What do you think, is it alright that I'm 14 but my boyfriend is 19?

I'm your friend...? ;A;

 

 

I have no misgivings. I trust him 100%.

Why I have to be 14??

 

Im everyone's friend here if they accept it haha

 

But if thats how you feel, I can tell there is no stopping you. Just make sure you're careful and take your time and enjoy your life, thats all.

 

Adults may seem they're trying to keep you away from happiness, when all they're really doing is trying to protect you. Sometimes they do it the wrong way, but you have to think… Would you rather have a parent that didn't give a shit? Would you rather them ignore you and not care what you did? Or would you rather have a parent that loves you, does care about what you do and tries to protect you? You don't really understand it until you're an adult.

 

I thought my parents were out to get me when I was a kid/teen. I was always punished for something stupid or being told "no" at everything… but now I know why. It wasnt to ruin my life, it was because they were teaching me a lesson and trying to protect me because they love me. If it wasn't for their protection, love and advice, I would've had a LOT of awful things happen to me. So don't think they're trying to ruin your life or take away your happiness, they're just trying to make sure you're safe and having a normal life.

Age doesn't matter after the age of 18.

As of now, this is considered pedophilia.

 

But as everyone else said: it's your life.

Me and my ex-girlfriend were 6 years apart, and we were a really good couple. Honestly, if you/he explain to your/his parents, and they're fine with it, then there should be no legal problem as long as you two watch what you do and don't push each other. That includes sex and stuff.

 

But, I feel that as long as there's true love there, then age is just a number. Keep the connection you have with the other person strong.

 

I know a couple that loves each other for 8 years.

 

They started dating when they were 9 years old.

Im everyone's friend here if they accept it haha

 

But if thats how you feel, I can tell there is no stopping you. Just make sure you're careful and take your time and enjoy your life, thats all.

 

Adults may seem they're trying to keep you away from happiness, when all they're really doing is trying to protect you. Sometimes they do it the wrong way, but you have to think… Would you rather have a parent that didn't give a shit? Would you rather them ignore you and not care what you did? Or would you rather have a parent that loves you, does care about what you do and tries to protect you? You don't really understand it until you're an adult.

 

I thought my parents were out to get me when I was a kid/teen. I was always punished for something stupid or being told "no" at everything… but now I know why. It wasnt to ruin my life, it was because they were teaching me a lesson and trying to protect me because they love me. If it wasn't for their protection, love and advice, I would've had a LOT of awful things happen to me. So don't think they're trying to ruin your life or take away your happiness, they're just trying to make sure you're safe and having a normal life.

 

I know these things ^^

I know these things ^^

 

Good

 

Good luck with your situation. If you need more advice somewhere down the line you can always message me.

I'm not that kind of a kid.

And I know we never get married, because he doesn't want to.

But I really love him. He is the best thing that's ever meen mine. I don't know how I could survive without him. I think you all already know how depressed I am...

 

Either way, as a teenager, your hormones are going to be out of control. And tbh, the entire point of dating is so people can see how they'd fit together when they get married.

I'll keep this short.

 

"Patience" and "Trust". If you can handle these two things in your relationship, you'll be fine.

Age doesn't matter after the age of 18.

As of now, this is considered pedophilia.

 

But as everyone else said: it's your life.

 

It's not pedophilia. He doesn't want anything from me.

I am the one who want sex and these kind of things, not him.

I am mature and I know what is right or wrong.

 

He loves me etc. because on my nature, not because I'm 14.

 

 

 

Either way, as a teenager, your hormones are going to be out of control. And tbh, the entire point of dating is so people can see how they'd fit together when they get married.

 

Just because I'm teenager doesn't mean that I don't know what's right or good to me.

And I don't wanna marry him. I just wanna be him boyfriend, because I love him.

It's not pedophilia. He doesn't want anything from me.

I am the one who want sex and these kind of things, not him.

I am mature and I know what is right or wrong.

 

He loves me etc. because on my nature, not because I'm 14.

 

You're not seeing it as that because you love him and you're the one who wants it. But like I said earlier, in the legal system thats what its considered. So, he's correct in having you wait. He obviously knows the consequences in being sexually intimate with a minor, and he doesn't want to get in trouble or be locked up if anyone ever found out about it. People do report these things. Even though there's quotes out there like, "Age makes no difference" and "Age is nothing but a number", age makes a huge difference and comes with a ton of complications. It may seem unfair, but its a law to protect minors like yourself.

You're not seeing it as that because you love him and you're the one who wants it. But like I said earlier, in the legal system thats what its considered. So, he's correct in having you wait. He obviously knows the consequences in being sexually intimate with a minor, and he doesn't want to get in trouble or be locked up if anyone ever found out about it. People do report these things. Even though there's quotes out there like, "Age makes no difference" and "Age is nothing but a number", age makes a huge difference and comes with a ton of complications. It may seem unfair, but its a law to protect minors like yourself.

 

What bad could happen? And don't say anything like "He will rape and kill you" or "He isn't 19"

I know who he is and I trust him. And he trust in me. And if we ever had sex, how bad is it? He dosn't have AIDS or anything else.

Just because I'm teenager doesn't mean that I don't know what's right or good to me.

And I don't wanna marry him. I just wanna be him boyfriend, because I love him.

 

Honey, I'm a teenager too, and I go to school with some pretty hormone-hyped people, so trust me on this one. How long exactly have you known this boy?

Consider this as an advice. If there are problems in your relationship, its between you and your bf, but listen carefully, Don't you ever burden, cost trouble, and involve your family when things go wrong between you and your bf. That is your responsibility. Remember that. I don't have to explain further so do some thinking on your own. Good luck.

Honey, I'm a teenager too, and I go to school with some pretty hormone-hyped people, so trust me on this one. How long exactly have you known this boy?

 

Really? Big surprise

 

We met 17.04.-11

And we've been in relationship since 12.07.

Really? Big surprise

 

We met 17.04.-11

And we've been in relationship since 12.07.

 

Um... 17 isn't a month... o-o

Consider this as an advice. If there are problems in your relationship, its between you and your bf, but listen carefully, Don't you ever burden, cost trouble, and involve your family when things go wrong between you and your bf. That is your responsibility. Remember that. I don't have to explain further so do some thinking on your own. Good luck.

 

Really, an advice?

I will never tell to my parents about this.

And what could go wrong between us?

 

 

 

Um... 17 isn't a month... o-o

 

I mean 17th on April.

17 is day, 4 month...

Sorry, I'm from Finland. Here it's DD/MM/YYYY.

 

And 12.7. is July, 12th...

You don't need to ask me these kind of questions. Figure it out yourself.

You don't need to ask me these kind of questions. Figure it out yourself.

 

Aha...

I'm sorry to be a bit rude but yeah, Its part of growing up. Learn from it. You'll soon realize it once you've grown older. Once again, Good luck.

What bad could happen? And don't say anything like "He will rape and kill you" or "He isn't 19"

I know who he is and I trust him. And he trust in me. And if we ever had sex, how bad is it? He dosn't have AIDS or anything else.

 

Well, that IS a possibility lol When you meet someone over the internet, you don't know what you're getting. Start watching the news, reading the paper, reading articles online.. Kids are lured in every single day, raped and killed because of meeting people they think they trust from the internet. You gotta be careful with these things. Im not saying thats who he is though. Im really not, again, just saying to be careful. Like, if you ever met up with each other, meet in a highly public area like a mall, restaurant, park.. somewhere people can see you and maybe even have a friend follow you around or be with you. Its always better to be safe than sorry.

 

As for the sex, how bad is it? Oh boy lol It firetrucking hurts. The first 5-6 or even more times, it hurts. Its God awful. You don't start enjoying that until later because.. well, don't wanna get into detail, but you just gotta get used to it lol Its not nearly as fun as you see in the movies your first time. Later on it is, but the first few times suck. Thats not a joke either.

