I don't know if there is a rule about ranting about family problems on here but here it goes. Me and my sister are 6 years age apart and she's past the age of a legal adult but she still acts like a child. If something doesn't go her way she throws temper tantrums. She yells and hits things and acts spoiled. When i was very young she would tell me things like "you ruined everones lives for being born" and i was so young then Ibeleived her. When I was around ten she slapped me and then apologized cause she worried i would tell our mom. She tells me a lot of things like " your face is oily or you have asian eyes" all the time and doesn't think she's being rude, but if Isaid anything like that to her she would flip out. I'm very sensitive so if someone makes me upset I cry even when Idont want to. I wish i could just put her in her place. She never says please to me and she demands things like say if Iwas in her way she would say "move." Back when she moved out of my room and left some stuff behind she would just throw the door open and barged into my room but I was NEVER allowed in HER room. This one time she couldn't find what she was looking for so she picked up MY bag, turned it over and dumped all of my objects on the floor. She's the type of person who will blame everyone else for her mistakes before even thinking it was her fault. Like sometimes she would blame me for being in the bathroom when she wanted it, even though it was like ten and she should have gotten up earlier and used it. She used to blame me for being late for school. But beforethat I would have to wake 3 hours earlier than I should just to get in the bathroom before her, because she would make me late but she didn't care about that. She calls people very innapropriate names if they barely do ANYTHING. If you even look at her wrong all of a sudden your a mother effing a hole. She isn't always awful to me, and sometimes if she's excited about something we both like shell talk to me about it like a new pokemon game or something, but to me that does not excuse the way she treats me. I always try to not talk to her or stay away from her but she always comes to me. I don't know if she loves me or not, but Icant say she truly does because who would ever treat someone you love this way? I do know i don't love her and in fact Ibeleive I am disgusted by her. Which I think is valid considering my earlist memories of her are her telling me I should never have been born. I'm not even allowed to call her my sister, Itried one time years ago and she said "Don't EVER call me that She isn't awful to everyone even though she's rude to me and my parents she's nice to her friends and kind to animals. But for some reason she has no trouble treating me terribly. The worst part is my sister looks exactly like my best friend. Even though they look the same i think my best friend is the one of the most beautiful girls.and my sister is ugly. Its terrible how someone so sweet caring and loyal looks like a girl who is impatient rude and arrogant. It makes me sad cause I really look up to my friend and want to be like her, but why of all people did my sister look like her?! I think I actually do look like my friend because I've been told twice I do. And the only reason Imight think my sister looks like her is because my sister looks similar to me and I look like my friend more face wise and my sister has the same shade and tylpe hair as her so that's why Iprobably think it. But anyways the point is my sister is terrible and I really need advice on how to deal with her. I'm at a loss and I'm at a breaking point at putting up with her. She's in college so she still lives with us I don't know how to live with her anymore. I can't even tell her she does anything wrong or she will say I'm just being whiny or she will freak out and say make ME that one who is bothersome.

Go on Dr Phil, get a therapist... This is to extreme...

