Hey everyone! My fiance Josh, AKA Aang ( on these forums ) and his friend have recently had a fetish for Horror Games. I have NO idea why, but all of the sudden he decided to lock himself in his room, and play horror games. This has been going on for days now. He is showing little affection or attention towards me. When I ask him he says "I'm....busy right now" or "Not now" 

 

He's been a lot less compassionate, and caring. he's also been very aggressive lately. He's not his usual self. He usually sticks to his work, church, and is always with me. Him and his friend have played Outlast, ( scariest game out there ) Amnesia, Slender: The Eight Pages, Resident Evil games, and more. 

He's been playing them from dusk to dawn, and only shares a brief look at me before returning to his game. He usually goes to Church every Sunday and Wednesdays- he wouldn't skip it for anything, but he has skipped four services.

 

Also, he's been missing his work for the last few days. He is starting to scare me. I don't know what I should do. How can I confront him about this? What can I do to help him? Please, anyone? I'm here because this is a very good community and you are gamers, and besides Kingdom Hearts I don't game much else.

 

-Katara

Edited May 15, 201411 yr by Katara

Pfthahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! Oh I just like this guy already. 

I'M A WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'M A WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

...Oh. 

When his gaming has infringed on your personal life in a negative way something should be said and the fact he's ignored you so rudely i'd find unacceptable let alone missing work/school/responsibilities like he's been doing .From what it seems like to me there hasn't been any boundaries set so he's basically stepping right on you and disrespecting you .If you don't put your foot down now it 'll set a precedence for future behavior .So show him now it's not ok and be a bitch . Being nice hasn't worked so don't be afraid to confront bc sometimes in relationships it's inevitable . Everyone fights .It's normal - just fight smart .Tell him how you feel and set BOUNDARIES NOW.If you don't this behavior will just continue . Don't let him even think he can get away with treating you like that or he will ...Which is what he has been doing .

When his gaming has infringed on your personal life in a negative way something should be said 

You gave me a thought: this is all to do with an obsession of video games. If that's the case; ban him from them if it comes to it. 

When his gaming has infringed on your personal life in a negative way something should be said and the fact he's ignored you so rudely i'd find unacceptable let alone missing work/school/responsibilities like he's been doing .From what it seems like to me there hasn't been any boundaries set so he's basically stepping right on you and disrespecting you .If you don't put your foot down now it 'll set a precedence for future behavior .So show him now it's not ok and be a bitch . Being nice hasn't worked so don't be afraid to confront bc sometimes in relationships it's inevitable . Everyone fights .It's normal - just fight smart .Tell him how you feel and set BOUNDARIES NOW.If you don't this behavior will just continue . Don't let him even think he can get away with treating you like that or he will ...Which is what he has been doing .

THANK YOU! This is exactly what I needed to hear I want to stand up and show him my true feelings but I just feel like it will only cause more tension. He usually NEVER acts like this. I don't know what the exact cause for this is. He makes excuses.

THANK YOU! This is exactly what I needed to hear I want to stand up and show him my true feelings but I just feel like it will only cause more tension. He usually NEVER acts like this. I don't know what the exact cause for this is. He makes excuses.

Some other side of him, perhaps? Maybe the games themselves opened some emotional floodgates that you never knew about. 

You gave me a thought: this is all to do with an obsession of video games. If that's the case; ban him from them if it comes to it. 

 

Or at the very least set rules and limitations..It's a must

 

THANK YOU! This is exactly what I needed to hear I want to stand up and show him my true feelings but I just feel like it will only cause more tension. He usually NEVER acts like this. I don't know what the exact cause for this is. He makes excuses.

 

 

You are welcome .I am married so I have some experience. You saw my hubby ( squirting demyx)say I won't deal with it either when he gets outta hand.If guilt and being nice doesn't work being a bitch does Sometimes you just have to be 

Edited May 15, 201411 yr by Flaming Lea

You are welcome .I am married so I have some experience. You saw my hubby ( squirting demyx)

Flaming Lea... Squirting Demyx... if any of your offspring should one day join here, have him call his username Gambling Luxord. 

My dad has the same problem he got to the point where he wouldn't take his pills but he needed them, I suggest telling him the truth of how you feel about it, tell him it's too much, to slow down, take one step downwards at a time, to limit the time he plays

Dress up sexually for him?

 

I wish you the best of luck in this difficult time.

Well , this is addiction ,actually . I'd recommend contacting his family or a doctor . 

Or you could find something to substitute games when he wants to play, like another hobby, or go for a walk to get away from it

Oh wow... I'm sorry, I really wish I could help you. I don't know what to say.

 

If I were in your shoes I'd try to confront him about it... if you haven't already tried. But I don't want you to get into an argument.... Have you tried maybe sticking a note on his computer screen for him to read? Maybe he'd read it... or maybe try to jump on a game with him, and try to talk about it with him...

 

I'm sorry, Katara... I don't really know...

 

I've never been in this situation before, but I really doesn't sound right. I'm not sure how to breach the subject, but you need to tell him that you're worried about his behavior. Make sure he knows that you care about him and that's why you're talking to him, because it could be that he's depressed or something and that's why he's become obsessive. Just make sure he knows that you are worried for him.

