I know mostly all of us on this site are too young to have kids. But when we grow up most of us are going to want to start a family. But if any of us had kids what would you let them do. What would you not let them do.

 

Me, I would let my kids do WHATEVER they want!!! Now why would I do that? Simple, it's their life. This world is f**cked up as it is, so might as well let them live their life because you never know what might happen to them. I've grown up in a strict family. I am going to be 17 in a week and my mother won't let me do ANYTHING. She never let me be who I wanted to be and because of that, I'm insane(no, that's not sarcasm that's the truth!). I don't know who I am or who I'm suppose to be. I live in darkness. I am very dark and gothic. My wardrobe is nothing but BLACK BLACK BLACK! I was never allowed to express myself. So, I think that my children can do whatever they want so that they can express themselves in a way that they won't feel shameful. If they want to ride a dirtbike when they're 10 or even only 7yrs old, I will let them do it; I don't care if it's illegal. Telling them no and that they might get hurt won't teach them anything. IF they get hurt, they'll find out the hard way. If they want to dress is sluty clothes, I'll let them. If they want to change their name, I'll let them. You name it, I'll let them do it. It makes them who they are!

I agree with Me. I mean' date=' sometimes doing whatever you want will get you killed in the end =/

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I know this is a bad way to say this but: So, who cares, everyone dies. I would rather be in charge of doing something stupid and dying because of my own stupidity then be murdered, dumped in a body bag, and thrown into a river. Ever hear the expression "Live life to it's fullest" yea, well I take that expression literally.

 

Thats because of your creation, if it have been differently , you would have other opinion. Sorry to say this but, You dont like your life ? you would die for such idiot cause? While everyone wants to live longer>>.

 

Ok, I admit it, I hate my life.

 

@Zexion's_Lover_46

O.O

 

Okay' date=' WTF?

 

That sounds very... depressing/emo. Yes, at some point, everyone does die, sadly. I really doubt you're going to be MURDERED. Why would you suffer the pain of letting your child die? When all you could've said was no and kept them alive and well to be with you? You'd end up dying an early death just to have a little 'fun'.

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with what I'm doing when I'm older, there is a HIGH chance that someones going to kill me

 

 

@Zexion's_Lover_46

O.O

 

Okay' date=' WTF?

 

That sounds very... depressing/emo. Yes, at some point, everyone does die, sadly. I really doubt you're going to be MURDERED. Why would you suffer the pain of letting your child die? When all you could've said was no and kept them alive and well to be with you? You'd end up dying an early death just to have a little 'fun'.

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Yeah, life is not a thing that you trown away , it

if its within reason

I agree with Me. I mean' date=' sometimes doing whatever you want will get you killed in the end =/

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I know this is a bad way to say this but: So, who cares, everyone dies. I would rather be in charge of doing something stupid and dying because of my own stupidity then be murdered, dumped in a body bag, and thrown into a river. Ever hear the expression "Live life to it's fullest" yea, well I take that expression literally.

 

Thats because of your creation, if it have been differently , you would have other opinion. Sorry to say this but, You dont like your life ? you would die for such idiot cause? While everyone wants to live longer>>.

 

Ok, I admit it, I hate my life.

 

@Zexion's_Lover_46

O.O

 

Okay' date=' WTF?

 

That sounds very... depressing/emo. Yes, at some point, everyone does die, sadly. I really doubt you're going to be MURDERED. Why would you suffer the pain of letting your child die? When all you could've said was no and kept them alive and well to be with you? You'd end up dying an early death just to have a little 'fun'.

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with what I'm doing when I'm older, there is a HIGH chance that someones going to kill me

 

 

@Zexion's_Lover_46

O.O

 

Okay' date=' WTF?

 

That sounds very... depressing/emo. Yes, at some point, everyone does die, sadly. I really doubt you're going to be MURDERED. Why would you suffer the pain of letting your child die? When all you could've said was no and kept them alive and well to be with you? You'd end up dying an early death just to have a little 'fun'.

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Yeah, life is not a thing that you trown away , it

And -Ventus-, I think it's a nice thing if you adopt but why would you think that you won't live to be 20. I didn't think I'd live to see my 16th bday because of my situation but here I am still here about to turn 17 in a week. Cheer up and your kids probably won't act much like you if you give them lead way because they find that they can be anything they want to be.

