Since your my first friend on here and are very knowlegable about things I figured you could help me.

I have a lot gay and bisexual friends who I love very much(their some of my best pals ) and I guess you could say we are very popular in our school. About six months ago i got a new neighbor Catherine she seemed nice and I befriended her. We grew really close and shared everything (we even had our first kiss) she never had a problem with

the fact that a lot of my friends were gay although she remained adamant that she only liked men and had never liked anything else. I then began to incorporate her into my circle of friends, though they excepted her they never were as close to her as they were with me. Once she started hanging out with us her social life began to improve greatly, then she had a fight with one of my friends who admitted she had a crush on her.

After that my other friends began to slowly push away from her, as expected her popularity began to decline. Then out of nowhere one of my friends told me that she just came out as bisexual. I also noticed that my other friends were all now cozy cozy with her. When I asked her about it she denied it but later that same day I heard her telling my best friend (who is bisexual) that she had alway's been bisexual. Then here's the real kicker the next day a guy walks up to me and asks if it was true that Catherine is bisexual as she had told him the other day that it wasn't true and that she wanted to be with him.

I don't want to seem unaccepting but why does it seem that Catherine is only using being bisexual to be in with the popular crowd. If she is doing this how could she use something that others have struggled with their entire life as a tool do such a thing. I'm really confused on how to handle the situation so please post your advice.

I'm not the great apprentice but

 

Based on what you've said, it seems like a classic attention/i'm-so-original-and-rebellious-im-bi-cause-that-way-i-can-still-date-guys-and-won't-have-actual-showcase-any-homosexual-tendencies(Cause i'm really not bi).

The amount of people I know who call themselves bi is unreal, and less than half of them have even kissed a person of the same sex, let alone banged them (until they sleep with someone of the same sex to me, they're just a bit hoey/indecisive and will meet anyone, if no one of the opposite sex is available they go for a suitable alternative).

 

EDIT: Plus, the amount of people who actually do this make it difficult for people who are seriously bisexual, because if they come out and define themselves as it, based on the amount of fakes who do it for attention, people would assume they're just posing for attention.

Edited November 5, 201212 yr by Caity Raindrop

I know I'm not TAoKM, but you know you don't have to address a topic towards her. We can all provide advice just as much as her. http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/happy.png

 

But I don't know what to make of it. She probably doesn't want you thinking that she's bisexual, because you might worry that she actually wants a girl, I guess.

Since your my first friend on here and are very knowlegable about things I figured you could help me.

I have a lot gay and bisexual friends who I love very much(their some of my best pals ) and I guess you could say we are very popular in our school. About six months ago i got a new neighbor Catherine she seemed nice and I befriended her. We grew really close and shared everything (we even had our first kiss) she never had a problem with

the fact that a lot of my friends were gay although she remained adamant that she only liked men and had never liked anything else. I then began to incorporate her into my circle of friends, though they excepted her they never were as close to her as they were with me. Once she started hanging out with us her social life began to improve greatly, then she had a fight with one of my friends who admitted she had a crush on her.

After that my other friends began to slowly push away from her, as expected her popularity began to decline. Then out of nowhere one of my friends told me that she just came out as bisexual. I also noticed that my other friends were all now cozy cozy with her. When I asked her about it she denied it but later that same day I heard her telling my best friend (who is bisexual) that she had alway's been bisexual. Then here's the real kicker the next day a guy walks up to me and asks if it was true that Catherine is bisexual as she had told him the other day that it wasn't true and that she wanted to be with him.

I don't want to seem unaccepting but why does it seem that Catherine is only using being bisexual to be in with the popular crowd. If she is doing this how could she use something that others have struggled with their entire life as a tool do such a thing. I'm really confused on how to handle the situation so please post your advice.

 

 

Catherine... she seems nice and all... you even shared your first kiss. But either there's miscommunication going on, or she's just trying to be an attention whore. I'm not trying to degrade her, but it seems she's not worth the trouble. I'd just let her go.

Edited November 5, 201212 yr by -iAD

What Caity and iAD said are pretty much what I believe. I know Catherine wants to belong but she's digging herself a hole you don't even need to be in. I'd suggest not associating with her anymore and maybe before you start distancing yourself from her, mention she's indirectly giving actual bisexuals a great deal of disrespect and that she should rethink her actions.

attention

Enough said?

Catherine... she seems nice and all... you even shared your first kiss. But either there's miscommunication going on, or she's just trying to be an attention whore. I'm not trying to degrade her, but it seems she's not worth the trouble. I'd just let her go.

 

I agree she seems like an attention whore who is just going to lie to you about it.

Thanks for the advice apprentice of king mickey.