Ok guys i need an outside perspective. Ok so theres this girl i been seeing off and on for 4 years. We have had some rough patches

here and there. We fight take some space but then we go back like nothing happened. I can have a bit of a temper the thing i can't wrap my head around it she keeps coming back to me and i don't understand why. So what do you guys think? Should i stick with this girl? She always comes back to me no matter what i do. I just dont know

Me and my wife had an on off relationship for 7 years. Then we stopped being teens and figured life out. Now we are happily married. And its been so amazing. It just takes some internal self character building before you feel like you know for sure what you really want in life. In the end thou I cant answer this question. Only you can. But you really have to give it some thought.

Yea i know that. I have wanted this to work for years i am still trying to figure things out myself. I may be 23 but some things um still learning

Yea i know that. I have wanted this to work for years i am still trying to figure things out myself. I may be 23 but some things um still learning

Give it time. It's okay. If she keeps coming back to you it likely means that she wants to make things work. That she is willing to deal with you despite your flaws. So, give it time, talk to one another and try to sort out each problem you two have. Like EMIYA said, this is a question that can only be answered by you.

Depends on what you mean by temper.

If it's just silly fights? That's natural friend. I'd recommend trying to talk your insecurities with her and I'm certain you'll work it out. 

If you don't trust your own temper: take a bit of a breather, if you think you are in any way a danger to this girl then it's probably best to end it.

As the others said, for the most part you'll have to use your own judgement. I wish you the best of luck.

Thanks guys ill give it time. Im not a danger to her i just get mad easy sometimes. But im getting better at controlling myself. I thank you for your responses

Well, every relationship works differently, so I really can't say how you should handle this.  I would say do what your heart tells you, but you also need to know that you can't live a life of an on and off relationship, ya know?  You two need to sit down and talk things over and get your priorities straight, ya know?  Let each other know what you want from each other, and get to some middle ground where you two can be able to get through the rough patches and make things work out for the better, ya know? Good luck and God bless!

I think it really depends on how close the two of you are and how your relationship is as a whole.  Do you both have a strong bond and are willing to work throughout complications, or are there very strong clashes that will take a lot to work through?  I think every relationship has its bumps and ups and downs.  Everyone is different and our opinions won't always align with each other.  Communication is *very* important in a relationship, and I think it might be a really good idea if the two of you have a heart-to-heart discussion on how to work through such problems so that they don't cause separations periodically.  It certainly isn't healthy if the fights are getting to the point of break-ups, but if you two are very close and deeply care for one another I'm sure you can work things out.  As most others have mentioned, only you and your girlfriend can determine if you are a good fit for each other.  I wish you the best!