Whatever you do, good luck.

 

 

Whenever my wife wants me to stop playing video games, she makes me feal guilty about it. Try that. It stops me from playing everytime. 

 

 

Fool. It's not good if he's skipping work for it. He could be that he is becoming addicted. That's not good. I suggest an intervention. Has anyone else close to him noticed this changed behavior?

 

 

The best things I can come up with for this kind of situation is confront about it with a fierce look, or contact a family member of his and ask what they think and what should be done. How long exactly has this been going on? It could be a phase he's going through at the moment and, over time, he'll get over it and become the man you remember again. If it goes any worse; I recommend shutting down his games and demanding a talk with him. This is my advice. 

 

 

Fool. How old is he?

 

 

stop paying the electricity bill so everything stops. Then he'll have to stop. Other than that, I'm so sorry to hear about this im sorry I wish I could help, but I don't know much on relationships. I would say just pray about it.  

 

 

Do you know his friend? Maybe you can get some information from him on this subject.

Also do you have the keys for the room he is in?

 

You should confront him about it like everyone says, if it isn't him then it isn't him.

If this is your first time trying to confront him, try to be kinder and less worried and ask him what the game is and whats so fun about it, you could get some information out of it. Not an expert on this situation so try to take my post with a grain of salt.

If that fails then time to put your foot down. Maybe contact his family also.

Good luck!

 

 

I'm new here but all can say is can i beat him up?

 

 

 

Have you already tried all of the suggestions that everyone has said?

 

If so, and he's still the same, maybe you should really just tell him how you are feeling about all of this, you are a couple, he needs to respect you and your relationship.

 

I know you tried to talk with him before, but this time you need to show him how this is starting to be bad for BOTH of you...

 

He may be obsessed like some of the other members said, so you need to stop it before it gets too serious...

 

Hope you guys get through this as fast as possible

 

 

 

When his gaming has infringed on your personal life in a negative way something should be said and the fact he's ignored you so rudely i'd find unacceptable let alone missing work/school/responsibilities like he's been doing .From what it seems like to me there hasn't been any boundaries set so he's basically stepping right on you and disrespecting you .If you don't put your foot down now it 'll set a precedence for future behavior .So show him now it's not ok and be a bitch . Being nice hasn't worked so don't be afraid to confront bc sometimes in relationships it's inevitable . Everyone fights .It's normal - just fight smart .Tell him how you feel and set BOUNDARIES NOW.If you don't this behavior will just continue . Don't let him even think he can get away with treating you like that or he will ...Which is what he has been doing .

 

 

My dad has the same problem he got to the point where he wouldn't take his pills but he needed them, I suggest telling him the truth of how you feel about it, tell him it's too much, to slow down, take one step downwards at a time, to limit the time he plays

 

 

Dress up sexually for him?

 

I wish you the best of luck in this difficult time.

 

 

Well , this is addiction ,actually . I'd recommend contacting his family or a doctor . 

I finally told him how I felt. I told him how concerned I was for him. I confronted him last night. Here's how it went down:

I was nice and blunt- that didn't work. I then stood right in front of him, and he kissed my cheek saying "Love you." he then added "Ok.....Can you move?" Hearing that from him angered me. I stood there, giving him a stare. "Babe....I'm in the middle of something. Please stop with the games" he said. A few moments later he was trying to move me out of the way so he could keep playing! 

 

That was the last straw. I remembered what some people ( including Flaming Lea ) had told me. I snatched his controller, and started yelling. ( No, I will not go into detail of what I said ) we yelled for a long time. Me being the sensitive one as I am,  cried. I finally was fed up with it, and walked out the door. A few minutes later he came out of the room, and was trying to cheer me up. He promised to stop his ws, and limit his time. After that, he offered to take me out. We did, and as soon as we got home, he began playing again. -_-  

This might sound bad, but I then went to the basement and shut off his console. I'm not going to lie, that actually felt great! When he confronted me, he smiled, kissed me and almost went back down to turn it back on.

 

When I asked him about it, and why he's been skipping church, work, etc. he simply told me he wanted to "unwind" and just felt like doing it. 

He promised to go to work, and church and to spend more time with me. He still plays a lot more than he used to, but at least now, when I come in and demand he stops, he presses that off button as quick as he can.

 

Thank you all for the help, love, and support   It really warms my heart to see so many helpful people by my side. I want to thank all of you, but more so for Flaming Lea, Amber Cole, and Cxkj.  Please add me I may need your guys help in the future. Until more drama, this is Katara saying farewell

I applaud you! I would have done the same thing! If you need anything let me know and I'll try to help. Just keep taking things in small steps and once he beats the games his addiction should decline cause I mean what else are you gonna do? and if it gets back to where it was, i'd try to get a marriage counselor.

I bet it did feel good Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and be willing to fight when it comes to that .Remember to stay FIRM and make sure he sticks to his limitations he has set for himself . In other words , not just talk but 'walk the walk '. I'm happy for you and you are welcome .

I'm glad it worked out.

Damn that went extremely well, good job!