So today I was thinking all day long about coming out. When picking me up, he noticed I was a bit sad. He kept asking me what happened, and said that he knew me, something was wrong. I though "it's time".

"I like a boy..."

"What?"

"I- I like boys"

I started crying... I looked down.

He asked me his name. I told him. He said we'd talk when we got home.

We did. We talked for a whole long hour. He asked me some questions, but I lied sometimes, like when he asked me about masturbation... I just couldn't tell him. Resulting in him saying that if I didn't even cum yet, then I wouldn't know my sexuality. Which I know I do.

He said, that as a dad, he won't hit me/hate me/kick me out, but he is unhappy about me. He said we'd go through this together.

But like, he says I still am not sure of my sexuality. But I am. But he kept telling me to trust him...

He also told me to avoid anything special with the boy I like. I'm very sad about this. He said I'm confusing love with friendship.

srsly?

AND he wants me to go to a psychiatrist. ._.

I don't feel better out, for some reason. He said he was happy how open I was of this. He obviously talked about aids and blah blah.

He also said he'd tell my mom later tonight. not sure how it's going...

Sorry dude. Some parents are just like that.

At least you came clean. Most people don't tell anyone and then they end up killing themselves over it. "IN TIME EVERYTHING WILL WORK ITS WAY OUT FOR THE BETTER"

That's

actually

really really good

Because it shows that you're father is open about the subject and will look past and there is a very good chance that when you're older, he will completely accept you even if he's saying he's unhappy now.

I see his point about thinking you're not sure and you're confused and etc., because you are young.

I honestly would've loved if my parents were like this when I came out.

At least you didn't get them yelling at you and crying and telling you that it's a phase and that you're just desperate and just completely no chance of acceptance

I agree with Koko. That's actually a good reaction compared to what a lot of people go through.

 

I would like to say I am happy you came out though and it's all out in the open. That's a very hard thing to do and very brave.

 

I just wrote a piece for a school assignment about a man named Mr. Byrne who was an English Lit teacher. He's gay and no one at school knew. Later that year he wanted to walk in the St. Patrick's Day Parade, but they didn't allow gays to walk. He said, "I gotta take a stand." and he walked with the Gay and Lesbian Organization instead.

 

When he went back to school, the students asked what he did. He told them he walked with the G&L Organization and when the students asked him "Why did you walk with them?", he told them "Because I'm gay."

 

I thought that was so brave, so I wrote about how he is an inspiration. 2 years later, that class asked him to be their graduating speaker, which is a real honor. Not many teachers would admit to their student that they're gay. It earned him a lot of love and respect though. The students took it very well and helped him with it.

 

It's always good to be who you are and not be afraid of it

Well.... That was a pretty good reaction. I've seen parents react worse(seen a friend of mine come out of the closet in front of his mom and dad and his father beat the crap out of him when they got home)

 

One thing that lead him to think you don't know your sexuality: you said you lied at some parts right? Well, I'm not saying you did wrong by lying, I lie to my parents about those sorts of things too. But it comes with a price. Yours was your father thinking you're still too unexperienced in these things to truly know.

 

But either way, not going to rain on your parade. Congrats dude.

well for one thing, its just that he is slightly shocked. he'll come to realize this and accept this later on.

and thats actually really good. you are able to trust him in things like that.

i know i cant even dare to tell my parents if i was ever instrested in the same gender.

Thats awesome.

It good that you trust your dad and this is the first step to coming out of the closet.He is shooked.But like Aqua said

he'll come to realize this and accept this later on.

Good job kin

First off, good for you for being brave enough to tell him. The reason why he seems upset is probably because this is a total shock to him, so he may not know what to make of it yet. But the fact that he didn't verbally or physically attack you for being who you are is a good thing, as some people would resort to those measures.

 

Give him some time, and he'll come around and fully accept who you are. And if he doesn't, it's your life, so he should at least respect your choice.

 

You should be proud of yourself.

You're lucky that your dad didn't overeact. There are some parents that go absolutely mad about it.

Your dad is trying to help you, but you must be yourself.

Good luck

He also told me not to accept any of those "jokes" the boy does. God, he spoke of AIDS. He thinks I'll get AIDS, ALREADY. Wtf.

Mom probably knows. She came and kissed me goodnight, for the first time in years.

I was extremely sad in school. Coming out to my dad was NOT something that made me happy. I Could see he was worried about me, but he told me not to come out to anyone, and deny if anyone says I'm bi. He says I'll regret it, in case I find my sexuality isn't this. I know I'm sure about it, though.

People kept asking me what was wrong. I almost cried in P.E, and I wouldn't do anything. I stood there getting hit in the volley field, while watching the boy I like pay soccer.

I simply... I feel part is already out, but if I can't tell this to other people I'll feel even sadder.

Dad wants to talk to me everyday, now.

Why do I feel worse? most people say it makes you feel better... I see the boy I like and feel horrible that I'm not even allowed to try to be with him...

I guess I can see where your dad is coming from, though. People do go through a lot of phases while growing up, and he probably just thinks that this is a phase that you're going through now. Hell, maybe it is, and you'll feel different in a year. I'm not saying that it is, it's just a possibility.

 

But anyway, continue talking with him about it, it'll be good for you. Once again, you're brave for admitting how you've felt to him.

There is a chance you're not bi.

I know you feel sure, but you have to remember, sexuality is a fluid thing, and can change over time.

So I think your dad has your best interests by telling you not to come out to anyone else because maybe he's worried you'll get bullied and beaten up and then in the end it turns out you weren't bisexual.

I honestly would be happy. You're dad seems to be concerned and although you might see it as a negative concern, it's actually really good seeing that he wants to talk about it with you, something my parents never did.

There is a chance you're not bi.

I know you feel sure, but you have to remember, sexuality is a fluid thing, and can change over time.

So I think your dad has your best interests by telling you not to come out to anyone else because maybe he's worried you'll get bullied and beaten up and then in the end it turns out you weren't bisexual.

I honestly would be happy. You're dad seems to be concerned and although you might see it as a negative concern, it's actually really good seeing that he wants to talk about it with you, something my parents never did.

 

For the first time ever, I think I'm going to have to agree with Kooky here. Although your father had a more or less good reaction, he only wants what's best for you. He's thinking of all the possible routes life may take. That's something we used to call "real-time tactics" back in the days.