I don't know if there is a rule about ranting about family problems on here but here it goes. Me and my sister are 6 years age apart and she's past the age of a legal adult but she still acts like a child. If something doesn't go her way she throws temper tantrums. She yells and hits things and acts spoiled. When i was very young she would tell me things like "you ruined everones lives for being born" and i was so young then Ibeleived her. When I was around ten she slapped me and then apologized cause she worried i would tell our mom. She tells me a lot of things like " your face is oily or you have asian eyes" all the time and doesn't think she's being rude, but if Isaid anything like that to her she would flip out. I'm very sensitive so if someone makes me upset I cry even when Idont want to. I wish i could just put her in her place. She never says please to me and she demands things like say if Iwas in her way she would say "move." Back when she moved out of my room and left some stuff behind she would just throw the door open and barged into my room but I was NEVER allowed in HER room. This one time she couldn't find what she was looking for so she picked up MY bag, turned it over and dumped all of my objects on the floor. She's the type of person who will blame everyone else for her mistakes before even thinking it was her fault. Like sometimes she would blame me for being in the bathroom when she wanted it, even though it was like ten and she should have gotten up earlier and used it. She used to blame me for being late for school. But beforethat I would have to wake 3 hours earlier than I should just to get in the bathroom before her, because she would make me late but she didn't care about that. She calls people very innapropriate names if they barely do ANYTHING. If you even look at her wrong all of a sudden your a mother effing a hole. She isn't always awful to me, and sometimes if she's excited about something we both like shell talk to me about it like a new pokemon game or something, but to me that does not excuse the way she treats me. I always try to not talk to her or stay away from her but she always comes to me. I don't know if she loves me or not, but Icant say she truly does because who would ever treat someone you love this way? I do know i don't love her and in fact Ibeleive I am disgusted by her. Which I think is valid considering my earlist memories of her are her telling me I should never have been born. I'm not even allowed to call her my sister, Itried one time years ago and she said "Don't EVER call me that She isn't awful to everyone even though she's rude to me and my parents she's nice to her friends and kind to animals. But for some reason she has no trouble treating me terribly. The worst part is my sister looks exactly like my best friend. Even though they look the same i think my best friend is the one of the most beautiful girls.and my sister is ugly. Its terrible how someone so sweet caring and loyal looks like a girl who is impatient rude and arrogant. It makes me sad cause I really look up to my friend and want to be like her, but why of all people did my sister look like her?! I think I actually do look like my friend because I've been told twice I do. And the only reason Imight think my sister looks like her is because my sister looks similar to me and I look like my friend more face wise and my sister has the same shade and tylpe hair as her so that's why Iprobably think it. But anyways the point is my sister is terrible and I really need advice on how to deal with her. I'm at a loss and I'm at a breaking point at putting up with her. She's in college so she still lives with us I don't know how to live with her anymore. I can't even tell her she does anything wrong or she will say I'm just being whiny or she will freak out and say make ME that one who is bothersome.

I'm like that too.

have you talked to your parents deeply about this? or even a school therapist. perhaps that can be of help to you. and is it so bad that you can't even talk to your sister deeply about this? Maybe you should just show your post to her and she'll understand how you feel. But maybe she's the type that doesn't even care or maybe she just denies it all. If she does, then maybe you should go for any other serious means of help. that's when you should talk to your therapist or to another close friend that can get you help.

 

or maybe google it. that always helps.

Fool. Always love your family no matter what.

Fool. Always love your family no matter what.

 

MasterXemnas, do you honestly think that this person's sister is doing the same for her?

MasterXemnas, do you honestly think that this person's sister is doing the same for her?

Fool. It doesn't matter the slightest. You love your family unconditionally. I'm not saying you have to like your family.

Yikes, All I can say is to lock your door and not let her in under any circumstances. If she tries to shout, put headphones on and blast some music. I don't know what you can do when your not in your room though. I have two older siblings I'm not really close to them either. Even though I grew up with them they're practically strangers. They mostly ignored me unless they had to watch me when our mom went out. thy just plopped me in front of the TV and did whatever needed doing around the house. Then I turn 18 and my brother suddenly wants to hang out, but it was too late. I wasn't interested. I know if anyone ever hurt me he'd kick their ass, but I just don't feel the love because of the lack of bonding when we were younger.Most "adults" in their 20's aren't really grown up. Sometimes they can be even more immature than teenagers, But at around 25 or so they start to mellow out. All I can say is that things will get better. Someday she'll realize what a blessing having a little sibling is and what it means to be a big sister.

At that point, you'll have a choice. You can either forgive her, or ignore her. 

But for now, I can't offer any immediate results.

Edited September 17, 201312 yr by Isamu_Kuno

This isn't gonna be much help...

Hang on, take life as it comes, and seek someone out if you need to talk. Doesn't need to be a therapist: a close friend, a relative.

Sorry, family issues aren't my forte: only child one-parent-home here.

have you talked to your parents deeply about this? or even a school therapist. perhaps that can be of help to you. and is it so bad that you can't even talk to your sister deeply about this? Maybe you should just show your post to her and she'll understand how you feel. But maybe she's the type that doesn't even care or maybe she just denies it all. If she does, then maybe you should go for any other serious means of help. that's when you should talk to your therapist or to another close friend that can get you help.Honestly I hoped she would find it as a last attempt to reach out to her but then I came to a conclusion she would be upset I talked about her on the internet . And she would probably say i was just being whiny and that she probably didn't even hit me that hard and it was such a long time ago. I don't think she will ever truly care about the way she treats me. I appreciate your support though or maybe google it. that always helps.