 

Its a guess.

Im not saying that I will be right. Many things can happen within a short time span, or maybe nothing at all. All I can do for now is just live life as is and at least expect that I will die eventually.

 

Alot of peoples children do act like their parents. Of course I don't want to hide myself from my children, that would just make them PO'd at me when they are older. And theres also GENETICS that you have to worry about. I might not be a very positive thinker, but at least I'm thinking about the possibilites.

 

Its also hard to tell me to cheer up from experience.

Srsbzns me.

Mine'll be with Lexi so I already know they'll be great and won't need any help

^ 8D

 

Kids don't need as much govorning as they say, but that doesn't mean rules are completely unnessecary. Without them there'd be a lot more kids in the principal's office, and a lot more who didn't even bother showing up for school. Or ever coming home.

My kids would be the most annoying people on the face of this world I can't be strict its not in my nature.

It

My mom is a Italian women a very strict Italian women. I don't want to be as strict as my mom is.

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yeah but you have to be strict sometimes

Strict to an EXTENT. Not so you're sucking the fun out of everything and all, but to keep some order.

yeah thats what i meant. if your strict like my dad is life is no fun and i dont want to raise kids like that

I agree with Me. I mean' date=' sometimes doing whatever you want will get you killed in the end =/

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I know this is a bad way to say this but: So, who cares, everyone dies. I would rather be in charge of doing something stupid and dying because of my own stupidity then be murdered, dumped in a body bag, and thrown into a river. Ever hear the expression "Live life to it's fullest" yea, well I take that expression literally.

 

Thats because of your creation, if it have been differently , you would have other opinion. Sorry to say this but, You dont like your life ? you would die for such idiot cause? While everyone wants to live longer>>.

 

Ok, I admit it, I hate my life.

 

@Zexion's_Lover_46

O.O

 

Okay' date=' WTF?

 

That sounds very... depressing/emo. Yes, at some point, everyone does die, sadly. I really doubt you're going to be MURDERED. Why would you suffer the pain of letting your child die? When all you could've said was no and kept them alive and well to be with you? You'd end up dying an early death just to have a little 'fun'.

[/quote']

 

with what I'm doing when I'm older, there is a HIGH chance that someones going to kill me

 

 

@Zexion's_Lover_46

O.O

 

Okay' date=' WTF?

 

That sounds very... depressing/emo. Yes, at some point, everyone does die, sadly. I really doubt you're going to be MURDERED. Why would you suffer the pain of letting your child die? When all you could've said was no and kept them alive and well to be with you? You'd end up dying an early death just to have a little 'fun'.

[/quote']

 

Yeah, life is not a thing that you trown away , it

I agree with Me. I mean' date=' sometimes doing whatever you want will get you killed in the end =/

[/quote']

 

I know this is a bad way to say this but: So, who cares, everyone dies. I would rather be in charge of doing something stupid and dying because of my own stupidity then be murdered, dumped in a body bag, and thrown into a river. Ever hear the expression "Live life to it's fullest" yea, well I take that expression literally.

 

Thats because of your creation, if it have been differently , you would have other opinion. Sorry to say this but, You dont like your life ? you would die for such idiot cause? While everyone wants to live longer>>.

 

Ok, I admit it, I hate my life.

 

@Zexion's_Lover_46

O.O

 

Okay' date=' WTF?

 

That sounds very... depressing/emo. Yes, at some point, everyone does die, sadly. I really doubt you're going to be MURDERED. Why would you suffer the pain of letting your child die? When all you could've said was no and kept them alive and well to be with you? You'd end up dying an early death just to have a little 'fun'.

[/quote']

 

with what I'm doing when I'm older, there is a HIGH chance that someones going to kill me

 

 

@Zexion's_Lover_46

O.O

 

Okay' date=' WTF?

 

That sounds very... depressing/emo. Yes, at some point, everyone does die, sadly. I really doubt you're going to be MURDERED. Why would you suffer the pain of letting your child die? When all you could've said was no and kept them alive and well to be with you? You'd end up dying an early death just to have a little 'fun'.

[/quote']

 

Yeah, life is not a thing that you trown away , it

NEVER did I pin ANYTHING ON ANYBODY WHATSOEVER!!! And when you said "what if they don't want to live the way you'd be telling them to?" That doesn't even make sense!!! I'm not telling them anything about how they're trying to live their life so how can they disagree with something that I never told them to do. They'll be able to do whatever they want so they'll make every decision of their own.