 

And Im sure you would use protection. That is 100% necessary, whether he has an STD or not. Always use protection. He's 19, odds are he's had a good amount of partners by now. There's nothing wrong with that, but that should be something to think about. If he truly loves and cares about you, he would get tested (Ive had someone tested before) and personally show you the report. Sometimes thats just necessary.

I'm sorry to be a bit rude but yeah, Its part of growing up. Learn from it. You'll soon realize it once you've grown older. Once again, Good luck.

 

So you think he will rape me or something like that?

 

 

 

Well, that IS a possibility lol When you meet someone over the internet, you don't know what you're getting. Start watching the news, reading the paper, reading articles online.. Kids are lured in every single day, raped and killed because of meeting people they think they trust from the internet. You gotta be careful with these things. Im not saying thats who he is though. Im really not, again, just saying to be careful. Like, if you ever met up with each other, meet in a highly public area like a mall, restaurant, park.. somewhere people can see you and maybe even have a friend follow you around or be with you. Its always better to be safe than sorry.

 

As for the sex, how bad is it? Oh boy lol It firetrucking hurts. The first 5-6 or even more times, it hurts. Its God awful. You don't start enjoying that until later because.. well, don't wanna get into detail, but you just gotta get used to it lol Its not nearly as fun as you see in the movies your first time. Later on it is, but the first few times suck. Thats not a joke either.

 

And Im sure you would use protection. That is 100% necessary, whether he has an STD or not. Always use protection. He's 19, odds are he's had a good amount of partners by now. There's nothing wrong with that, but that should be something to think about. If he truly loves and cares about you, he would get tested (Ive had someone tested before) and personally show you the report. Sometimes thats just necessary.

 

I know it hurts.

 

Even if he is 19, he is virgin...

I mean 17th on April.

17 is day, 4 month...

Sorry, I'm from Finland. Here it's DD/MM/YYYY.

 

And 12.7. is July, 12th...

 

Oh, I kinda thought it was the same everywhere. My mistake.

 

Either way, you haven't honestly known him that long, and you ARE fourteen, so come back in a year and we'll see if you're still in love. When you're not, we'll all know it was just puppy love. Anyway, I'm mostly just against this because it's illegal, but it's your decision to make.

Oh, I kinda thought it was the same everywhere. My mistake.  

 

Either way, you haven't honestly known him that long, and you ARE fourteen, so come back in a year and we'll see if you're still in love. When you're not, we'll all know it was just puppy love. Anyway, I'm mostly just against this because it's illegal, but it's your decision to make.

 

Ok... Why you can't believe that I really love him? It hurts when you say that it's not working. 'Oh yeah, I'm just 14. I don't know these things ^^' Yea, right I know that I'll love him more than year.

I think being 5 years apart is really weird, at your current age.

However, say you were 20 and he was 25, then it wouldn't be weird at all .

Ok... Why you can't believe that I really love him? It hurts when you say that it's not working. 'Oh yeah, I'm just 14. I don't know these things ^^' Yea, right > I know that I'll love him more than year.

 

While I believe that you do love him, I don't think you love him the way you think you do. And tbh, he's going to leave for college, military service, or SOMETHING soon, and will probably leave you behind. And I know I sound awfully mean, but that's probably what's going to happen like if he goes off to college. Do you expect him to go around bragging about the 14-year-old girlfriend he's too far away to see very often?

Personally, I don't see too much wrong with it as long as you don't do anything besides "dates". Like, nothing further than doing things together, hugging, and maybe cheek kisses. Anything pass that, such as lip to lip kissing and... erm... well you know, could get him into serious trouble (like, life ruining trouble).

 

To be honest with you, many of the problems that are had with this are that you are 14 and he is 19. You are a high schooler (or soon to be) and he is at college/university (or soon to be). If you were like 20 and he was 25, then no problems. But you are 14, a minor, while is 19 and isn't a minor. Of course, you know all this.

 

Oh, and one more thing. From what you have posted, it sounds as if you may be infatuated, which is not necessarily love.

Infatuation consists of people thinking they are in love but when indeed it is just a deep lust or like for another person.

This is from Urban Dictionary, but I felt it better stated what I was trying to say than other definitions I found.