I have a Severe Panic Disorder, Depression, and Borderline Personality Disorder. I can barely leave the house and dropped out of school. I've been putting in applications but no one is hiring me because of my mood swings. It's tough having to act like 6 or 7 different people even though you don't want to; I just can't help it. But if someone decided to hire me, should I take the job? Would I even be able to handle it? I can't leave the house for more than a half hour without hyperventilating!

Well i'am bad at giving advise but maybe something will turn up for you ya never know

Well, I can't really help you there. It's your decision. But I would say you should definately give it a go. (: Who knows, it might just work out. I'd probably reccomend a part-time job, though. (Those are, like, half-day, right? I'm not old enough for a job, so I don't know any of this stuff )

How do they know that you have these problems when you apply for a job?

That's not really the kind of thing you should put on your application, lol.

How do they know that you have these problems when you apply for a job?

That's not really the kind of thing you should put on your application, lol.

 

Disorders aren't something you announce to the world

 

But seriously, maybe you should see a psychiatrist? Are you even completely sure you have these problems?

 

How do they know that you have these problems when you apply for a job?

That's not really the kind of thing you should put on your application, lol.

 

Disorders aren't something you announce to the world

 

But seriously, maybe you should see a psychiatrist? Are you even completely sure you have these problems?

 

Like Hinako said, you just don't go onto the internet and tell everyone your problems. I would think that if you did have those disorders, you wouldn't tell people you don't even know over the internet. You know what people who have those problems do? They go see a professional. Go to your parents, tell them you need help. Go to a psychiatrist, get medication, or whatever people use to get help. Enroll into a new school and see the guidance councilor or social worker. Don't whine about it to people you probably will never meet in your life. If you do have those problems, get some professional help before ever thinking about getting a job.

I'd recommend less computer and more therapy.

Also like everyone above me said. (Why are you broadcasting this on the Internet?) You probably should go to therapy. It would help you calm down and stuffs. (: Isn't there medicine for that kind of thing?

If you can't leave the house without freaking out, I seriously doubt you can handle a job o.o

 

Like many have said....therapy seems like the most suitable solution to your problems..

I'm sorry for sounding mean here: But that's not really something you should go around tell everybody on the internet you know.

 

Just as Hinako said ..

It's understandable if you'd tell people on the Internet, if it's an actual problem and you're seeking support. But don't tell someone when you're hoping they'll employ you, lol.

But then again, if you have disorders, why apply at all? I mean, you HAVE to tell the employer, or else you might risk the safety of your fellow workers and such, depending on the job. And if you can't get a job because of it, then the best solution is to learn to control the disorders better before looking for a job again.

 

So yeah, go to some person who can help you and learn to live as normally as possible. That is your top priority right now; leave working for later. :v

I see a psych but she doesn't listen to me very well. She diagnosed me and that was it. I know it's not a good idea to tell people over the internet but who else is there to talk to. My parents don't like me bringing up the whole thing. I would go to more therapy but I can only go when my parents have the money. I need to tell the employer no matter what. Because my "bad" side comes out often so even if I don't tell the employer, he'll know that something's up. The meds I'm on aren't working and the psych won't give me any of the meds I need because of my age.

Are you sure you should be applying at all? I mean, if you're going to have trouble doing your job, why do it? How about you try applying again when you're more ready to deal with it. I've seen lots of people on t.v. with disabilities, and, sadly, I'm the only one of the grandkids without something (austism, a.d.d., ect.). So I know that if you really try, it's possible to overcome that kind of thing. I saw my brother, in the course of three years, completely change. The major thing that helps is family support. If your family won't help you, you should talk to a guidance counselor, or the parent of a friend you really trust.

I see a psych but she doesn't listen to me very well. She diagnosed me and that was it. I know it's not a good idea to tell people over the internet but who else is there to talk to. My parents don't like me bringing up the whole thing. I would go to more therapy but I can only go when my parents have the money. I need to tell the employer no matter what. Because my "bad" side comes out often so even if I don't tell the employer, he'll know that something's up. The meds I'm on aren't working and the psych won't give me any of the meds I need because of my age.

 

Why would your parents hate you bringing it up? If they loved you, they would want you to get better. Also, can't you just use insurance to pay for therapy? And one other thing, don't you get meds from your doctor or something? If I'm wrong, then your psychiatrist isn't doing their job, they should be giving you the meds you need (regardless of age). It's their job to help you get better, and if yours isn't giving you the treatment you need then you have one shizzy psychiatrist.

