"

Well since you have the same lunch as her, a great way to start talking to her is to "coincidentally" wind up behind her in the lunch line. Then you can start chatting a bit and if it goes well you might be able to sit by her at lunch without it being completely awkward and random and chat it up even further.

 

Well the thing is she gets to lunch VERY fast. I try to go as fast as I can to lunch (my room is on the opposite side of the building) so it takes awhile to get there. I would have to sneak out somehow (again my seat is opposite of the door) and go to lunch. I could try it though, if she is in the line a bit late.

 

Ya just talk confident like, " hey whats up! Im hyperion. Is it alright if i sit here?"

 

Lol, yeah I could try that.

Well the thing is she gets to lunch VERY fast. I try to go as fast as I can to lunch (my room is on the opposite side of the building) so it takes awhile to get there. I would have to sneak out somehow (again my seat is opposite of the door) and go to lunch. I could try it though, if she is in the line a bit late.

 

Lol, yeah I could try that.

 

Well i wish you luck on monday. And i still need to talk to that girl with the purple hair but i dont have the guts ._. I cant even follow my own advice oh ya and one more thing... Just remember that you only need 3 seconds of courage to go up and talk to her, after that if gets a little easier and you wont be as nervous

Well the thing is she gets to lunch VERY fast. I try to go as fast as I can to lunch (my room is on the opposite side of the building) so it takes awhile to get there. I would have to sneak out somehow (again my seat is opposite of the door) and go to lunch. I could try it though, if she is in the line a bit late.

 

If it's truly impossible to get close to her in the lunch line, just try to get to her table as early as possible. You don't want to beat her there or else her friends or even her might think you stole the table and sit somewhere else. Wait until she sits down and gets comfortable and approach the table asking if you can sit down. If she's nice she will say yes. As your sitting down say "Thanks" and come up with an excuse as to why your suddenly sitting at her table, like your friend is out sick and you couldn't find someplace to sit. You could even say something sappy like "I decided to sit here because you looked friendly". She will probably like it and it would make a good first impression.

Well i wish you luck on monday. And i still need to talk to that girl with the purple hair but i dont have the guts ._. I cant even follow my own advice oh ya and one more thing... Just remember that you only need 3 seconds of courage to go up and talk to her, after that if gets a little easier and you wont be as nervous

 

Thank you, I'll need it. And yeah I know, but it's just so hard to get even a little bit. I'll still try

 

If it's truly impossible to get close to her in the lunch line, just try to get to her table as early as possible. You don't want to beat her there or else her friends or even her might think you stole the table and sit somewhere else. Wait until she sits down and gets comfortable and approach the table asking if you can sit down. If she's nice she will say yes. As your sitting down say "Thanks" and come up with an excuse as to why your suddenly sitting at her table, like your friend is out sick and you couldn't find someplace to sit. You could even say something sappy like "I decided to sit here because you looked friendly". She will probably like it and it would make a good first impression.

 

I'll be sure to try that, thank you.

Doesn't matter if a person is fat or not for example me and i managed to one time get a girlfriend and also you must certainly have courage if you are to ever confront this girl and say that you like her even if it means you get turned down in the end and if she only turns you down just because your fat then she's not worth it in the end also every both friendship and/or relationship encounter must turn out random somehow even if you don't want it to be and as for my tips ahem:

 

Be yourself most importantly.

 

Respect her interests if she yours.

 

Keep both calm and composed.

 

Ask her about something that she likes for a topic of discussion.

 

Plan like a date or something so that you two can go out somewhere without needing to waste time to plan it in the first place if she accepts your feelings.

 

Act like a gentleman if you both wish to be and if you can help it.

 

I think that's about it for me but yeah don't worry about your weight and while it's true that it wouldn't hurt to lose some you don't have to feel discourage about your weight unless you want to and i hope things turn out both good and right for you okay :]?

 

P.S: It would be very romantic if you got together on Valentine's day :].

 

WoW thats better than my advice.........................=.= are you french?