A question for the ladies

[Neptune Vasilias 340]

Do you guys ever get upset when you break-up with the guy? Why do some girls make reasons or create problems to force the break-up? Why do some girls call the guy "clingy" when they're the ones saying "You're the rock in my life and I'd be lost without please marry me"? Why do some girls look at other guy in public and call them "cute" right in front of you but when you say "Hi" to a friend from school that is a girl they get all upset? Just questions...from personal experience

Edited March 1, 2014 by Kaiser SilverSun

[KHUndertaleFan25 2,858]

I have no idea. I'm not even in a relationship. Just saying.

[Tari Kancheewa 1]

I think in my own personal experience (as a woman) that what you describe works the other way as well. I think it's just a case of hormones and seeing the reactions of the other half, me personally I don't really mind, but I'm not what would be classed as a typical woman, when I am in a relationship the man that I am in the relationship with usually gets all huffy when I talk to my friends (most of whom are boys) and yes I will admit I was sick with envy once when an old flame of mine turned up with another girl on his arm, I think it's just down to the way the relationship goes.

Usually possessiveness is a sign of insecurity.

 

As for the "causing a break-up" I don't really know what to say to that. it's usually down to the fact that the other half has done something that they don't like but they are too nice to justtell you to push off. (that's why I do it anyway).

 

And the marriage proposals... perhaps she's ready for the commitment... or thinks she is anyway.

 

Hope this helps you out a little.

[Fierce Deity Link 926]

*Expects something sexist when reading title*

 

*Sees sexism*

 

*Leaves*

 

Which is what I would've said if I didn't read "from personal experience" before clicking post.

[Tigerruss 576]

*guns pointing at me* *looks down* Oh... *leaves thre---*  Wait, I think I can answer some of this.

"Why do some girls make reasons or create problems to force the break-up?" *
Probably the same reasons guys do. Stuff like not being bold enough to, or not wanting to be known as the one who broke up with the other. I am sure there are more reasons.


"Why do some girls call the guy "clingy" when they're the ones saying "You're the rock in my life and I'd be lost without please marry me"?"
Simple answer, not all girls are "clingy" and lots of people don't like it when someone is too clingy.
Their are two types of clingy "they are more interested than I am." And what's described in this.
http://iamcocoa.com/relationships/2011/3/15/5-signs-youre-too-clingy.html

"Why do some girls look at other guy in public and call them "cute" right in front of you but when you say "Hi" to a friend from school that is a girl they get all upset?"*
If the girl in situation is dating the "you".
There are many options for that.
Though most of them that I can think of start with either "she is afraid of losing you", "she wants to control you", or literally "she doesn't realize what she is doing".

*Pure speculation

[Neptune Vasilias 340]

*Expects something sexist when reading title*

 

*Sees sexism*

 

*Leaves*

 

Which is what I would've said if I didn't read "from personal experience" before clicking post.

Sorry if it comes off as sexist I...I'm just lost so sorry if it comes off offensive

*guns pointing at me* *looks down* Oh... *leaves thre---*  Wait, I think I can answer some of this.

 

"Why do some girls make reasons or create problems to force the break-up?" *

Probably the same reasons guys do. Stuff like not being bold enough to, or not wanting to be known as the one who broke up with the other. I am sure there are more reasons.

 

 

"Why do some girls call the guy "clingy" when they're the ones saying "You're the rock in my life and I'd be lost without please marry me"?"

Simple answer, not all girls are "clingy" and lots of people don't like it when someone is too clingy.

Their are two types of clingy "they are more interested than I am." And what's described in this.

http://iamcocoa.com/relationships/2011/3/15/5-signs-youre-too-clingy.html

"Why do some girls look at other guy in public and call them "cute" right in front of you but when you say "Hi" to a friend from school that is a girl they get all upset?"*

If the girl in situation is dating the "you".

There are many options for that.

Though most of them that I can think of start with either "she is afraid of losing you", "she wants to control you", or literally "she doesn't realize what she is doing".

*Pure speculation

She told her friends I was clingy when they asked about the break-up but gave me a different reason also would major daddy issues factor into possessive behavior?

[Tigerruss 576]

Sorry if it comes off as sexist I...I'm just lost so sorry if it comes off offensive

She told her friends I was clingy when they asked about the break-up but gave me a different reason also would major daddy issues factor into possessive behavior?