Fool. Always love your family no matter what.

Well to be fair I used to think if I wasn't born maybe she wouldn't have turned so mean and maybe she would be a nicer person. I used to think that, but now i know it was her choice to let herself become so bitter.

I say ignore her, like pretend she doesn't exist. I did that to one of my brothers for 2years since he didn't like me for being born since he was the "spoiled baby" until I came in. He just soon realize, and told me that he wants to be a role model for me...And well we are on a good terms, and I can talk to him with no problems. There is more to the story that is more personal, but this is the main beef of it.

 

And by pretending she doesn't exist, I mean like seriously just ignore her in every way... Just act chill, calm, and give off the "You're dumb, or I'm annoyed by you look". If she does something, shrug it off and fix it with out talking to her.

Fool. It doesn't matter the slightest. You love your family unconditionally. I'm not saying you have to like your family.

You clearly aren't looking into this from another person's perspective.I'll use my uncle and my mother, for example. They don't like their father (my grandfather). I know the story can differ but according to them he left their mother (my grandmother) with nothing. Poor, in the projects, with over three kids (saying over three because I honestly can't remember LOL). When my uncle's father died, his friends had asked him why he didnt attend the funeral. My uncle said something along the lines of, "He wasnt a father to me. Sure we were related by blood, but he wasn't a father to me." He left them with nothing. Didn't care for them at all.I don't know about you, but I'm not going to love someone who treats me like shit. You should stick by your family if you're normal and sure, you have a little fight every now and then. But fights are different from outright abuse and abandonment, and I respect the people who cut off those ties from their lives, more than the people who succumb to an abusive, hateful, person.I know you didn't mean any harm by saying that but, spare us the "love them unconditionally" bullshit - if this is as extreme as OP says it is, then I can totally side with him. Just because you're related to somebody because some fckin' genetic code says so, doesn't mean you're truly family. Hell, I have cousins that I BARELY know and talk to. So honestly - and this may make me sound like a bitch, but oh well - I have friends that I love more than them. I prefer sentimental closeness over blood closeness, but that's just me.(Btw this message probably sounds really hostile, but I'm not attacking you or anything. Just explaining my thoughts )

I got some tips.1. Learn the act of projecting your voice. Used in the military, it's slightly different from yelling. You still speak REALLY loudly but don't come off as hostile unless you want to. You'll know you've done it right if YOUR ears are ringing after trying it. Useful to make a scene and a statement. I can give you details if you want.

 

2. Talk to your parents. Really tell them what you have told us. If they're absolutely no help whatsoever, then I hope you have a good lock on your door because otherwise your last gleaming hope of sanctuary is gone. If it gets really bad, talk to your school therapist/counselor. They'll raise an issue and your parents HAVE to listen and help. Ask the counselor to call for a conference, that way you can speak your side without fear of retaliation. I find it unfair that she can call you whatever the hell she pleases and if you so much as try to counter that she makes an issue with it.

 

3. Consider ignoring her/staying quiet. Ignore everything and if she retaliates by beating you up, well that's something you can really use against her when telling your parents. Nothing is more insulting than practically telling your sister that she's not even worth wasting your breath. That, and your parents may notice that since you're not speaking anymore, well hopefully sooner or later they'll connect the dots and think that your sister has something to do with it. 

 

Man, I wish I had money so I can fly to your place and give her a good yelling. 