NEVER did I pin ANYTHING ON ANYBODY WHATSOEVER!!! And when you said "what if they don't want to live the way you'd be telling them to?" That doesn't even make sense!!! I'm not telling them anything about how they're trying to live their life so how can they disagree with something that I never told them to do. They'll be able to do whatever they want so they'll make every decision of their own.

 

1) It makes plenty of sense -_-

I wouldn't want to live in a house with no rules. I also wouldn't want my mom sounding suicidal.

 

2) This is getting waaaaay off topic

 

3) You just contradicted yourself. You DID pin it on other people:

 

"My mother had the choice to abort me but she didn't and I hate her for that."

 

"I don't have a family because they don't care. I have few friends that are nonjudgemental and I have even fewer friends that take my disorders seriously."

 

"I've already accepted that no one gives a damn about me."

 

"I know god or whose ever up there doesn't care"

 

For example..

 

On-topic:

That's how you would parent them. As I said before, each kid needs a certain type of parenting, some needing more/less rules than others. It depends on what your goals and opinions are as a parent, and your behavior and who you are as a child.

 

NEVER did I pin ANYTHING ON ANYBODY WHATSOEVER!!! And when you said "what if they don't want to live the way you'd be telling them to?" That doesn't even make sense!!! I'm not telling them anything about how they're trying to live their life so how can they disagree with something that I never told them to do. They'll be able to do whatever they want so they'll make every decision of their own.

 

1) It makes plenty of sense -_-

I wouldn't want to live in a house with no rules. I also wouldn't want my mom sounding suicidal.

 

2) This is getting waaaaay off topic

 

3) You just contradicted yourself. You DID pin it on other people:

 

"My mother had the choice to abort me but she didn't and I hate her for that."

 

"I don't have a family because they don't care. I have few friends that are nonjudgemental and I have even fewer friends that take my disorders seriously."

 

"I've already accepted that no one gives a damn about me."

 

"I know god or whose ever up there doesn't care"

 

For example..

 

On-topic:

That's how you would parent them. As I said before, each kid needs a certain type of parenting, some needing more/less rules than others. It depends on what your goals and opinions are as a parent, and your behavior and who you are as a child.

 

:x That's not pinning things on people I'm just stating the facts. This is my last post that I'm making of this before I go to far and get myself banned. All other posts I'm ignoring! And why the hell would you want a house with rules aren't you mature enough to make your own desicions. I'm sure you know what's best for youself!

I don't plan on being extremely strict, but I still want to be involved with their life and serve as a sort of guidance.

 

Without guidance in a child's life, the chances of them leading their lives into chaos are more likely. If they don't have some sort of parental figure, or (PROPER) role-model they could have difficulties finding their way through life. I don't think it's right to be overly strict to where they can't express themselves, but there's a point where a parent needs to step in and do the job as a parent.

 

There are certain things I feel a parents shouldn't get involved in, but there are also things as well that they should be involved in.

 

If you don't want to get involved with your childrens lives and they screw up, then it's also a parent's own fault for not being a parent. Everyone needs a parent/role-model figure in my opinion. Despite my own self always saying how much I dislike my parents and how much I don't like them being nosy, their extreme nosyness in the things I do is what helps me make the right decisions and without them, and my siblings I probably would have made pretty poor choices in my life.

 

So yes, I would say parents should be involved to some level in a child's life. In my view, a parent's role in life is to be there for the child, such as if a point happens when the child does make a mistake the parent needs to be there to help pick up the pieces at least and guide them out of their hard times.

 

You can let a child live a life they want to live, and still set boundaries on them. =

When they're younger, a parent needs to be there for a child and tell them things so they can learn.

 

Another thing that I feel that could somewhat go along with this is that children learn differently and as a parent, teacher, whatever the adult-figure in their lives needs to adjust to the child. Some children need to be firmly talked to in a loud tone (but not necessarily yelling) while others need to be told down at their eye level, face to face in a calm tone (might not be a right example, or a best example for this thread... but ). Other times maybe you let the child cool off and then talk to them. There's a few other things, but it just depends on the child. The reason why I'm saying this is because it's better to be involved, set the boundaries that your parents could have also set and be a parent and go ahead and just adjust to the child instead of not being involved at all and "letting them live their lives" without having any real guidance. D8

 

o-o All this comes from working at a family-owned daycare. dunkillmeplz.