There are three possible outcomes that could have happened, that I can see.1. The girl gave you the true reason, and gave a fake reason to her friends to keep up appearances.2. The girl gave you a fake reason, and vented to her friends the real reason.3. The girl gave you a fake reason, and gave a fake reason to her friends to keep up appearances.I will not guess which one is the actual one. And there might be more options I didn't see.I am no expert, but issues with parents can cause "behavioral problems".

[Neptune Vasilias 340]

There are three possible outcomes that could have happened, that I can see.1. The girl gave you the true reason, and gave a fake reason to her friends to keep up appearances.2. The girl gave you a fake reason, and vented to her friends the real reason.3. The girl gave you a fake reason, and gave a fake reason to her friends to keep up appearances.I will not guess which one is the actual one. And there might be more options I didn't see.I am no expert, but issues with parents can cause "behavioral problems".

Thank you you've been extremely helpful

[Percseus 52]

This is when you develop an attitude called "I do not trust these hoes" 

lol no

It could be a multitude of things explained above good luck man..

[Neptune Vasilias 340]

This is when you develop an attitude called "I do not trust these hoes" 

lol no

It could be a multitude of things explained above good luck man..

Thanks. Lol my boy said the same same thing last night on GTA Online when we airstriked a car I dedicated to her hahahha he was like "nigga we don't trust these hoes"

[Fierce Deity Link 926]

Oh, no, I'm saying that's what I expected, but then saw something actually happened to you, and wasn't one of those random "why are girls so weird " kind of threads which we've had before. I wasn't offended at all, since I'm 100% muh-male.

[Neptune Vasilias 340]

Oh, no, I'm saying that's what I expected, but then saw something actually happened to you, and wasn't one of those random "why are girls so weird " kind of threads which we've had before. I wasn't offended at all, since I'm 100% muh-male.

Oh ok sorry

[Ghost 1,857]

"Why do some girls look at other guy in public and call them "cute" right in front of you but when you say "Hi" to a friend from school that is a girl they get all upset?"*

If the girl in situation is dating the "you".

There are many options for that.

Though most of them that I can think of start with either "she is afraid of losing you", "she wants to control you", or literally "she doesn't realize what she is doing".

*Pure speculation

I agree with this I can say that this can go for both sides and genders, unfortunately some people COUGHCOUGHHME do it subconsciously on spot, and don't realize it til after. I call everyone cute but I should start toning it down It's not good to make your partner jealous (no reason is justified), and it's especially worse if both parties do it back and forth...you cant have a relationship based on trying to male the other jealous. Again, it's not just girls, both sides of course do it too, since we re all human. Buuuuut it doesnt make it a good habit

 

I'm just speaking from my experience, I am NOT speaking on behalf of all women, but for me the "she is afraid of losing you" accurately describes me I know I gotta work on that, though, and catch myself when I do. its just not fair to the other person and cause feelings of inadequacy for them...which nobody ever wants their loved one to feel. Again, not speaking on behalf of all women, haha.

 

But i feel like a lot of people will call another person attractive in front of a partner as...reassurance, kind of? Like saying "Oh, _____ is so hot" could be like a way of saying "I need to know that you care about me and that I wont lose you", but it can often have the opposite effect. If anything it can push two people away even more. If this ever happens, honestly i would sit down with your partner, talk about feelings - as always, communication is key. just approach it nice, civil manner and if two people come to an understanding thats great! ^^

 

Kaiser, I'm sorry about your relationship :[ Do you think it could have been for lack of communication or something? I dont know you two, so its probsbly not in my place to speak, but maybe she's just uninterested...i mean, what do you want to do? do you think you'll get back? either way, try taking this time to focus on yourself. hang out with some friends and bros and stuff :] Maybe keep this in mind for future relationships, but IMO if she thought you were clingy she should have said so, communication is sooooo important in relationships.

 

dont feel too bad about it though, buddy. maybe she could need some time to think about her personal life... do you two still talk?

