I was feeling bad for 2 weeks about this. Usually I used to hang with guys (the reason I became more of a tomboy) because they wanted me to sit with them, and I was like "sure". This all happened in 6th grade. I fell in love blah blah then was love confused in 7th grade and eventually got over it in 8th grade. I help them buy giving they money, when they needed it, and give them food, when they needed it. I felt happy helping out people and when people smile back.

 

Now this is the worst part. In the first part of 8th grade, I was happy to be back to school. But now all of my friends started turning into total dicks and using me for money and food and I just felt bad. The guy that I like hurted me emotionally and I got over him. Nearly everyone of my guy-friends got so annoying and irritating. Sometimes I get hungry (I cant eat school food because I need to pay) and they dont even give two shits and they just take all my food and eat it leaving me starving. I tried to hold all my anger which worked. Now around January I left them for real friends this time, so I went to the girls table. I got happier but now what gets even worse is that they start getting pissed. In the middle of the hallways they start hitting me, or even pushing me. They call me a slut, (people used to call me that when I hanged with them and now they are using it against me) (I am not a slut) bitch and a lot more things. They just come up to me and do these stuff and talk shit behind my back. I now see it clear they just were using me the whole time, and my new friends know its troubling me but dont know if its true since I hide it. I just get too sad and mad and I feel I am just going punch one in the face one day, and I dont want that to even happen. Also they write over everything and just spread rumors and gossip a lot. Also I have been through a lot of crap worse than this and it just doesn't help at all for me to become happier. I just want to have a smile again. They also say no one likes me as a friend and everyone uses me. Which makes me think its true, and makes me just feel so sad.

 

I just wanted to know, am I wrong for leaving them? Or was it better if I just stayed with them till the end of Highschool? I dont know what to do, and I just feel too sad.

 

PS: I feel stupid after all those choices of being too friendly and nice too people.

 

Also:

First of all, I'm not going to hug you. I'm going to smother you.

 

What on Earth could make you think you were wrong for leaving them? I'm going to stress this as the most important part. You have to tell somebody. A teacher, a guidance counselor and your parents. Tell all of them. I'm not going to stop bothering you until you do this. And Koko's right. You have to stop being so nice. At this point, you need to ignore them or be frank. Whenever they approach you, you need to act like they aren't getting to you. But if they do get physical, you need to be completely honest with them and tell them how you no longer want any part of their crap. If they start insult you again, you need to snap right back. Don't insult them or make a big show out of it but you can't leave yourself completely defenseless. This is how they'll know they're affecting you. Above all, tell, tell, tell an adult.

 

 

What on Earth could make you think you were wrong for leaving them?

I dont know ;A;

 

 

You have to tell somebody. A teacher, a guidance counselor and your parents. Tell all of them. I'm not going to stop bothering you until you do this.

 

I will tell my brother and my new friends. Possibly my mom if she gets better with her own problems.

 

 

And Koko's right. You have to stop being so nice. At this point, you need to ignore them or be frank. Whenever they approach you, you need to act like they aren't getting to you. But if they do get physical, you need to be completely honest with them and tell them how you no longer want any part of their crap. If they start insult you again, you need to snap right back. Don't insult them or make a big show out of it but you can't leave yourself completely defenseless. This is how they'll know they're affecting you. Above all, tell, tell, tell an adult.

 

Ill stop being so nice. I try to ignore them they just find a way to get to me.

I act like they dont get to me either, but I think they know I am feeling bad.

Im going to tell them that when someone (reasonable) approaches me so they can spread the word to their ongoing ranting club.

There are so many things I can say, but at the same time I cant. They dont understand anything, anything at all! They just like those stuck up brats who dont care and will hunt you down to the ends of the earths till they get the things they want.

Thanks Apprenty, and smothering is alright.

 

Now to the whole entire people who posted:

 

Thanks for posting and helping me out, I never knew people would actually care.

 

A little more I should add:

 

For 2 years, I have been those type of people who care for others more than your self. I could not care less about my self if it made others happy. Now this year made it show that it was all pointless. This is probably the worst year I have been through, and elementary was hell. But it changed me into thinking and possibly was great too. It showed my true friends, which was great. I was more open and got better grades than last year. But still sucked this year.

 

I really enjoy the people on this site, because I feel I can be more open here than outside of this site. Ill try to get more open, and also cut this pointless nonsense out. Ill tell my brother when he gets home, also to my new friends as well. My friends will do something, as always. I just hope I dont make the situation worse.

 

Thank you very much. :')

Shana.

Shana never change who you are to make others happy.Your friendship is a gift and if someone doesnt deserve it dont give it away ..Also the only true way to get rid of bullies and users is to stand up for yourself and draw boundaries. If you dont, people will try to see how much they can get away with .Put your foot down and let them know its not ok and you wont put up with it .

Shana never change who you are to make others happy.Your friendship is a gift and if someone doesnt deserve it dont give it away ..Also the only true way to get rid of bullies and users is to stand up for yourself and draw boundaries. If you dont, people will try to see how much they can get away with .Put your foot down and let them know its not ok and you wont put up with it .

 

Drawing boundaries...hmm never tried that. Ill see about that.

 

Well my brother is home, so Ill tell him alone when he isn't busy.

Drawing boundaries...hmm never tried that. Ill see about that.

 

Well my brother is home, so Ill tell him alone when he isn't busy.

 

It works trust me..Bullies are just cowards who deep down loathe themselves and bully others to make themselves feel better about their own pathetic existence. You would be soo surprised to see how easy they back down when confronted and called out . Hope this helps...

Ill try, but only on the right time, my mom has a lot of problems and started to cry even by this minute. Ill tell her when she calms down and gets a little better. My dad isn't here.

 

I know I'm going to sound like a bitch. But if you wait for her to calm down. It going to be a long time. I say tell her now before she gets worse.

I know I'm going to sound like a bitch. But if you wait for her to calm down. It going to be a long time. I say tell her now before she gets worse.

 

Ill tell my brother instead, he helps resolve more things.

Giving my mom more trouble is worse. I think my brother is the best way through.

You dont sound like a bitch at all.

I'm gonna be as blunt as possible:

Stop being too nice.

I learned this the hard way. I went through a similar thing and the only way I got it to stop is that I didn't take shit from anyone anymore.

It's hard but you just need to stand your ground and tell them to stop their shit.

Best advice I can give.

 

I completely agree.

 

What you need to do is to join a club or something. My best friend now (a girl, and I'm a guy) have been in the same club for years and I only recently noticed her. Now we're really close. Try to find people similar to you. If that means joining the lacrosse team to meet athletic girls, joining a school play to meet talented kids, or learning an instrument to meet somewhat dorky kids (my type of people ) do it! Assess what you're good at, and join something. Friends will follow.

 

Don't try to push yourself into being friends with the girls, and those guys were users. Neither group matches you, but there's always a gray area in between. Not everyone's a snob or a jerk.

I completely agree.

 

What you need to do is to join a club or something. My best friend now (a girl, and I'm a guy) have been in the same club for years and I only recently noticed her. Now we're really close. Try to find people similar to you. If that means joining the lacrosse team to meet athletic girls, joining a school play to meet talented kids, or learning an instrument to meet somewhat dorky kids (my type of people ) do it! Assess what you're good at, and join something. Friends will follow.

 

Don't try to push yourself into being friends with the girls, and those guys were users. Neither group matches you, but there's always a gray area in between. Not everyone's a snob or a jerk.

 

The girls (my new friends) are good. They never used me or mad fun of me. We tease each other, but we dont bully. And I am much closer to them than the my other "friends".