As some of you know, I'm lovingly devoted to my beloved Neko-chan. Unfortunately, my parents disapprove of any kind of romantic relationship in my life, let alone one forged and maintained online. At times I get where they're coming from so I stay back from this site. Most other times, I find myself drawn back here so I can talk with the girl who means the most to me. But now the guilt of coming here is equal with the justified urge of doing so. I'm just kind of at war with myself and need to pick a side. Love or loyalty. Help?

In my opinion,i think you should pick the Loyalty side,since it will avoid you from being offline on this Site any longer,and much of the members are worrying about you and missing you,and not just that,you can still see your beloved Neko-chan,but with casually.But if you really love her that much,you have the right to pick the Love Side and i hope you will face an unexpected measures safely...

Edited August 8, 201312 yr by Hazimie

Your parents are just worried about you. Many of us grew up on the Internet though so many of the things we do (roleplaying, having friends, etc.) are some things they just don't understand about the Internet. No matter how much you explain it to them they probably will never get it nor care, so I just never told my parents anything. But that was because my parents never asked. I don't do anything bad, it's just the average stuff I do would confuse them.

 

And I'm assuming your younger so your parents are trying to be especially careful. You two may be alright, but there are sick people out there, and your parents just probably don't want any of the bad things that have happened to happen to you.

 

Just stay with your girlfriend. If you must, just don't even discuss it with your parents at all. No offense but I don't get why you would even tell them in the first place. For a lot of people, falling in love with someone you've never met in person is a hard concept to grasp.

 

Since I've honestly been in your spot I'm afraid my advice isn't the best, so sorry dude. My parents place a lot of trust in me so they never ever checked out my Internet history or whatever.

Well how do you feel about losing your connection with this girl? If you listen to your parents you might not talk to her again. Or how do you feel about going against what your mom and dad say? Whichever seems worse to you is the one you should avoid. 

 

Or have you tried explaining yourself to them? Maybe they might understand. 

 

I hate to be negative but this relationship more than likely will not last forever. In time you two will move on and find someone else. (Please don't take this harshly, I mean no harm here) 

 

But, if I were in your situation I would chose love. The choice just seems more appealing to me, other than that I can't think of a reason why. 

 

I wish you the best of luck

Thanks you three ^_^

 

I'll just keep thinking about it and ponder what anyone else has to say.

As some of you know, I'm lovingly devoted to my beloved Neko-chan. Unfortunately, my parents disapprove of any kind of romantic relationship in my life, let alone one forged and maintained online. At times I get where they're coming from so I stay back from this site. Most other times, I find myself drawn back here so I can talk with the girl who means the most to me. But now the guilt of coming here is equal with the justified urge of doing so. I'm just kind of at war with myself and need to pick a side. Love or loyalty. Help?

To be honest, it's a tough choice. On one hand, you have your parents who raised you, but on the other hand, you have the girl who you have this longing to be with. But the thing that makes this the toughest is that it's not "Love or Loyalty." but choosing which person you care for more. You love your parents, and are loyal to them, but, this is the same with Neko. But, it's harder to patch things up with someone you are in a relationship than a parent and child one. Even if they don't accept it, you can't help who you fall in love with, a heart wants what the heart wants, no matter how much you or someone else tell you it doesn't.

Arigatou, Squire-kun.

My advice: respect your parents while you're young.  You can still talk to people online but don't push for anything more for now.  When you're 18, you can try to develop a relationship then, keeping it safe of course.  I've had a relationship with someone I first met over the internet too and this is basically what I did.  I think it's the best route to take so you can see how your feelings go as you mature.  And love comes and goes but your family is always there.  It's good to take their wishes at heart.

Thanks, Oishii. I'll be considering that.

First I wanna say I'm glad to see you back, Sikota! We had some interesting RPs a while back

 

As for your decision, ultimately you'll have to follow your own heart. No matter what advice you get, you have to stay true to yourself. Don't let anyone change who you are. This is a strange concept to me; I've never sought a long distance relationship myself, since I need physical interaction with a mate. If you really feel for Neko-chan (Sodom...?) then show it. Don't deny your heart, bro. There was once a Japanese koan about a female monk who was beyond beautiful, even with a shaved head. Buddhist monks were not allowed to fall in love, yet all the male monks fell for this woman. One eventually wrote a letter to her confessing his love. Troubled, the female monk took the issue to their master and asked him how to respond. The next day after a temple sermon, the female monk stood and looked to the writer of the letter, saying, "If you love me, then embrace me now." The writer only looked away, embarassed.

 

The Buddhist master rose and only said this: "If you love, then love openly."

I had a situation that was pretty similar to this, even though i knew the guy in person he lived across the country and the only way we were able to communicate was through skype. My parents urged me to get over it since my time online was effecting my social life. And after a few months they turned out to be right, it didn't work out, this guy found someone else and moved on but because i had let go of sports and sacrificed time with my friends I was stuck for a really long time. Even if it seems like your parents dont understand your life online they see alot more than you think and I think you should respect their greater wisdom. It just boils down to how much this girl means to you. Hope this helps

There's a time and a place when you can say screw you parents, I'm taking charge of my own life!  Fifteen or so isn't one of those times.  Though it might help if we knew why your parents disapprove of romantic relationships at all.

