Parents are wise and strong and kind.  There are times that we sometimes dismiss them, but we have to realize that parents do so much for us, without us ever realizing it. It's only until we're more wiser that we know of all those sacrifices parents made for our futures.  So many chances they had to buy whatever they wanted to buy for themselves, but out of love for us, they sacrifice their desires in order to give us a great childhood and a good life.  Sometimes we may not agree with them, and sometimes they can be very annoying and strict, but they're only like that because they love us and they want whats best for us.  Next time you see your mother or father, give them a hug and tell them that you love them, and thank them for all the things they've done for you.  Most of all, thank God that you are able to have parents as wonderful as you have them.  And if they have their flaws, it's okay, because nobody is perfect.  But remember, that one day, we all too, shall be parents, and then, and only then, will we know of all the sacrifices that they made for us, as we shall witness them firsthand. Be grateful for your parents.

What if my parents gave me away at birth and threw me in a McDonalds dumpster.

What if my parents gave me away at birth and threw me in a McDonalds dumpster.

That would just be cruel. O.O  But it's not the case of my topic.  Although I agree, that if someone did that, it would be downright horrible.

This reminds me of how ungrateful my cousin is to my aunt. She's already a parent yet she still doesn't thank my aunt for all my aunt has done for her. My aunt even takes care of my cousins 2 twin girls better than she does, yet she refuses to thank her for everything she has done because she says that all my aunt does is bring her trouble. It angers me to see how ungrateful she is to someone who has helped her in her ups and downs all the time. I wish she would one day appreciate all my aunt has done for her.

Jk, I agree.

B-but my mom kicked me out ._. and is somewhat evil D:

B-but my mom kicked me out ._. and is somewhat evil D:

I'm sorry to hear that.

I'm sorry to hear that.

Ahh it's alright I'm living with my awesome Grandma x3

That would just be cruel. O.O  But it's not the case of my topic.  Although I agree, that if someone did that, it would be downright horrible.

That actually happened to me.

That actually happened to me.

Whoah.  That must have been rough.  I'm sorry to hear that.

Whoah.  That must have been rough.  I'm sorry to hear that.

yeah, it was, turned out i was 1 too many in the litter.

I hate my dad. He never took care of me. My mom is pretty good though.

Everything you said made me blessed I still have wonderful parents by my side.

Totally agree with this. My parents have done so much for me, and are still making sacrifices for me.  I thank God for the great parents I have, and hope that those who aren't as blessed can someday find a parental figure they can grow to love, or make-up with their real parents so that they can finally feel the love that they had previously missed out on. Thanks for posting, Sessumooruuemmenmmeooo. (too lazy to scroll back up to see how to spell your name )

I've done exactly as you've said to my kids.

But remember, that one day, we all too, shall be parents,

Um, not everyone wants to be a parent.  I, personally, do not like children.

Very well said.  I totally agree with you.  It's easy to get angry with our parents because they seem so disagreeable, but really, where would we be in the world without them?  I think this is something we could all do to think about occasionally, and really reconsider why we have it in for our parents the way we do.  (*Some* of us, personally, I get along with my parents pretty well.)

 

Now, we might not all become parents one day (since some of us are just scared to death of the thought ), but I agree with you for those who would become parents one day.  I think we should pretty much just remember that everyone's human--parents are no exception.

Parents are wise and strong and kind.  There are times that we sometimes dismiss them, but we have to realize that parents do so much for us, without us ever realizing it. It's only until we're more wiser that we know of all those sacrifices parents made for our futures.  So many chances they had to buy whatever they wanted to buy for themselves, but out of love for us, they sacrifice their desires in order to give us a great childhood and a good life.  Sometimes we may not agree with them, and sometimes they can be very annoying and strict, but they're only like that because they love us and they want whats best for us.  Next time you see your mother or father, give them a hug and tell them that you love them, and thank them for all the things they've done for you.  Most of all, thank God that you are able to have parents as wonderful as you have them.  And if they have their flaws, it's okay, because nobody is perfect.  But remember, that one day, we all too, shall be parents, and then, and only then, will we know of all the sacrifices that they made for us, as we shall witness them firsthand. Be grateful for your parents.

 

I admire these charismatic and thought-provoking threads you've been posting recently. However, I think this particular one is a little bit too sugar-coated for my liking - please don't take this as criticism or me trying to force-feed you my opinion. I' just a sucker for an educated debate.

 

I think the concept of parental love in your given context is that parents unconditionally love their offspring. However, there are many obvious cases where this is not true. With the media focussing on the dysfunctional families rather than nuclear ones, we hear of fathers raping their daughters, mothers killing, beating or abandoning their children, and so forth. Is that love and sacrifice? You may argue that it was through their interpretation of love, but equally one could argue that the behaviour is out of greater love for themselves or not wanting their offspring at all, let alone loving them.

 

Yes, as adults they have greater experience of the world, the process of growing up, relationships and many such important topics, but again it is down to context that these factors are revealed at their real worth. Parents growing up poor who have made a wealthy environment for their children may not understand why their children want for so much, or why an upper-class parent can't fathom why a child wants something more/simpler than money and possessions. Parents are another cog in the system of authority. Authority should been earned and continuously worked for, not given to or attained and then brandished to show dominance or command respect. I am willing to bet that we have all been the victim of someone abusing authority in order to have their way or resolve an issue, whether it be a teacher, a police officer, a parent or simply someone older or bigger than you. Do they deserve your unconditional respect and gratitude? 

 

I come from a family that knew nothing of emotional value, and only had time for status and success. Emotions and desires played no part in that household and because I remained steadfastly true to myself and defended what I loved and believed to be right I was neglected and penalised whilst my brother got everything he asked for and all the understanding almost to spite me, when I asked for nothing more than acceptance and support that, according to this thread, should be UNCONDITIONALLY given. I was denied that love and support and was instead given money and threats if I did not achieve what they expected of me. As this is just an example I won't go into real detail, but when I took a stand and challenged them as an individual, on an emotional and intellectual basis on their terms they were silent. If a child can muster more emotional empathy and greater understanding of the world outside of money and expensive possessions and posturing, why should that child remain on lead to people so narrow minded and undeserving of the respect and subordination they desire? 

 

In summation, neither love nor support should be unconditional. They are natural impulses from the human complex and should not be forced upon others in any form. Yes, parents need to be firm and enforce beliefs and standards onto their children to protect and guide them - but this should never prevent them from growth and achieving their dreams and potential. Equally, parents do not always act out of love for their children and it would be very naive to believe so. My suggestion is to never give in your dreams or potentials for someone who will hold you back or prevent you from doing so, whether they are a parent, lover or civil servant. They will not offer you the same courtesy, and if a child is involved that is a case of responsibility - not love, respect or anything else, but sheer moral decency.

 

I am sorry if this has offended anyone - it certainly wasn't intended to. But as someone who has learned the hard way and seen a lot, I thought that these are some things you certainly do pick up on on the road to parenthood also - you could say the more bitter tastes that you encounter with the aforementioned sweeter ones.