You clearly aren't looking into this from another person's perspective.I'll use my uncle and my mother, for example. They don't like their father (my grandfather). I know the story can differ but according to them he left their mother (my grandmother) with nothing. Poor, in the projects, with over three kids (saying over three because I honestly can't remember LOL). When my uncle's father died, his friends had asked him why he didnt attend the funeral. My uncle said something along the lines of, "He wasnt a father to me. Sure we were related by blood, but he wasn't a father to me." He left them with nothing. Didn't care for them at all.I don't know about you, but I'm not going to love someone who treats me like shit. You should stick by your family if you're normal and sure, you have a little fight every now and then. But fights are different from outright abuse and abandonment, and I respect the people who cut off those ties from their lives, more than the people who succumb to an abusive, hateful, person.I know you didn't mean any harm by saying that but, spare us the "love them unconditionally" bullshit - if this is as extreme as OP says it is, then I can totally side with him. Just because you're related to somebody because some fckin' genetic code says so, doesn't mean you're truly family. Hell, I have cousins that I BARELY know and talk to. So honestly - and this may make me sound like a bitch, but oh well - I have friends that I love more than them. I prefer sentimental closeness over blood closeness, but that's just me.(Btw this message probably sounds really hostile, but I'm not attacking you or anything. Just explaining my thoughts )

This. Absolutely this. I'm so happy someone understands! Just because they're related by blood, doesn't mean they're related by heart. My friends sometimes look at me funny when I say I don't love my sister, but I'm sure if they knew how she treated me they would understand why. Thank you very much!

I got some tips.1. Learn the act of projecting your voice. Used in the military, it's slightly different from yelling. You still speak REALLY loudly but don't come off as hostile unless you want to. You'll know you've done it right if YOUR ears are ringing after trying it. Useful to make a scene and a statement. I can give you details if you want.2. Talk to your parents. Really tell them what you have told us. If they're absolutely no help whatsoever, then I hope you have a good lock on your door because otherwise your last gleaming hope of sanctuary is gone. If it gets really bad, talk to your school therapist/counselor. They'll raise an issue and your parents HAVE to listen and help. Ask the counselor to call for a conference, that way you can speak your side without fear of retaliation. I find it unfair that she can call you whatever the hell she pleases and if you so much as try to counter that she makes an issue with it.3. Consider ignoring her/staying quiet. Ignore everything and if she retaliates by beating you up, well that's something you can really use against her when telling your parents. Nothing is more insulting than practically telling your sister that she's not even worth wasting your breath. That, and your parents may notice that since you're not speaking anymore, well hopefully sooner or later they'll connect the dots and think that your sister has something to do with it. Man, I wish I had money so I can fly to your place and give her a good yelling.

Thank you for the helpful advice! I think I might learn voice projecting as that can be helpful for many things. Honestly, I kind of wish you did come and tell her. I know if you ever try to defend yourself, then it makes you seem like you're just being whiny, but if someone else defends you, then it seems like the other person actually did something wrong. I wonder how shed react if even a stranger told her she was acting unfairly. Looking back, my mother did apologize once after I told her that I was tired of putting up with my sister, but she never really does receive any sort of punishment for the way she acts. I'm very upset at my cousins who used to visit often and were around when my sister yells at me (and she tended to yell at me more cause Iguess she felt more authorative when they were around), but they never defended me. Awhile ago i remember my cousins fighing and I told them to knock it off and my cousin replied " now you know how we feel when you and your sister fight" and now that I look back, I'm just offended by that comment. Its not like I chose to be bullied, like I chose to be yelled at by my sister. It couldn't even be considered fighting, it was more my sister yelling at me for a mess a cousin made, and when I tried to clan it up she would just tell me to do it faster. That doesn't warrant it called fighting, that's called bullying. And she (my cousin) was there and made no move to stop it. I understand she was probably just scared of her too, but that comments make me think " I'm so sorry you felt akward while my sister screamed at me for things I didn't do" I.know that doesn't have to do with you but it makes me very happy (and veryupset) that a complete stranger would stick up for me and my own family wouldn't. So thanks. I appreciate it.

This. Absolutely this. I'm so happy someone understands! Just because they're related by blood, doesn't mean they're related by heart. My friends sometimes look at me funny when I say I don't love my sister, but I'm sure if they knew how she treated me they would understand why. Thank you very much!