Reserved. I'll post my viewpoint and advice later when I can get to a computer.

Though it might help if we knew why your parents disapprove of romantic relationships at all.

That makes two of us

Both. Wait out the tide, in other words there are a many of ways to still stay in touch with you love, Brother I mentioned a many of times before, a similar conflict has happened to me, although my parents were not too harsh on me. There are still ways you can be loyal to them and still have you two know remember each other. 

 

• if your parents allow you to still be online, make broad comments, to make it look as though you are not technically expressing any real aim at Neko-chan, that way it looks as though you are just enjoying the site. I do hope that you two will remember each other until your parents get you off such a strict radar. Does not mean they will completely stop, but if the relationship is true to both your hearts, there is a greater chance of the connection lasting.

 

Both. Wait out the tide, in other words there are a many of ways to still stay in touch with you love, Brother I mentioned a many of times before, a similar conflict has happened to me, although my parents were not too harsh on me. There are still ways you can be loyal to them and still have you two know remember each other. 

 

• if your parents allow you to still be online, make broad comments, to make it look as though you are not technically expressing any real aim at Neko-chan, that way it looks as though you are just enjoying the site. I do hope that you two will remember each other until your parents get you off such a strict radar. Does not mean they will completely stop, but if the relationship is true to both your hearts, there is a greater chance of the connection lasting.

 

I've been considering something like that...

I've been considering something like that...

Brother, I have been with my lover from the situation for seven almost eight years now, I am not saying it will work, but I am just going by person experience.

Brother, I have been with my lover from the situation for seven almost eight years now, I am not saying it will work, but I am just going by person experience.

Thanks anyway, though ^_^

Reserved. I'll post my viewpoint and advice later when I can get to a computer.

Whenever you'd like

As some of you know, I'm lovingly devoted to my beloved Neko-chan. Unfortunately, my parents disapprove of any kind of romantic relationship in my life, let alone one forged and maintained online. At times I get where they're coming from so I stay back from this site. Most other times, I find myself drawn back here so I can talk with the girl who means the most to me. But now the guilt of coming here is equal with the justified urge of doing so. I'm just kind of at war with myself and need to pick a side. Love or loyalty. Help?

hmmm....

 

It's totally understandable from your parents point of view, seeing how a long distance relationship could easily be passed off as "stupid", "dumb", "shallow" and other derogatory terms, but if you two are seriously in love, then [with all due respect of course] screw what they may think. Although it is true that you do have to respect boundaries established by them, as long as it doesn't interfere with you life in a major way (like interfering with your schoolwork), then visiting this site and chatting with Neko-chan shouldn't be all that bad.

 

However, this by no means necessary should translate into you feeling guilty whenever you visit this site. If visiting this site makes you happy, then seriously, why deprive yourself of this joy? But if it's bad enough, then at least try and find a compromise. Maybe like visit this site for certain hours during the day or like once every other day for example. Been there, I know how you feel, except the guilt part was because I was in school at the time. Moderation and compromise may be key to resolving your emotional conflict about visiting this site.

 

 

Also:

Though it might help if we knew why your parents disapprove of romantic relationships at all.

Understanding their viewpoint in greater details will help you form a solid case to justify if not outright counter their attempts to stop you from continuing to see this site.

 

 

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Well Sikota my brother, as many have said here, it's not a matter of love or loyalty, it's a matter of what's in your heart. I know that your parents are just trying to protect you, but don't give up on your true love. Sometimes we are all tested when we're in love, and the obstacles may be difficult, but in the end, it's all worth it. Never give up on your true love, but always listen to your parents advice. Just follow your heart and do what you think is best. We can all give you all the advice in the world, but in the end, only you can decide what your going to do. So then, to wrap this up, I personally choose love, because it's something worth fighting for. So never give up, but always appreciate your parents. Good luck Sikota my brother.

It depends on what your heart tells you to do. Even if you choose your parents I promise I'll be here waiting. I have good friends here like NeverBetter and Reiku and Schemer who I can talk too and they cheer me up. I'll never leave you and you should know that Sikota-kun. I would be calling you by your real name right now but not in front of these others. I'll be waiting if you leave. Why wouldn't I be here when you come back? Oh, and about our challenge by the way....one of us is going to win one day. It is your choice, my dear Sikota. Let your heart lead you. That is what I've done.

You Should Respect Your Parents. But That Doesn't Mean You Have To Give Up On Your Relationship. Neko-Chan Said She'd Be Here Waiting For You Ti'll The Right Time Comes For You To Return To Her. Besides, Tests Like These Are What Strengthen Relationships In Long Run!! (The Long Run Is What Matters Most, Both In Your Relationship With Your Parents, And Neko-Chan) So Don't Give Up. But I Hope You Come Back Soon, MDS Is Cooking Something Up!!