Things have been sort of settling down again, until now. My dad announced he and little Miss Perfect are getting married Christmas Eve. I hate her so much, and of all things I've got to be a stupid flower girl at her wedding? I love my Dad and I want to be there for him, but she's just awful. I don't want everything ruined by her. I want my Dad to be happy, but I just want it to be my REAL family until I leave. I'm already signed up with the military, so I've only got my four years of high school left and then that's it. I want to spend time with my brothers (when they're not annoying) and Dad and that to be it. I don't want this floozy butting in with the time I have left. I just can't stand the idea that she's going to be a part of my family. I miss my Mom not just because she's my Mom, but because it let me stay a kid for a while longer, too. Dad's away all the time so I generally end up taking care of the boys. My grandparents watch us, too, so we do have adult supervision, but it's different. I end up cooking, cleaning, ect. I don't like the idea of her coming in and trying to do stuff for me. I don't even like that she refers to my brothers and I as her kids. This is just crap. And I know I should be more understanding and stuff, but it's just devastating to me and I needed to rant somewhere. Thanks if you guys bothered reading this.

ANIMAL FEELS YOU. Animal thinks what you are going through is alot to take in. You don't really want another Mom and you want to be your own person. Animal also thinks that this is just like in the movies like the princesses stories and your "new" mom is the EVIL QUEEN. But if you meet her half way, she will do the same. Just get to know her more and you might end up liking her.

i liked cuz i read it!

Well just act like she not there.And if you don't want to be the flower girl tell your dad that,

And if she keep saying you and your brothers are her kids.Tell her you and your brother are not "her' kids.

Sorry if I'm not helping

Tell Little Miss Perfect that she'll never be your mother. Keep a cold attitude towards her to give her time to establish that.

Tell your dad that he should reconsider this marriage, if possible, because you don't see what he likes in her.

I'm going through a similar situation, but it hasn't reached that point yet, but know that you're not alone. KH13 is here for you.

I can understand that you don't like this woman, and if you don't want your dad to marry her, that's fine. However, if she is what makes your dad happy, then you should try to support him as well. Tell him that you're uncomfortable with being a flower girl at his wedding, and maybe he'll understand, maybe not. However, don't do anything to try and ruin the marriage. If she's trying to refer to you and your brothers as her kids, then she obviously thinks highly of you, and she's obviously trying to bond with you, which from the sound of it, you don't like. Maybe she made a bad first impression, I don't know, but try and at least talk to her again and build something genuine between the two of you. Maybe your opinion will change in time, maybe not, but at least give it another shot. In the end, even if you don't like her, or like the idea of her getting married to your dad, at least respect what he wants.

 

Tell Little Miss Perfect that she'll never be your mother. Keep a cold attitude towards her to give her time to establish that.

Tell your dad that he should reconsider this marriage, if possible, because you don't see what he likes in her.

I'm going through a similar situation, but it hasn't reached that point yet, but know that you're not alone. KH13 is here for you.

 

So you're telling her to undermine and sabotage whatever makes her father happy in the long run to get what she wants? Sorry, but I really have to disagree. I don't know what happened with her mom and dad, but whatever it was, it must have been hard on him as well. If he has a chance to be happy again, he deserves to pursue it.

So you're telling her to undermine and sabotage whatever makes her father happy in the long run to get what she wants? Sorry, but I really have to disagree. I don't know what happened with her mom and dad, but whatever it was, it must have been hard on him as well. If he has a chance to be happy again, he deserves to pursue it.

 

He should consider what his daughter thinks as well. It's almost selfish of him to do that without consulting her.

He should consider what his daughter thinks as well. It's almost selfish of him to do that without consulting her.

 

I seriously doubt that's something he hasn't considered yet. But the truth is, if he really loves this woman, he shouldn't have to be forced to throw that away because someone else doesn't. It may not be what everyone wants to hear, but it's his decision on who he wants to spend his life with, not anyone elses.

I'm here to listen to and support you. I'm not going to make any suggestions or tell you what to do or how to feel. It's a bad situation, all around. Just know that if you ever need to rant or talk or whatever, I'll do my best to listen and sympathize. I know from experience sometimes all misery needs is company.

wow .. i dont know what to say, i hope it all works out for you

normally i have ways to ruin stuff like this from experiance but for this i got nota sorry

when it comes to step parents its not something ive seen before and if i have then i havent noticed

Thanks guys. And yeah, I know I should try and meet her halfway. It's not my place to interfere with my Dad's happiness. But it just hurts. If the situation had been reversed, I know my Mom wouldn't have ever done this. And in general, I just really don't like her. It's not being a flower girl that bothers me, it's because of why I'd be the flower girl. I've begged my Dad to just call the whole thing off, but he won't. When my Dad's overseas, then it'll be her staying with us, when it's usually our grandparents. I can't stay with her that long. I know I should be more accepting, but I can't get over how much I hate her and this whole situation.

I think honestly what you should do is that you should tell your father that the chemistry between her and yourself is not very good. You should just tell him how you feel about her without pushing it over the edge. If that doesn't work, then you could tell her that you still want to accept the responsibilities that you have always done before.

My Dad knows Amanda and I don't get along. I've made that very clear to him, and I'm pretty sure he could've guessed by my behavior around her. I told him I don't want her doing stuff for me, but he was like, "But I thought you didn't like to cook?" I don't, but it just feels like my thing, not hers, and I don't want that taken away. Dad just doesn't get that.

I don't think you need to be talking to your dad about this and the problem between his fiance. You should be talking to her. Let her know that you are not comfortable with her mothering you and that you don't want her to. Set some boundaries and guidelines that way you don't clash, since to be completely honest, you're completely disregarding your fathers happiness. Nothing seems to horrible about her, I mean she doesn't seem like a mean step mother type but maybe a pushy wanting to be a good mother and wife type. And you don't want that and that's where you clash which is why you should talk to her. Not rant to us. Not tell your dad. Talk to her. Just because your mother wouldn't have done it doesn't mean your father can't. People are different and people change and if this woman you don't like makes you father happy, then honestly, bite your lip and suck it up because you can complain all you want but that won't change anything.

Also I agree with baylaust completely okay.

 

I'm sorry if I sound insensitive to how you feel but this is just what I perceive of everything.