So my prom is less than a month away, and i dont have a date . Randomly, a girl that has been my friend for 6 years messaged me on Facebook and asked me "Who are you taking to prom!" and i responded with "I dont know yet, I havent thought about it." Then she went on to say, " Well if you dont have anyone to go with, ill take you as a friend " And of course i freaked out in my mind 'cause this girl i liked since i met her and she wants to go to prom with me . But i realized that she had a boyfriend. I remembered that she told me a few weeks ago that she was breaking up with with him before graduation,so i brang it up. "How about your boyfriend? Are you still breaking up with him?" She replied, "I dont know, hes traveling for 2 months, we might take a break or w.e till he comes back." I was kinda sad kinda not 'cause i knew that it was too good to be true that she would be single for prom and i would make a move but.. Anyways, After ALL that i went to thinking, if they did break up would that be good news for me? or VERY awkward for between us ? I need your help with this 'cause i dont want random shit in my head when we are dancing at prom, That would be awks for me

dude, i admire how your worrying about this. (i also envy you becouse you have a prom [my school doesent hold proms [and im mad about that]]) i admire how you have feelings for someone. (ive never had someone who i really really liked) all the advice that i can give is what i would do (keep in mind that im not sure that this is even a good idea. im just sharing what i would do) i would tell her that ive liked her ever scince i met her and would do what ever she deems right in this situation becouse i dont know what to do. again, i not sure if this is a good idea. this might bite you in the back for all i know. im simply sharing what i would do.

Sounds a bit like she is leading you on, in my opinion. You need to respect that she is currently in a relationship and HAS a boyfriend; this might cause some conflict and trouble between you 3 if you take her to prom. That would not be good. Honestly, I would sit this one out and not take her offer. She has a boyfriend, and that would look bad on your part and also rumors may start and just a whole mess will be going on then. Be respectful, and hell, go alone if you have to. I went alone to my senior prom and had a blast and danced with different people or joined a group dance. Don't feel like you HAVE to be pressured to have a date. Sometimes it is best to go solo. If you do respect that she has a boyfriend, then say something like, "Look, I know you have a boyfriend and I respect you two, and it would not be fair to him if I take you and I don't want to cause any tension between me, you, and him. I just want to respect the relationship you are in and I hope you two will work out the problems you have and come to a decision of what you two want to do." This will make you look like the mature one and it would make you a real gentlemen; but, I can only say this and tell you what I think is right for you to do in your situation; the rest is up to you on what you decide. Coming from a girl's perspective, I'd like the guy friend to step in and respect the boundaries that are there.

Well, what Granas said is right, you need to respect your lady friend's situation.  It would be incredibly messy if you took her to prom and her boyfriend appeared all of a sudden, so as she suggested, step it out and at least be happy that she thought of you.  I can tell you from personal experience, you don't need a date to enjoy prom, because I experienced my high school prom solo, and I enjoyed every bit of it.  I laughed with my friends, shared emotional moments, and we danced like crazy monkeys! My point is that you don't have to have a date to go to prom, your going there to have a good time!  But if it turns out that your lady friend and her boyfriend are already broken up, then by all means dig in and take her to the dance!  In the end though, respect comes first, so keep that in mind. ^^

It would be kinda awkward . I'd recommend "quiting" and searching for someone else to go to prom with ya .But that's just your choice .

From my ill informed perspective, I see there is an option you might not be seeing. She might really want to go to the prom. (with someone) And she would rather ask a friend than ask someone at school. Remember the fact that her boyfriend is traveling and probably won't be at the prom.Though if you accept her request this can put you in a sticky situation. Since a prom IS a public event, people are bound to see you two together and couple you. This is not usually a problem. But think about this, if she is actually planning on breaking up with her boyfriend soon. Her boyfriend might not know. Then he could think you have been making moves on her while he has been traveling, which led to her breaking up with him. This thought could earn you his hate, and would be hard to disprove.

 

So from my perspective I find simply don't know her motive, I can just guess it. Though since I don't know her current boyfriend's knowledge level, it is pretty easy to speculate that going might earn you his hate. And on the other end if she is interested in you, this could be a place for you two to go.But I personally don't like the situation she put you in, by coyly asking you to go to the prom with her.Edit: I do like what Granas suggested for if you respect she still technically has a boyfriend. Because the only downside to that is you can't go to the prom with her. While even if both of you are graduating from highschool soon, it is best not to make rummours can start up.

 

Edit 2: My post looks rather coldhearted. Anyways, what I personally would do is listen to Granas's advice. And if I missed out on something because of that, oh well. At least I acted in a way I can be happy with. Think about it this way. If you were dating her, where traveling around for a couple months and had to miss the prom. Would you want her to go with someone else, if she didn't at least talk to you about it?Again I don't know how much he and she communicated. But if it wasn't a lot... I would just feel sorry for the guy. And I wouldn't want to enjoy the prom because of that, even if I did chose to go.

Edited May 8, 201411 yr by Tigerruss