Alright, so, way before I came on KH13, I had another group of online friends I met. I still talk with a lot of them to this day, and they've become some of the people who I trust the most, along with being some of my greatest friends. Anyway, a while back, one friend (Friend A) told me that another (one of the ones I trusted the most, and one of my best friends, Friend B)) had said some jerkish things about me to him. When I asked Friend B about it, he confirmed it by just asking if Friend A remembered to add in another bit. Of course, this really hurt a lot. One of my best friends talking about me behind my back was bad enough, and that's always been one of my fears. Now, Friend B's apparently been bringing me up a lot recently to Friend A. I think this might be his way of trying to apologize or something like that, but he might not be able to straight out apologize himself. I'd really like to start the friendship again, but I'm not sure that I can trust him. As a result, I'm not really sure what I should do. So, what would you guys do in my situation?

Keep calm and dodge.

 

No, seriously, this sounds like a real pickle. What you should do is just clear up all the drama with your two friends. Get them together, sit down, and talk it out. After all, if you're all supposedly still friends even now, I'm sure there's a way to find some common solution within the group. Plus, you shouldn't let things like that weigh on your mind. The past is the past; everything can be mended over time.

Keep calm and dodge.

 

No, seriously, this sounds like a real pickle. What you should do is just clear up all the drama with your two friends. Get them together, sit down, and talk it out. After all, if you're all supposedly still friends even now, I'm sure there's a way to find some common solution within the group. Plus, you shouldn't let things like that weigh on your mind. The past is the past; everything can be mended over time.

*Dodges*

I haven't really had much of a problem with A, just B. I actually blocked him, but as I said, I'd like to get the friendship going again.  I'd actually gotten over it until just recently, now that he's been bringing me up again to friend A. I'm leaning towards doing what you suggested, I'm just trying to find out how I'll do it...

*Dodges*

I haven't really had much of a problem with A, just B. I actually blocked him, but as I said, I'd like to get the friendship going again.  I'd actually gotten over it until just recently, now that he's been bringing me up again to friend A. I'm leaning towards doing what you suggested, I'm just trying to find out how I'll do it...

 

Well, unblock him, tell him how you feel, and you'll get it all straightened out from there. Again, if you really are friends, I'm sure they'll be a happy ending to this whole thing.

Well, unblock him, tell him how you feel, and you'll get it all straightened out from there. Again, if you really are friends, I'm sure they'll be a happy ending to this whole thing.

Heh, you're right. It might take a while to figure out how to message him (Steam really needs to add a message system for people who aren't friends...), but I think I'll try that. Thanks, sensei!

I wish you the best of luck.

I've actually been through something like this a few months ago. One online friend had a problem with me and another went behind my back saying lies and shit and because of that the situation got worse and everything blew up, yadda yadda yadda. My advice is, and I'm speaking from experience, at the moment, do you like this person enough to stay friends with them? Do you love them enough? Is the relationship healthy for you? Because if it's toxic, the best thing to do is let go because you'll feel a hell of a lot better after that.

I've actually been through something like this a few months ago. One online friend had a problem with me and another went behind my back saying lies and shit and because of that the situation got worse and everything blew up, yadda yadda yadda. My advice is, and I'm speaking from experience, at the moment, do you like this person enough to stay friends with them? Do you love them enough? Is the relationship healthy for you? Because if it's toxic, the best thing to do is let go because you'll feel a hell of a lot better after that.

Like I said before, this person was one of my best friends, and I'd still really like to fix the friendship between us. I've had past friends who I didn't think were worth the effort, like you said, and this friend isn't really like that. I think I'll just suck it up and try to fix things. After all, I probably overreacted, I tend to do that a lot without realizing it... Heh...

 

I wish you the best of luck.

Heh, thanks!

That kind of situation is really horrible, if you were friends with them for that long and they still felt like they could talk slyly behind your back i think rebuilding a relationship like that again would be like walking in circles and it could easily happen again, people dont change that easily.

 

i think you should build your friendship on a base foundation but dont be a fool and give them your trust only for them to use it as a weapon to hurt you. keep it at arms lenght and don't give them a chance too hurt you again, thats my advice.

 

i myself have plenty of friends i believe i can trust but if they ever turned against me or i found out they were talking behind my back it would be near impossible to get the relationship back to the way it was people like that shouldnt be given that second chance.