I don't know firsthand since I've never been in this situation (I mean, I hate my brother 80% of the time but it's not this bad), but my family is living proof of it and I trust their words.Best of luck to you, as everyone else said, just tell somebody. Ignoring her sounds like the best bet - I mean if you can successfully avoid her for the rest of your life, then more power to you, but ignoring somebody is a pretty hard thing to do - just stay out of her way, don't deliberately start shit with her unless you can genuinely prove that she's at fault, just nod your head to whatever she says because it probably won't matter anyways. I would just tell somebody how you feel and what goes on. If your friends don't understand then that's normal - it's hard for outsiders to understand a family since they of course, don't live with your family every day. It's all about perspective really. She sounds like such a mean sister though, I wonder why...?I mean my brother and I get into fights but we forget about it the next day. I may be a little too extreme in everything I say, but your sister is acting just cruel, and I'm sorry. That's terrible. But there are other people/siblings/families like that out there so don't feel bad or anything. It's depressing but a lot of my relatives have someone in the family they they haven't, and refused to talk to for years.

I don't know firsthand since I've never been in this situation (I mean, I hate my brother 80% of the time but it's not this bad), but my family is living proof of it and I trust their words.Best of luck to you, as everyone else said, just tell somebody. Ignoring her sounds like the best bet - I mean if you can successfully avoid her for the rest of your life, then more power to you, but ignoring somebody is a pretty hard thing to do - just stay out of her way, don't deliberately start shit with her unless you can genuinely prove that she's at fault, just nod your head to whatever she says because it probably won't matter anyways. I would just tell somebody how you feel and what goes on. If your friends don't understand then that's normal - it's hard for outsiders to understand a family since they of course, don't live with your family every day. It's all about perspective really. She sounds like such a mean sister though, I wonder why...?I mean my brother and I get into fights but we forget about it the next day. I may be a little too extreme in everything I say, but your sister is acting just cruel, and I'm sorry. That's terrible. But there are other people/siblings/families like that out there so don't feel bad or anything. It's depressing but a lot of my relatives have someone in the family they they haven't, and refused to talk to for years.

Well i think its just her personality. She is kind of...closeminded I guess? Quick tempered? She has more patience with her friends, but I suppose since I'm her blood she thinks m obliged to deal with her. I want her to treat me as a real person, instead of just her little sister she can treat horribly because hey why not? I know I'm sensitive, but I'm seriously not exaggerating the way she treats me. Like the thing with my cousin I just posted, its not her fault.she probably.didn't understand how that could be offensive at the time, even I didn't, and me and her aren't that close enough to.be mad at her. But with my sister its seriously all that and a bag of chips. I don't know why she is so bitter, she just is.

If she likes pretty things and being pretty tell her she's ugly if she treats you badly.

 

If you do this enouth times maybe she'll get the message (I DUNO IF I'M HELPING OR NOT BUT I LIKE TO THINK I AM?)

 

 

....

If any other issues crop up, don't blame me for using my own logic. people should know being mean is ugly, always...

 

But I know I would tell her; Being mean gives you pimples. It makes you less pretty. YOU KNOW I'M RIGHT.

 

*heff heff*

Edited September 17, 201312 yr by ~DawnStar2004~

If she likes pretty things and being pretty tell her she's ugly if she treats you badly.

 

If you do this enouth times maybe she'll get the message (I DUNO IF I'M HELPING OR NOT BUT I LIKE TO THINK I AM?)

 

Haha you really made me laugh. I guess I must be mean cause I have acne (although it is clearing up a little). And yes she does comment on my acne and liked to point out that unlike me she has no acne and her face doesn't get oily. Literal quote " my face doesn't get oily like yours". But nonetheless you sure made me laugh.

 

 

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If any other issues crop up, don't blame me for using my own logic. people should know being mean is ugly, always...

 

But I know I would tell her; Being mean gives you pimples. It makes you less pretty. YOU KNOW I'M RIGHT.

 

*heff heff*

 

If she likes pretty things and being pretty tell her she's ugly if she treats you badly.

 

If you do this enouth times maybe she'll get the message (I DUNO IF I'M HELPING OR NOT BUT I LIKE TO THINK I AM?)

 

Haha you really made me laugh. I guess I must be mean cause I have acne (although it is clearing up a little). And yes she does comment on my acne and liked to point out that unlike me she has no acne and her face doesn't get oily. Literal quote " my face doesn't get oily like yours". But nonetheless you sure made me laugh.

 

 

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If any other issues crop up, don't blame me for using my own logic. people should know being mean is ugly, always...