[Neptune Vasilias 340]

I agree with this I can say that this can go for both sides and genders, unfortunately some people COUGHCOUGHHME do it subconsciously on spot, and don't realize it til after. I call everyone cute but I should start toning it down It's not good to make your partner jealous (no reason is justified), and it's especially worse if both parties do it back and forth...you cant have a relationship based on trying to male the other jealous. Again, it's not just girls, both sides of course do it too, since we re all human. Buuuuut it doesnt make it a good habitI'm just speaking from my experience, I am NOT speaking on behalf of all women, but for me the "she is afraid of losing you" accurately describes me I know I gotta work on that, though, and catch myself when I do. its just not fair to the other person and cause feelings of inadequacy for them...which nobody ever wants their loved one to feel. Again, not speaking on behalf of all women, haha.But i feel like a lot of people will call another person attractive in front of a partner as...reassurance, kind of? Like saying "Oh, _____ is so hot" could be like a way of saying "I need to know that you care about me and that I wont lose you", but it can often have the opposite effect. If anything it can push two people away even more. If this ever happens, honestly i would sit down with your partner, talk about feelings - as always, communication is key. just approach it nice, civil manner and if two people come to an understanding thats great! ^^Kaiser, I'm sorry about your relationship :[ Do you think it could have been for lack of communication or something? I dont know you two, so its probsbly not in my place to speak, but maybe she's just uninterested...i mean, what do you want to do? do you think you'll get back? either way, try taking this time to focus on yourself. hang out with some friends and bros and stuff :] Maybe keep this in mind for future relationships, but IMO if she thought you were clingy she should have said so, communication is sooooo important in relationships.dont feel too bad about it though, buddy. maybe she could need some time to think about her personal life... do you two still talk?

Thank you. She texted me once since she left me about 2 weeks ago. She was saying how I'm too busy with swim and that we never hang out or see one another and then when I started trying to set up biweekly date nights she started declining so I kept giving more suggestions that could compliment both our schedules but she just kept refusing. So then I said "Fine we won't work out a way to be with one another more often and we'll see how well that goes" then she said "........ok.......". She kept saying "I want us both to be happy" even though I said "I'm happy with you". She almost made me give the one true thing I love and that I'm good at that isn't considered nerdy. Then she kept apologizing and saying "Sorry and Let's be best friends" but I just kept saying "Goodbye". She said we might get back together when things "change" but her ex told me she said the same exact words. She has major daddy issues and even her best friend warned me about her emotional stability but I didn't listen....maybe she was uninterested. Now I'm wondering if she even "loved" and did saying I wanted to wait and use protection scare her away. I wanted it to be special but...I guess she didn't. Thanks for listening and the good advice

[Light Guardian 33]

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[Ghost 1,857]

Thank you. She texted me once since she left me about 2 weeks ago. She was saying how I'm too busy with swim and that we never hang out or see one another and then when I started trying to set up biweekly date nights she started declining so I kept giving more suggestions that could compliment both our schedules but she just kept refusing. So then I said "Fine we won't work out a way to be with one another more often and we'll see how well that goes" then she said "........ok.......". She kept saying "I want us both to be happy" even though I said "I'm happy with you". She almost made me give the one true thing I love and that I'm good at that isn't considered nerdy. Then she kept apologizing and saying "Sorry and Let's be best friends" but I just kept saying "Goodbye". She said we might get back together when things "change" but her ex told me she said the same exact words. She has major daddy issues and even her best friend warned me about her emotional stability but I didn't listen....maybe she was uninterested. Now I'm wondering if she even "loved" and did saying I wanted to wait and use protection scare her away. I wanted it to be special but...I guess she didn't. Thanks for listening and the good advice

Aww, poor woman :c Well, how do you still see her? Maybe what she doesnt need is a lover, but a friend(s). Relationships can only go so far as both people are willing to take them, and not just one person. Maybe she's just not in a good position/time to be in one right now or something. If i were in your spot i'd still be her friend ^^ dont blame yourself or her for anything bro, some things we just cant control. everything'll work out in the end, just dont put yourself under too much stress, okay? stress is never fun D:

[Neptune Vasilias 340]

Aww, poor woman :c Well, how do you still see her? Maybe what she doesnt need is a lover, but a friend(s). Relationships can only go so far as both people are willing to take them, and not just one person. Maybe she's just not in a good position/time to be in one right now or something. If i were in your spot i'd still be her friend ^^ dont blame yourself or her for anything bro, some things we just cant control. everything'll work out in the end, just dont put yourself under too much stress, okay? stress is never fun D:

Maybe your right. It's just now when I hear her name or see her I tense up and if she's in close-range I just mess with my phone and talk quietly. I'll try and be friends but I feel almost...devoid of any feelings for her sometimes

Edited March 1, 2014 by Kaiser SilverSun

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