Well, now my dad's officially done it. I can't even express how upset I am right now. He sat me down and told me that he and his girlfriend, Amanda, were going to have a baby. A baby that would become our new little sibling. He told me not to tell the twins. I can't believe he'd do this to me. The anniversary of my mom's death is in just a few months, and this is what he does? I never liked Amanda anyway, but now I hate her. I don't really believe in abortion, but I want the baby gone. I can't even look at my dad. Worst of all, he's being re-deployed to a base in Germany in another months. He'll be out of the fighting, but not home. I'm so sick of him! He's giving us a stupid new sibling, and then he's going to leave? I just don't understand why he would do this to me.

I can agree with some stuff you said.

i understand what you mean but dont wish the baby gone thats a terrible weight to have on your shoulders when being born into this world.

Your dad was not trying to upset you. What if he's been lonely sence your mom's death. What's so bad about that? Mabe he misses your mom too.

 

 

He is fighting for owr freedom. That's not bad. He's trying to serve for America. What if he died and the last words you told him was " I hate you!" That would be sad indeed.

 

I mean i'm not trying to sound like an asshole...

I can totally understand where you're coming from, but you're letting your emotions get the better of you. Believe me, I've wished things that apall me when I think about it.

 

I can't agree with your dad, but I can't demonize him either. This is one of those... tender subjects...

 

All I can do right now is tell you to cool down, maybe go out for a bit. Hit me up if you ever wanna talk about it.

If you don't like your dad or his girlfriend, then teach your stupid new sibling not to be like them. Be a parent for him/her when he/she is young and be like a sibling when he/she grows up. Sounds simple? nope. It takes alot of responsibility. So you decide if you want that little sibling of yours to learn to grow up properly or end up like your dad and his girlfriend. Your choice.

Look on the bright side. He'll be gone.

If you think from a different angle (?), maybe he thinks that you're feeling sad or lonely or whatever, so he's just trying to cheer you up? I guess.

But idk about it tho, but wishing for your "Stupid sibling" gone is not a good thing. So you should probably accept this sibling (and continue on hating your father's girlfriend WOOT) and teach him/her to be a good person unlike your father or your girlfriend.

Oh and sorry about the loss of your mother D:

 

P/S: I'm not really good about these things okay? orz

Your dad was not trying to upset you. What if he's been lonely sence your mom's death. What's so bad about that? Mabe he misses your mom too.

 

So the conclusion in that is for him to have another baby?

So the conclusion in that is for him to have another baby?

 

yup. I mean I went through this too but yeah. It concludes to that

yup. I mean I went through this too but yeah. It concludes to that

 

I don't see how that equals to him having a child with someone else when he has 3 kids from the woman he misses that can give him love(that's like a slap in the face).....unless he waanted to name a baby after her.

 

Just incase, I'm just speaking my mind on the situation, I mean no harm.

I don't see how that equals to him having a child with someone else when he has 3 kids from the woman he misses that can give him love(that's like a slap in the face).....unless he waanted to name a baby after her.

 

Just incase, I'm just speaking my mind on the situation, I mean no harm.

 

I know. same here^^

If you don't like your dad or his girlfriend, then teach your stupid new sibling not to be like them. Be a parent for him/her when he/she is young and be like a sibling when he/she grows up. Sounds simple? nope. It takes alot of responsibility. So you decide if you want that little sibling of yours to learn to grow up properly or end up like your dad and his girlfriend. Your choice.

 

Look on the bright side. He'll be gone.

 

 

I'm sorry but this is the worst things to say. Just because she doesn't like them, doesn't mean her new brother/sister shouldn't be taught to hate their parents from a young age. That will just be a terrible thing, no child should hate their parents for no good reason. Lexi is older, and I understand why she's so upset and it's reasonable, but to teach a baby that they should dislike the people that gave them life? No. And then, her dad, what's good about him being gone? Lexi is also upset that he's leaving. I don't she wants him gone. She doesn't want a new sibling and she doesn't want him gone, and she's upset because of this because it's something she can't control.

 

Honestly, Lexi, you have to look at it in your dad's point of view. Yes his actions do affect you big time, but you have to understand that your dad is only human. He has to do things for himself, things that make him happy, and can't have his children holding him back. I don't think it's fair for to him. Unless his girlfriend is a really terrible, abusive, and etc., then I think you should be happy for him. That might seem hard, but try your best. I think anyone in this sort of situation would be extremely angry (I know I'd be reacting the same way) but I'm sure he's not trying to disrespect you, your brothers, or your mother especially.

I think you should talk to your dad about how you feel. It might do some good.

All I can say is: do not take it out on the baby once it gets here. The baby didn't ask for this either.

Other than that, maybe you should try explaining it to your dad, like Lady Koko said.

 

Wish I could help more. Good luck and stay strong.

To be honest, I posted this thread for some support, not really criticism. Thanks, Koko. You're right--I know I shouldn't get so mad at him for trying to feel happy, it's just frustrating when he's got the four of us, and now he's bringing in a fifth kid and a girlfriend. I was too mad to talk to him last night, but I can give it a try tonight when he gets home. I'm a little more calm now. Thanks.

 

As kind of a note to everyone, I had no plans to be mean to or hate the baby. I just wish the circumstances that brought it about hadn't been there.

I don't think anyone here meant to critize you

Well I dk what to really say, Another member to the familey, For now just wait and see how your dad acts and stuff, But meh.

This kinda sounded like Hamlet for a sec at the start. :huh: But I agree, if I was in your shoes, I would do everything in my power to stop him having the child. I hope things will work out in your favour.