 

But I know I would tell her; Being mean gives you pimples. It makes you less pretty. YOU KNOW I'M RIGHT.

 

*heff heff*

 

But, yeah, I don't want anymore fighting but she should at least get a hint this isn't a pretty way to act...

 

Anyways, I wanna stay out of this now. Because i loathe thinking girly girls can be crude or bad.

 

 

 

...and, uhhh, your welcome about making you laugh^^;;;

Edited September 17, 201312 yr by ~DawnStar2004~

Looking back, my mother did apologize once after I told her that I was tired of putting up with my sister, but she never really does receive any sort of punishment for the way she acts.

 

I'm very upset at my cousins who used to visit often and were around when my sister yells at me (and she tended to yell at me more cause I guess she felt more authorative when they were around), but they never defended me. Awhile ago i remember my cousins fighting and I told them to knock it off and my cousin replied " now you know how we feel when you and your sister fight" and now that I look back, I'm just offended by that comment. Its not like I chose to be bullied, like I chose to be yelled at by my sister. It couldn't even be considered fighting, it was more my sister yelling at me for a mess a cousin made, and when I tried to clan it up she would just tell me to do it faster. That doesn't warrant it called fighting, that's called bullying. And she (my cousin) was there and made no move to stop it. I understand she was probably just scared of her too, but that comments make me think " I'm so sorry you felt akward while my sister screamed at me for things I didn't do" I.know that doesn't have to do with you but it makes me very happy (and veryupset) that a complete stranger would stick up for me and my own family wouldn't. So thanks. I appreciate it.

Kicking down your sister's door and yelling to the point of shattering a window (Not really, but I did scare the bejeebeez outta someone to the point that I may have scarred them for life) would be nice, but I have to be realistic here in solution advice...

 

Looking back, my mother did apologize once after I told her that I was tired of putting up with my sister, but she never really does receive any sort of punishment for the way she acts. 

So your parents (or at least your mom) seem to notice this? I find it rather odd that they're not trying to fix this problem. Either your parents are ignoring you and are just superficially sympathizing with you, or they are genuinely concerned with how you feel but are too lazy/powerless/scared to try and correct this problem. Assuming that they're not on your side, it seems like the counselor option may be your best bet. Venting your problems here on a forum may get you some helpful advice/tips, but remember that it's just that: Advice and/or tips from an online entity as far as you're concerned. Perhaps speaking to a counselor/nurse/therapist can get you some real world solutions since it's better to talk person to person.

 

I'm very upset at my cousins who used to visit often, but they never defended me.  i remember my cousins fighting and I told them to knock it off and my cousin replied " now you know how we feel when you and your sister fight" 

Ok this is rather disturbing. They don't know the other side of the story, and already they're indifferent/annoyed whenever stuff like this happens? 

 

my sister yelling at me for a mess a cousin made...she (my cousin) was there and made no move to stop it. I understand she was probably just scared of her too

Red flag right there, and from the sounds of things it seems that they're on her side. And unless it's been confirmed by your cousins that they are scared of her, either they are indifferent towards the behavior or are on her side, which is just horrible.

 

that comments make me think " I'm so sorry you felt awkward while my sister screamed at me for things I didn't do"

Ok woah... Stop. No. Don't you go blaming yourself. Basing only on the information given here, you should not feel sorry and think that. Rather, you should be thinking and asking them to help you. If they refuse, then it just confirms the bad news. If they decide to help (if they still visit), have your cousins talk to your parents about this. Have them remark on how bad she's treating you, give your parents an outside view of the situation. If another person other than you is commenting on how bad your sister is acting to you, it should open their eyes to the scope and magnitude of the situation. 

