Alright, sorry I'm making a thread about this, but there's been a lot of crap going on in my life this past week, and I needed somewhere to vent. I don't care if anyone reads this or not, I just needed to get this all off my chest. Here goes...

 

So, earlier this week, some stuff went down with me and some friends. Basically, I decided I was done with them pushing me around all the time, specifically a few who had a tendency to do this often. I decided to quietly cut off communication with those few instead of making it lead into a fight, that way I wouldn't have to deal with any crap or have to worry about everyone else getting involved and choosing sides. One of my friends who I'd told about this decided to tell them that they were being too hard on me, and a fight ended up erupting eventually. People chose sides (which I never wanted to happen in the first place), and the other side said a few really harsh things about me.

One of my friends stated that he/she was neutral, and didn't want to choose a side, but just stop the fighting. This friend is one who I've trusted a lot whenever I really need help with something, so I was glad to know he/she didn't want to have to pick either side and join in the fight. Eventually, he/she got mad about the fighting, and ignored me and the guys who'd chosen my side for a while. He/she opened back up later, but the next day, completely cut all communication with us. Today he/she opened their communication back up to everyone... except me. He/she temporarily did, but cut it off shortly after. I asked the others who he/she avoided communicating with, and they said that he/she hadn't cut off their communication. As I said earlier, he/she was a really close friend, and one who I looked to for a lot of advice or help whenever I need it. Honestly, it hurts knowing that I made him/her mad, but I have no clue what I did to make him/her make me the only one that he/she is cutting off all communication with... I feel completely broken up about it, and have no clue what to do. I'm scared that he/she hates me, and wants nothing to do with me again... I just don't know what to do now...

 

Sorry to put up a depressing rant, I just needed to get it off my chest and say how I feel about it.

Come fight me in the coliseum and put your woes behind you, Lord Hokage

Rejoice in battle and whatnot

Fool. You should have come to me in the beginning.

just give things time. Thinking about it doesn´t help. Let the water calm down a little, then you can think clearly, and the solution will be clear for yoou. Just be patient, and don´t be harsh

Edited March 14, 201411 yr by Daniel Black

Sorry I can't be of more help, Axel. I wish I could..

Sorry I can't be of more help, Axel. I wish I could..

No, it's fine... You did all that you could, and I'm thankful that you did.

Something that is hard to remember is that not even the best of friends are incapable of being mad at each other. I've seen a few fights that I thought would end a friendship, but those relationships are still going strong. Hang in there and give both you and your friend a little time to breath. When you two are both ready, you can try to pick up where you left off.

Edited March 14, 201411 yr by rikunobodyxiii

I have had tons of best friends who I have sometimes gotten into fights but after a bit everything goes back to normal. Just give it time and it will pass. Might be a few days, weeks, or even sometimes months but it will go back to normal.

As I said earlier, he/she was a really close friend, and one who I looked to for a lot of advice or help whenever I need it. Honestly, it hurts knowing that I made him/her mad, but I have no clue what I did to make him/her make me the only one that he/she is cutting off all communication with... I feel completely broken up about it, and have no clue what to do. I'm scared that he/she hates me, and wants nothing to do with me again... I just don't know what to do now...

Hmmm.... If this person has cut off all communication ties, then try and find a mediator between you and the person in question  [that they haven't cut themselves off from]. This can alleviate tensions between both parties and if both party's intentions are to make amends, then they can help speed up the process.

 

If you're scared that they hate you but are unsure, then ask the mediator to squeeze out the truth from them. That'll settle the question once and for all. If they don't, then that's good! If they do, well I got bad news for ya...

You don't need people in your life who treat you badly. Life's too short. Friendships grow closer or they grow apart, there's no other option.

Alright, sorry I'm making a thread about this, but there's been a lot of crap going on in my life this past week, and I needed somewhere to vent. I don't care if anyone reads this or not, I just needed to get this all off my chest. Here goes...

 

So, earlier this week, some stuff went down with me and some friends. Basically, I decided I was done with them pushing me around all the time, specifically a few who had a tendency to do this often. I decided to quietly cut off communication with those few instead of making it lead into a fight, that way I wouldn't have to deal with any crap or have to worry about everyone else getting involved and choosing sides. One of my friends who I'd told about this decided to tell them that they were being too hard on me, and a fight ended up erupting eventually. People chose sides (which I never wanted to happen in the first place), and the other side said a few really harsh things about me.

One of my friends stated that he/she was neutral, and didn't want to choose a side, but just stop the fighting. This friend is one who I've trusted a lot whenever I really need help with something, so I was glad to know he/she didn't want to have to pick either side and join in the fight. Eventually, he/she got mad about the fighting, and ignored me and the guys who'd chosen my side for a while. He/she opened back up later, but the next day, completely cut all communication with us. Today he/she opened their communication back up to everyone... except me. He/she temporarily did, but cut it off shortly after. I asked the others who he/she avoided communicating with, and they said that he/she hadn't cut off their communication. As I said earlier, he/she was a really close friend, and one who I looked to for a lot of advice or help whenever I need it. Honestly, it hurts knowing that I made him/her mad, but I have no clue what I did to make him/her make me the only one that he/she is cutting off all communication with... I feel completely broken up about it, and have no clue what to do. I'm scared that he/she hates me, and wants nothing to do with me again... I just don't know what to do now...

 

Sorry to put up a depressing rant, I just needed to get it off my chest and say how I feel about it.

Like many have stated above. True friends fight, and argue like brother and sister. It's bound to happen. I know how it feels, as I've been in similar situations like this. You, and your friend will make up, in due time. I suggest, the mediator to this, can find the objective to both sides. Make peace, however you can.

Ok . Good luck .

Edited March 14, 201411 yr by Nick Sideris

I'm really sorry Axel, I tried as well

 

But college and personal issues have been stealing my time, and I wasn't able to talk with them D: