So.. I will probably come back to this thread sometime later because I don't feel like explaining it too much right now due to the time.

 

But I am having trouble getting over my ex... It has been three months and I thought I was over her finally. I could even see a picture posted of her recently. But her best friend randomly messaged me today and asked if I saw the pictures of my ex that the girl had posted (this girl is also a family member of hers).

 

So it caught me off guard, and I'm missing her a lot... I messed up so many things with her and just wish I had a second chance to do things right.

 

Maybe I should just finally go over to the darkness.

You could try talking to her if you want to and it's bugging you that much.

 

 

 

There are plenty of legendary pokemon to catch.

Words of wisdom from old man Rob.

Try keeping your mind occupied on other Things or just talk to to each other as friends

Edited February 6, 201312 yr by Gumi

Things happen. In my first (most recent) relationship, we dated for a month, broke up exactly one month later. Felt Okay. Next month I was depressed as hell, and then Valentines day happened That was a painful day. I mean, I liked this girl for 6 years. SIX YEARS. And then she breaks up with me beca- Anyways, this is your story. I'm completely over her now, but it took well over 3 months. Give it more time, and think of the positive things. Think of her as a Pidgey who you released on a PC box, making room in your party, keeping with what Rob said.

Rightio, here's my advice. I'm assuming you go to the same school (if not, it'll still work whenever you see her), so if you see her walking by or something you don't have to make yourself feel uncomfortable by trying to hold a conversation just yet, just say hello and smile as she walks past. This will indicate to her that you're still willing to acknowledge her as a friend. Pay attention to her responses as they will indicate her position towards to you. If she smiles back and says hello, then she's willing to put in the effort to be nice, which is a good sign. Now, basically from here you just need to build up the amount of conversation. Add "how are you" after the hello or whatever you feel comfortable with. And again, read her signals and see how she responds. 

If you did mess things up, as you said, then you'll have to prove your friendliness and redeem yourself, by simply being friendly (as above). Don't push anything or jump into anything too quickly. 

 

P.S. If you don't see her often and you're only option is to chat via facebook and you feel uncomfortable about it, then I think you should do a similar sort of thing. You should like one of the photos she posted. Don't go on a liking rampage, just be smooth and casual.Once again, slowly progress. Maybe comment on something here or there, or if you're feeling confident just send her a message on chat and see how she's going.

 

So yeah, if you miss her and you want to redeem yourself, don't shy away, put yourself out there.

I'm gonna give you the advice that was given to me when I had trouble getting over my exes; where you sad and depressed before you dated this person? If not, then why should you be now?

Well, you may get a second chance. You never know. On top of that, I read somewhere a while ago that it takes the average person 6-9 months to truly get over their ex. Depending on what you want to do, you  could always try to win her back, or realize that in a few months you'll be over her. 

Awhhh :c I'm sorry to hear that D8 For different people it's a different time to get over their ex's honestly, I hope you get over it soon, do somethings that are fun or what not that you like to do a lot and it'll help. It helped me

I'm actually going through a similar situation right now. It'll be alright man, Just keep at it.

Just try and remain as friends with her and if you are doing that and it's still making you upset it's best you part ways, either temporarily or permanently. If you two are still friends, just let her know that you need to stop seeing and talking to her for a little bit so that you can get over her and be comfortable as friends later. If she is someone worth being friends with then she will understand. If you aren't really friends with her just remove her from your life completely. Don't talk to her, don't even look at her just pretend as if she doesn't exist and eventually you will find someone else. 

I find it heart-warming reading all this friendly advice, but I actually have a different method/theory built up over trial and error experiences of my own. It can be hard, especially if it's a 'first love' thing, but I think a lot of the advice here requires too much thinking and planning - and when it's focussed on the person you're trying to get over, depending on your personality, could easily make things a lot harder rather than easier (no offence meant to anyone!).

 

Essentially, the ache you feel is caused by the void in your heart where this person was. It takes a lot of energy to hold someone in your heart, and you only realise this when you lose someone or fall out with them. Therefore having the energy 'feed up' allows you to focus it on things that are important to you regardless of your relationship to others - so friends, family, hobbies, tv shows, ect. I believe that you are only sad when you think of that person more than you think of yourself as a separate entity. You don't need this person to exist, so the best way to heal pain that you are experiencing is to focus on yourself. 

In addition, failed relationships are good for you, on the basis that you expose yourself and learn a lot not only about relationships (what does and doesn't work) but about yourself - both sets of knowledge better prepares you for your personal growth and development and for future relationships. Remember, each failed relationship (be it a partner or friend) is a step closer to a successful one. Personally, I think that a relationship that lasts will find you when you have done enough personal development. 

 

In short, let things run their course - and let go of the stress and embrace the things that you enjoy more Hope this helps a little.....

Try to make up with her and if that isn't possible, there are other legendary pokemon waiting for you.