So I turned 18 on September 30th of this year. This means my parents would no longer get the social security checks for me that they'd been getting. somehow they got it extended to June, but the company is sending the checks to me in my name since I'm 18 and legally an adult. My parents have flat out told me that I am to sign over my check to them every month. I don't really have a problem with this since I

1) don't consider 18 to be adulthood, it should be more like 25 or something...

and

2) have known for years that my family is so low on money that we border poverty, yet my parents have always striven to get me anything I want when I want it.(Seriously, Christmas when I believed in Santa was like 30 presents each for me and my older brother...insanity)

 

I just can't help but think at times that I should be allowed to keep the money, give me a chance to practice true money management. It would also help me buy the truck I've always wanted. I comply with my parents because of all they've done for me, but can't help thinking it's unfair in ways. Any opinions guys?

I'm sefish at times but u could just keep one fourth of it?

I don't think social security is constitutional anyway but that's just me.

 

If you want a truck, get a job.

I'd advise some sort of equivalent exchange, if you can't get a job for whatever reason do stuff around the house with the agreement it means you get some portion of your money.

well it's YOUR money buy the truck

Well, it sounds like you are living in their house. I'd also say get a job if you want stuff.

I don't think social security is constitutional anyway but that's just me.

 

If you want a truck, get a job.

 

I'd advise some sort of equivalent exchange, if you can't get a job for whatever reason do stuff around the house with the agreement it means you get some portion of your money.

 

I already do basically everything around the house, mow both lawns once a week, wash the dishes every day, clean my room once a month, take out my own grabage and recycling, do my own laundry and theirs. And my brother bummed it through high school so they said I don't have to get a job, plus between being in chorus, normal school hours, and working on Stage Crew I'm at school for a good 11-12 hours a day, so I don't have time for a job, plus homework and the house chores on weekends. I just don't have the time to get a job...

I don't think it's really unfair, they are your parents and have done everything for you and raised you and fed you, so now it is time to make up for it and let them have the money, but if you feel it is unfair then get a job if you are able too and get your own money and don't try to depend on SS checks. I would gladly help out my parents and give them all my money for just raising me and how they put forth all that money for me, but that is just my opinion.

I don't think it's really unfair, they are your parents and have done everything for you and raised you and fed you, so now it is time to make up for it and let them have the money, but if you feel it is unfair then get a job if you are able too and get your own money and don't try to depend on SS checks. I would gladly help out my parents and give them all my money for just raising me and how they put forth all that money for me, but that is just my opinion.

 

Like I said I'm glad to be able to help out, but...it's kinda like in Persona, my Shadow is expressing my deepest thoughts from my subconscious, except that I'm aware of them...

I already do basically everything around the house, mow both lawns once a week, wash the dishes every day, clean my room once a month, take out my own grabage and recycling, do my own laundry and theirs. And my brother bummed it through high school so they said I don't have to get a job, plus between being in chorus, normal school hours, and working on Stage Crew I'm at school for a good 11-12 hours a day, so I don't have time for a job, plus homework and the house chores on weekends. I just don't have the time to get a job...

 

Well I can understand that, but if your still living at home and your parents are strapped for cash, then just because your 18 doesn't entitle you to extra money.

I already do basically everything around the house, mow both lawns once a week, wash the dishes every day, clean my room once a month, take out my own grabage and recycling, do my own laundry and theirs. And my brother bummed it through high school so they said I don't have to get a job, plus between being in chorus, normal school hours, and working on Stage Crew I'm at school for a good 11-12 hours a day, so I don't have time for a job, plus homework and the house chores on weekends. I just don't have the time to get a job...

 

Like I said I'm glad to be able to help out, but...it's kinda like in Persona, my Shadow is expressing my deepest thoughts from my subconscious, except that I'm aware of them...

 

I can understand that you want some level of independence, it's pretty natural.

I would suggest still trying to come up with some sort of agreement, a chore-money equivalency. Perhaps you could agree to some sort of rent, which can be paid in chores and/or money. Then you can either free up time to get even a part-time job, or keep up your housework and have more of the money.