I don't know if there is a rule about ranting about family problems on here but here it goes. Me and my sister are 6 years age apart and she's past the age of a legal adult but she still acts like a child. If something doesn't go her way she throws temper tantrums. She yells and hits things and acts spoiled. When i was very young she would tell me things like "you ruined everones lives for being born" and i was so young then Ibeleived her. When I was around ten she slapped me and then apologized cause she worried i would tell our mom. She tells me a lot of things like " your face is oily or you have asian eyes" all the time and doesn't think she's being rude, but if Isaid anything like that to her she would flip out. I'm very sensitive so if someone makes me upset I cry even when Idont want to. I wish i could just put her in her place. She never says please to me and she demands things like say if Iwas in her way she would say "move." Back when she moved out of my room and left some stuff behind she would just throw the door open and barged into my room but I was NEVER allowed in HER room. This one time she couldn't find what she was looking for so she picked up MY bag, turned it over and dumped all of my objects on the floor. She's the type of person who will blame everyone else for her mistakes before even thinking it was her fault. Like sometimes she would blame me for being in the bathroom when she wanted it, even though it was like ten and she should have gotten up earlier and used it. She used to blame me for being late for school. But beforethat I would have to wake 3 hours earlier than I should just to get in the bathroom before her, because she would make me late but she didn't care about that. She calls people very innapropriate names if they barely do ANYTHING. If you even look at her wrong all of a sudden your a mother effing a hole. She isn't always awful to me, and sometimes if she's excited about something we both like shell talk to me about it like a new pokemon game or something, but to me that does not excuse the way she treats me. I always try to not talk to her or stay away from her but she always comes to me. I don't know if she loves me or not, but Icant say she truly does because who would ever treat someone you love this way? I do know i don't love her and in fact Ibeleive I am disgusted by her. Which I think is valid considering my earlist memories of her are her telling me I should never have been born. I'm not even allowed to call her my sister, Itried one time years ago and she said "Don't EVER call me that She isn't awful to everyone even though she's rude to me and my parents she's nice to her friends and kind to animals. But for some reason she has no trouble treating me terribly. The worst part is my sister looks exactly like my best friend. Even though they look the same i think my best friend is the one of the most beautiful girls.and my sister is ugly. Its terrible how someone so sweet caring and loyal looks like a girl who is impatient rude and arrogant. It makes me sad cause I really look up to my friend and want to be like her, but why of all people did my sister look like her?! I think I actually do look like my friend because I've been told twice I do. And the only reason Imight think my sister looks like her is because my sister looks similar to me and I look like my friend more face wise and my sister has the same shade and tylpe hair as her so that's why Iprobably think it. But anyways the point is my sister is terrible and I really need advice on how to deal with her. I'm at a loss and I'm at a breaking point at putting up with her. She's in college so she still lives with us I don't know how to live with her anymore. I can't even tell her she does anything wrong or she will say I'm just being whiny or she will freak out and say make ME that one who is bothersome.

 

It'll be a year in October since I've left my dad's. I couldn't take the stress of dealing with my step-sister or the fact that I was unwanted there. I left and have been much happier since, even if my dad and I dun keep in contact. I've kinda been on my own since before I left. It's something I grew used to, even being a sensitive person stopped mattering at that point.I'm not sure if you have a way to escape, but I've been through a completely similar process with my step-sister and I figured that sharing experiences is just one way to get things out and feel better about things. I used to zone people out and lock my door sometimes too.

She sounds like my uncle and I just straight up ignore him...your problem may be a bit more serious though...

Hey you guys, I just wanted to say thanks. When I posted this iit was a very sensitive subject so I worried about the responses I would receive. I was really sure that people would tell me that all siblings fight and I should just suck it up and stop complaining. I really actually feared about confiding this to anyone, let alone complete strangers. Yet i really seem to love the Kingdom Hearts community so i decided to come here =) and imagine how comforted I was to receive responses that were supportive, rather than dismissal or rejecting. I've decided to just ignore her, and if she notices, well honestly Idont know how she will react. When it comes to my parents, I don't know how they will react to this either. I know they understand my sister is, troublesome, because we would all get in the car and take a drive while she was having her tantrums so we wouldn't have to be there for it. Because of this, i hope they will be on my side if my ignoring her becomes an issue. The counselor seemed like a good idea, but I know she's not the type where words can work it out. But anyways I'm happy for all the good advice you've given me, and didn't scold me or reject me. I want you guys to know that even though we may be on the internet, you have helped me personally. Thank you =)

I didnt read the whole thing, just half of it. From what I read, it seems like the act of the 1st born not being the only child anymore. so he/she takes his/her anger out on the younger sibling. This is something that happens. She's either going to keep acting this way forever or just finally accept you.