So, I'm currently in love, but I don't know if I really am. I'm 14 damnit, and it might be my hormones messing with me. I don't want him to break my heart, like I've seen millions of times everywhere, even to my friend. And I don't want him to use me as a toy either... So I don't know. What in the name of jashin should I do???

I'm 14 damnit, 

 

You're not in love. You are certainly at an age where you can feel love and express it, but not in a romantic sense. 

 

It has always been my personal belief that if you have to wonder whether or not you are in love, then you aren't in love. Same goes for wondering if someone loves you. 

 

If you love someone you will certainly know it and feel it, and it's the best feeling in the world. 

Edited June 28, 201312 yr by Amon

You're not in love. You are certainly at an age where you can feel love and express it, but not in a romantic sense. 

 

Hm... True.

You're not in love. You are certainly at an age where you can feel love and express it, but not in a romantic sense. 

 

It has always been my personal belief that if you have to wonder whether or not you are in love, then you aren't in love. Same goes for wondering if someone loves you. 

 

If you love someone you will certainly know it and feel it, and it's the best feeling in the world. 

 

.......Okay. Thanks for the advice, Fred. ;3

I hope you figure this out for yourself. And I'm sure whoever this guy is, he can understand how you feel.

I hope you figure this out for yourself. And I'm sure whoever this guy is, he can understand how you feel.

 

....Yeah..

I'd offer my opinion, but I'm too sleepy to think straight. 

So, I'm currently in love, but I don't know if I really am. I'm 14 damnit, and it might be my hormones messing with me. I don't want him to break my heart, like I've seen millions of times everywhere, even to my friend. And I don't want him to use me as a toy either... So I don't know. What in the name of jashin should I do???

 

 

 

 

If you're 14, probably you're not in love.

 

Could be your hormones messing with you, like you said

Hmm, I may be stupid but actually I don't see why a 14-year-old could not be in love. Sure at that age it wouldn't be exactly the same as when you're older and you would express it on a different way, but still. Why not? I've thought myself that love is something that's different depending on a person who feels it, just like friendship means different things to different people. But I've never been in love myself and I definitely don't understand the feeling at all, so yeah

 

Of course it can happen that you think you're in love but realize later that you actually weren't, if you get to understand what it really means. But I also think a person him or herself is the only one who's able to know if he or she is in love or not, 'cause no one can feel other people's feelings.

It's just something everyone goes through as they grow older and being more aware of their surroundings. It's a sign of you maturing so don't worry about it.

It's just something everyone goes through as they grow older and being more aware of their surroundings. It's a sign of you maturing so don't worry about it.

 

..... -_- Just... Because I'm 14, doesn't mean I need a speech that would be used for a dumb kid.

Edited June 30, 201312 yr by TJwolf123

Chances are you just merely have a crush. You'll soon find out one day what love truly mean.

..... -_- Just... Because I'm 14, doesn't mean I need a speech that would be used for a awesome kid.

 

Doesn't sound like it though. =/

Doesn't sound like it though. =/

 

Stupid spelling change. I meant dumb kid. >_>

Stupid spelling change. I meant dumb kid. >_>

 

Ah alright.

 

Anyways, just ignore my post. I give shitty advices all the time. Sorry about that.

Ok, now I can think straight. So uh... here's my opinion.

When it comes to love, age is but a number (technical pedophilia and statutory rape aside), however there is some truth regarding biology and the "raging hormones" that typically define the average teenager. If you're jumping from "loving" one person one week then obsessing over another the next week, it's definitely not love. If you're been sticking with one person over the course of a year or more, then it's a good indicator of it.

 

Which brings me to the step. Depending on if you've interacted with this person, your actions and feelings about them can give away your true feelings about said person. If you're mainly attracted to their looks (but seriously, who isn't nowadays...) and nothing else, it's probably lust. If you've interacted with them and like every aspect of them from their personality to their charming giggle to some of the weird stuff that they're into or do, well then that's another indicator of love. What happens during the "boring" times when you're together will also be a good indicator. If one starts texting and not actively engage in conversation/appreciating each other's company, then that's a bad sign for example.

 

If you haven't interacted with them but think about them constantly, just letting you know that there is a VERY blurry line between possible love and borderline if not outright obsession. I have yet to find this line, but I'll let you know once I find the parameters to safely draw that line. I had a crush on a girl for over 6 years and I couldn't confess my feelings for her, which I regret to this very day. However, after questioning my thoughts, I can't help but think that this might not be love afterall but obsession, but I can't tell for certain. Still searching for that line.

 

All in all, if you think you're in love, then by all means follow your heart. But be warned; if they rush it, that alone is a warning sign. True love takes time to build, and it takes more than gifts to make it happen. See how they treat you around their friends, there are subtle hints and non-verbal messages that the person of interest will give that you can use to better assess their feeling about you. Key words are also a factor to determine their attitude about the relationship.

 

Remember this though: 

This opinion is coming from a guy that has NEVER dated a girl, but had a crush.

In an effort to understand the concept of love and to feel it to a certain extent, I have buried myself in textbooks and psychology books to try to understand this, to absolutely no avail. Some progress, but not much.

 

This is as generic as I can possibly get since there aren't any specifics in this situation. Hope that helps!

Javelin, Out!

 

http://youtu.be/K5G1FmU-ldg&autoplay=1

Edited June 30, 201312 yr by Javelin434

Ok, now I can think straight. So uh... here's my opinion.

 

When it comes to love, age is but a number (technical pedophilia and statutory rape aside), however there is some truth regarding biology and the "raging hormones" that typically define the average teenager. If you're jumping from "loving" one person one week then obsessing over another the next week, it's definitely not love. If you're been sticking with one person over the course of a year or more, then it's a good indicator of it.

 

Which brings me to the step. Depending on if you've interacted with this person, your actions and feelings about them can give away your true feelings about said person. If you're mainly attracted to their looks (but seriously, who isn't nowadays...) and nothing else, it's probably lust. If you've interacted with them and like every aspect of them from their personality to their charming giggle to some of the weird stuff that they're into or do, well then that's another indicator of love. What happens during the "boring" times when you're together will also be a good indicator. If one starts texting and not actively engage in conversation/appreciating each other's company, then that's a bad sign for example.

 

If you haven't interacted with them but think about them constantly, just letting you know that there is a VERY blurry line between possible love and borderline if not outright obsession. I have yet to find this line, but I'll let you know once I find the parameters to safely draw that line. I had a crush on a girl for over 6 years and I couldn't confess my feelings for her, which I regret to this very day. However, after questioning my thoughts, I can't help but think that this might not be love afterall but obsession, but I can't tell for certain. Still searching for that line.

 

All in all, if you think you're in love, then by all means follow your heart. But be warned; if they rush it, that alone is a warning sign. True love takes time to build, and it takes more than gifts to make it happen. See how they treat you around their friends, there are subtle hints and non-verbal messages that the person of interest will give that you can use to better assess their feeling about you. Key words are also a factor to determine their attitude about the relationship.

 

Remember this though: 

This opinion is coming from a guy that has NEVER dated a girl, but had a crush.

In an effort to understand the concept of love and to feel it to a certain extent, I have buried myself in textbooks and psychology books to try to understand this, to absolutely no avail. Some progress, but not much.

 

This is as generic as I can possibly get since there aren't any specifics in this situation. Hope that helps!

Javelin, Out!

 

http://youtu.be/K5G1FmU-ldg&autoplay=1

 

Thanks Javey! ^_^