So, I have now reached a new low.

 

 I don't get out much, and when I do, it's because my mom wants me to mow a lawn. And when I try to make plans with people, something happens to screw it up.  So, I was happy when got to make plans to at least partly continue our May Friday Night at the Movies tradition.  And then on Sunday I had this conversation (see attached images).

 

 

 

Please give my friend a break because she's been dealing with anxiety/finals/all this other stuff, but now I've been put in an impossible situation. I've looked at my options. They are:

 

a) go with a group in which half the people I don't even know

b) make it a double date – which would either consist of me bringing a guy that isn't a date or me getting set up with someone making my first real date be with a total stranger

c) be the third wheal

d) don't see the movie

e) go by myself

f) make my mom go with me, which, like the last option, wouldn't be that bad if the theater wasn't filled people my age hanging out with their friends - nothing like that to make you feel like a loser

or

g) going with the one person I know who wants to see it, but probably hasn’t yet. Too bad she lives in a place I can't easily get to. Seven options, and I end up losing in every single one. Wow, when did my life get to that point?

 

First the whole sleepover with unreasonable conditions thing, then the guinea pig and now this.  I'm about ready to pull my hair out.  It's like people forgot how to be social.  Either that or they just don't want me around.  I'm beginning to think it's the latter.

Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear about this, Joan!  It's messed up how you had already made plans, and they all changed up at the last minute!  That's very messed up in my opinion!  If your friend considered your feelings, she would've let you go with her and her boyfriend!  But it seems as though she doesn't think that way!

 

It seems that your life comes upon constant difficulties, ya know?  But don't let that get you down!  You have to keep pushing forward, and if life punches you, punch back and don't stay down, ya know?  You have the right to be happy, so go out there and search for your happiness in whatever you do, and don't let anyone bring you down!

I would just think long and hard and make a decision based on the one that has the best pros and least cons.

This is just me, but considering your situation I'd say the Go By Myself option isn't a bad choice. I'm pretty unconventional in that I can treat going to the movies as a solo event. You pay more attention to the movie than each other anyway, and sometimes the movie I want to see isn't something that interests anyone else so I don't want to drag them to anything they don't want to see. So no, I don't consider going to the movies by yourself weird or doing yourself a disservice.

 

Admittedly I've probably gotten too comfortable with my own company, but I think there is a virtue in being able to go at it alone for entertainment. I can go do stuff outside and go places by myself, with the bonus of being able to experience it at my own pace. _{A handy justification for those of who are far from social butterflies.} Still, if you made plans and your friend bailed on you on short notice, yeah, that's kind of rude. I'm a stickler for plans and punctuality so if I or someone else makes a commitment, I expect to stick with it. On the other hand, life happens and other things come up, which is why it's nice to be able to make your own fun in case plans get derailed. If it bothers you that much, you could always talk to your friend about how much this bothers you. You could also see what you can do with the friend who lives further away. If you have trouble getting over there, is there any way she or someone else you/she knows can drive you there? Or find another theater to go to if one exists that's closer to both of you, and it's feasible to get to?

I wouldn't watch the film. You had a plan, it's screwed up, and you don't have an alternative plan, I wouldn't go and that's all, or if you really want to watch it go by yourself, as Dracozombie said. However, if you feel socialy confident then I would go with that other group where you don't really know half of the people, you could take the oportunity to get to meet new people, and who knows! Maybe they're reliable and you end up making more plans with them than what you expected. To be honest, I would go with this other group, but if you're really not keen on going out with people you don't know just go by yourself or don't go, at least that's what I suggest. The ultimate decision is yours.

I know how you feel Joan. Things like this have happened to me before. To be honest, I don't have very many friends that I can hang out with so when I get the opportunity to go out with any of friends, it's a blessing. Most of the time, however, something always shows up, and the plans that I've made had to canceled. That is a normal thing for me. It even gets to a point where the plans end up being for my birthday. Something shows up for most people and usually only one person shows up.

 

Anyway, I'm not sure what to advise to you, but I know how you feel.