Okay, there is this guy in a friends group that i'm in and for the sake of anonymity, let's call him Jimmy.

 

Jimmy is this really nice guy, but tends to be socially awkward and timid at times and feels like he is being ignored by the other guys and even worse, that they probably hate him because of his uselessness.

 

And there is this other guy in the group, who's really funny and kind of a goofball (who, mind u, has a closer relationship with the others) whom we shall call Kevin.

 

Now, here is the part that worries me, Jimmy seems to be jealous of him because he is more popular with the other guys, i really don't want this to result in drama, what should i say to him?

Stop being jealous and start getting more popular by talking and joking around? If he is unhappy, he should do something about it. 

Try to (subtly) remind Jimmy of the fact that if he starts making an active fuzz or starts acting passive-aggressively, it'll only hurt his chances of getting popular. Or suggest he does something that will help his reputation, maybe procure some form of alcohol (though that'll probably be illegal so you might wanna disregard that )

No matter what size the group of friends tends to be, there's always going to be that one awkward one. Or friend that isn't exactly...."with it". (Unless you're all weird, in which case there's no problem, now is there? Hee hee...)

 

*Ahem* Anyhoo! My advice would be to talk to him personally. Doing so will allow you to determine whether he only thinks he's left out, or whether you guys really aren't including him enough. If the latter is true, then you can easily fix this issue by asking his opinion more while having conversations. It'll make him feel like you genuinely care about his input. However, If it's all in his head, and you all really ARE being good friends, then I would invite him to participate in more things that the rest of you enjoy. (Such as a favorite tv show, etc. ) That way, he will be able to keep up with the jokes/ references more, and even make a few funny ones himself, that you all get.

Edited February 18, 201510 yr by Pandy Monium

No matter what size the group of friends tends to be, there's always going to be that one awkward one. Or friend that isn't exactly...."with it". (Unless you're all weird, in which case there's no problem, no is there? Hee hee...) *Ahem* Anyhoo! My advice would be to talk to him personally. Doing so will allow you to determine whether he only thinks he's left out, or whether you guys really aren't including him enough. If the latter is true, then you can easily fix this issue by asking his opinion more while having conversations. It'll make him feel like you genuinely care about his input. However, If it's all in his head, and you all really ARE being good friends, then I would invite him to participate in more things that the rest of you enjoy. (Such as a favorite tv show, etc. ) That way, he will be able to keep up with the jokes/ references more, and even make a few funny ones himself, that you all get.

What Pandy said. Wife is wise.

You shouldn't have to say anything to Jimmy, because this is his own internal battle. Getting involved in his own battle could possibly cause a rift in everyone's relationship. The best you can do is to spend equal amount of time with your friend(s) and try to involve Jimmy in some of the jokes or conversations. If he has a problem with Kevin, those two should talk it out and then you won't be involved in the drama. It will probably come to a boiling point for Jimmy, but the best thing is to have fun with your friends and stay positive. If you keep worrying, it will only stress you out and put a strain on your relationship with Jimmy. Right now, he just needs a friend who likes him for who he is. 

What Pandy said. Wife is wise.

 

Lol, thanks hon. I try.

You shouldn't have to say anything to Jimmy, because this is his own internal battle. Getting involved in his own battle could possibly cause a rift in everyone's relationship. The best you can do is to spend equal amount of time with your friend(s) and try to involve Jimmy in some of the jokes or conversations. If he has a problem with Kevin, those two should talk it out and then you won't be involved in the drama. It will probably come to a boiling point for Jimmy, but the best thing is to have fun with your friends and stay positive. If you keep worrying, it will only stress you out and put a strain on your relationship with Jimmy. Right now, he just needs a friend who likes him for who he is. 

 

Sometimes, to win an internal battle, you need a little external help. That push that makes you say "you are right, I need to do this and that!"

Sometimes, to win an internal battle, you need a little external help. That push that makes you say "you are right, I need to do this and that!"

 

Sometimes silence is golden, and you do not necessarily need anyone's help to make a decision when it involves something internally; such as jealousy or any other emotion. Sometimes it is best to just figure it out yourself, but I didn't say they CAN'T say anything to their friend; I just advise they shouldn't since it could cause some unwanted drama if Jimmy says, "Well they said this to me, etc. and I am just following their advice." It could turn on Villi and cause a problem when Kevin approaches him about it, if, anything is said. But it's whatever, they can give their advice to their friend or not, but sometimes, it is best for the other person to take action if they have a problem with someone. 

No need for, ahem, Jimmy to be jealous though.

 

He doesn't need to be jealous at all, all he needs to do is be himself.

 

If Jimmy doesn't want any drama, maybe the best thing to do is keep himself quiet. No need to tell him, if it can inflate his ego