I'm planning on asking out a girl that I've really liked for a long time. I determined that the most difficult part will be getting her alone long enough for me to ask her out. I've narrowed it down to 5 options and I would like your opinions on which would be most successful. I also need to ask her out this week. I determined that waiting any longer would result in permanent friendzone. I know what to say to her when I ask her out, this thread is strictly on how to get her and me alone.
Option A The Direct Method: Tell her I'd like to talk to her alone via facebook chat/phone this weekend. I only see her once a day in school, during lunch (she sits at my table) so telling her that I'd like to talk to her alone in person would be difficult. Upon confirming a moment where the two of us could be alone and in person, I shall let out my feelings and ask her out.
Pros:
- Most direct way of getting her alone
- My friends and her friends won't know of plans, reducing the chance of interference.
- After careful consideration I feel this is my best option. (I still want opinions)
Cons:
- Might intimidate her
- Will arouse suspicious (could be good or bad)
Option B Interception: She goes to some activities after school, two of which I am in. The plan here is to intercept her after school while she is en route to one of her activities, then pull her aside to a quiet spot and ask her out.
Pros:
- Could be effective in getting her alone
- Won't make her confused/suspcious for a long period of time
Cons:
- She might feel rushed to get where she needs to go and might not be able to go with me or give a hasty and dishonest answer
- Very tricky, I have to predict her movements accurately and reach her before she enters the activity or else the plan is a bust
Option CLunch Time: Get to lunch earlier than her, then pull her aside before she enters the lunch line and ask her out somewhere
Pros: See option B
Cons:
- Will almost certainly be with a friend, getting her alone will be difficult without informing friend beforehand, which can't happen.
- Not many private places around the cafeterias, would have to bring her somewhere far to ask her out, which could be awkward
Option D NUCLEAR OPTION: Just ask her out in front of everyone at lunch.
Pros: At least I get to ask her out.
Cons:
- Friends and surroundings may influence her decision
- Extremely awkward for both of us
Option E Coward's way out: Ask her out on the phone or on facebook.
Pros: At least I get to ask her out and we are alone
I'm planning on asking out a girl that I've really liked for a long time. I determined that the most difficult part will be getting her alone long enough for me to ask her out. I've narrowed it down to 5 options and I would like your opinions on which would be most successful. I also need to ask her out this week. I determined that waiting any longer would result in permanent friendzone. I know what to say to her when I ask her out, this thread is strictly on how to get her and me alone.
Option A The Direct Method: Tell her I'd like to talk to her alone via facebook chat/phone this weekend. I only see her once a day in school, during lunch (she sits at my table) so telling her that I'd like to talk to her alone in person would be difficult. Upon confirming a moment where the two of us could be alone and in person, I shall let out my feelings and ask her out.
Pros:
- Most direct way of getting her alone
- My friends and her friends won't know of plans, reducing the chance of interference.
- After careful consideration I feel this is my best option. (I still want opinions)
Cons:
- Might intimidate her
- Will arouse suspicious (could be good or bad)
Option B Interception: She goes to some activities after school, two of which I am in. The plan here is to intercept her after school while she is en route to one of her activities, then pull her aside to a quiet spot and ask her out.
Pros:
- Could be effective in getting her alone
- Won't make her confused/suspcious for a long period of time
Cons:
- She might feel rushed to get where she needs to go and might not be able to go with me or give a hasty and dishonest answer
- Very tricky, I have to predict her movements accurately and reach her before she enters the activity or else the plan is a bust
Option C Lunch Time: Get to lunch earlier than her, then pull her aside before she enters the lunch line and ask her out somewhere
Pros: See option B
Cons:
- Will almost certainly be with a friend, getting her alone will be difficult without informing friend beforehand, which can't happen.
- Not many private places around the cafeterias, would have to bring her somewhere far to ask her out, which could be awkward
Option D NUCLEAR OPTION: Just ask her out in front of everyone at lunch.
Pros: At least I get to ask her out.
Cons:
- Friends and surroundings may influence her decision
- Extremely awkward for both of us
Option E Coward's way out: Ask her out on the phone or on facebook.
Pros: At least I get to ask her out and we are alone
Cons:
- Seems cowardly
- Seems insensitive
- No real human interaction
- Lowest chance of success
- Worst possible option.