Hmph, Boarderline Personality Disorder, or BPD. You say you act like 6-7 different people, even when you do not wish to. I have empathy for you child, really, indeed. But instead of that same for me, I have a different personality I keep bottled up inside me, he doesn't come out no, not when anyone's around at least. Then I can talk out loud to myself, to him. But if i'm in public, I can talk to him in my head. Do to my Psychosis I have influenced that personality with my religion, now notifying him as a demon. Lately I realized i never gave HIM a name, so I thought about calling him "Daemon", its a name, but it sounds like "Demon" so it fits him.

 

During my research for personality, and emotions and mental disorders, it has come to me that scientists had discovered that insanity (Psychosis) is also able to be given by birth. As well as given during an experience in life. I discovered Daemon when I was 10-12 years old. When did you notice your disorders? Am I talking too much? I usually do, but know this: If anyone needs someone to listen to their problems, I am always here to talk to.

I don't see how you can accomplish a job when you hyperventilate every time you step out of your house. And if you have severe mood swings, I strongly suggest you don't apply for a job.. You shouldn't be restricted to live in your house forever, but at least try to deal with your problems before you go out and get a job..

I see a psych but she doesn't listen to me very well. She diagnosed me and that was it. I know it's not a good idea to tell people over the internet but who else is there to talk to. My parents don't like me bringing up the whole thing. I would go to more therapy but I can only go when my parents have the money. I need to tell the employer no matter what. Because my "bad" side comes out often so even if I don't tell the employer, he'll know that something's up. The meds I'm on aren't working and the psych won't give me any of the meds I need because of my age.

 

Shouldn't your parents be helping you out? And you say you're around 16 right? I have a friend who's 12 and takes medication. I don't think age is a problem. And you really shouldn't be working if you BPD is that bad Not until you get it under control at least.

Thanks for helping me out. The only reason why I wanted a job was becuase I needed one. I have no money at all and being 16, you want a lot of expensive things. I'm gothic, so I like Hot Topic pants but their like 60-70 dollars. My psych tells me to tough it out, that's all she keeps telling me. I would see a different psych, but my insurance only covers councelors(the ones who can't write perscriptions). I don't know why my parents don't like me bringing it up but they just don't want to hear it, they say I'm doing this all for attention and I most certainly am not!!! However, I wish I was though because then it wouldn't be serious and I could drop the "act" but sadly it's real. Besides, my bday is in another month so next year I'll be 18. By then, most people have a job or go to college. I don't want to sit on my bum all day, watching T.V. and eating junkfood. I though that if I could get a job, it'd give me something to do. And if by chance I can hold down a job, it'll make me feel good because then that would be a real accomplishment. Like I said, I only tell people over the internet because I get out of hand when I can't, so to speak, "release" my feelings.

1) Hot Topic isn't goth.

2) Labels = NO

 

Your parents should help pay for an actual psychiatrist if you really have BPD and it's that bad

Apply for a job, try your best to keep yourself in order, don't tell them outright about your disorder, maybe you'll get the job.

Like Hinako said, Hot Topic is more "punk" styled than "goth". Plus it's for posers, I mean, the more expensive clothing look like for the kind of people who are trying to hard to fit those labels. ._.

 

Also, I doubt your psychiatrist tells you to just "tough it out". A psychiatrist goes years of schooling to help people. The kind of psychiatrist that you're describing is the one who wouldn't have any clients. If she isn't helping you, why do you keep going to her? From the way you talk about it, going to her would be the equivalent of going to no one at all.

 

I have one question though. You say you have BPD, and that you act like 6-7 other people at a time and you have no control over it. How come you have sudden control over it when you're online?

^ What she said

 

Also, you get disability papers. You could show them to the people your trying to work for--I know Wal*Mart's got a program for people with disabilities, right? (Don't know any other places--like I said, I can't get a job for three or so more years )

 

Doesn't insurance cover psychiatrists and stuff? Isn't that in your insurance plan?

While I'm online, it doesn't show because I be careful what I post. When I get mad or upset I just simply don't chat with other people or if it gets real bad I go offline. There are other people who also go see the same psych that I do but they've made complaints. I know this for a fact because people are always getting pissed off in the waiting room. I've talked to a couple of them and they said that they are going to file their complaints because they think the psych isn't doing her job. I think the reason why the pysch is telling me to tough it out is because the medication I need (so she says) is addictive. She had no choice but to see me because when I got out of the institute they set me up with her because they said I needed therapy, otherwise she wasn't taking any new patients. Even though I have disability papers, I can't avoid my mood swings out in public because I just can't leave like I can online and if a customer ever came up to me with an attitude who knows where that would lead to (it wouldn't be good though). My psych says it's severe because when Angana(the one that gets angry) comes out, all hell breaks loose. She throws things, breaks things, and uses every curse word she can think of. And yes, Hot Topic is kind of a "punk rock" store but I like their jeans. They're all black and that's all I care about. I only want to buy the pants from them though because all the other things, I do agree, are "punkish" style.