 

(as for this thread, please try not to go TOO far off-topic, which is kinda/sorta starting to happen. o-o)

OK, Ok.

 

So you plan to teach your children no rules?

 

Eventually, kids would learn rules in school anyways. Even if someone is home schooled, you are applied rules. Grammar Rules. Math Rules. Rules are unavoidable in life. So why not just limit kids right in the Beginning and make them more acceptive of this life ahead of them? If they want a job, they have to follow the rules after all.

 

Besides, do you think that how you teach your kids is just YOUR decision? Who are you going to have that child with, Roxas? No. Hopefully you will have a partner who will also be the parent of your children. He or she might think of something different. Possibly just a better alternative for your children. You cant just ignore them, can you? So stop thinking until you actually find a partner and want to have kids.

-x-

Rules are a guiding path. I am dependent on them. Why? I don't want to cause anyone harm. Simple. If you break those rules that block your path, there are plenty of people you can hurt. Not only that, but with no rules, what do you have to look up to? Nothing. No game guide here.

Its a smart idea to enforce rules.

Its not a smart idea to keep them in a cage.

Rules can not only help someone, but they can also be a bad thing. Too many rules might not be the best in someones life. But few rules isn't a bad thing either. The world is a dangerous place.

-x-

1) It makes plenty of sense -_-

I wouldn't want to live in a house with no rules. I also wouldn't want my mom sounding suicidal.

The question is, would a house with no rules actually matter if you're going to learn them eventually? Considering its YOU and YOU like rules, then YOU would limit yourself, yes?

Its just YOU

YOU =/= ME

YOU =/= WORLD

It might not be positive, but not everyone, sadly, can leave a nice life. If your mother was sounding suicidal, would you realize it in the first years of your life? Wouldn't it seem NORMAL to you? How would you not like it until you are taught otherwise, and thus lead your own way through life?

-x-

Help your child, then let them lead their own life when ready. Just hope you don't lead them into a wrong path. Rules are helpfully. Otherwise, what next?

somanyessays

 

I want to be a good parent. Now I know, there are many definitions of a good parent.

 

But I want to be a parent who is there for my children. I don't want them to go wild and get themselves killed. What parent would let their kids get killed if you could stop them.

 

What would the world be like if there weren't rules? If every parent let their children run loose, and cause mayhem basically? Well, we'd be screwed.

 

The way we raise our children is the way they're going to grow up and how they are going to cope with the world.

 

If they aren't given rules, they'll think they can do anything and really just screw up their lives.

 

Now, there's a middle ground between giving them some freedom and disciplining children. Parents should teach their kids to stay away from drugs or anything they find harmful, so as they grow older, they'll be able to trust them and give them a little more freedom.

 

I would never put down kids (when I have them), only encourage them. But you also have to teach them right from wrong.

 

Sometimes a parent's judgement can be wrong, but everyone makes mistakes.

 

You can't blame your parents for 'ruining your life' unless they like, introduced you to drugs, raped you, beat you, ect. THAT would be a legit reason to hate your parents. But because they were a little strict and tried to keep you from getting hurt? That's just... stupid.

 

How parents raise their children impacts everyone. You never know if that child might be the next president, or something powerful. You want them to make good choices if they are right? Or then we'd all be screwed.

 

I would raise my children how I want to. And how I would like to be raised. Help them. Be their for them. Teach them. Ect.

 

Now Zexion_Lover, if you really want to let your children go wild, then that's your choice. But you never know. One day they might just get so pissed off, and use that gun you let them get(because you'll let them do whatever they want), and bam, you're dead. I know you may not care if you die

seeing as you really don't believe in God

, but do you really want to die in the hands of your own child (not saying it'll happen for sure but you never know)? If you let them do whatever, they'll feel abandoned and incared for. Would you like them to feel that way? Sure go ahead and let them express themselves, but there's a difference between letting them be themselves and just not caring about what they do.

/end essay

Well due to my sexual prefrence, kids are out of the question. But If I did I would let them be. To an extent of course, you cant let them run off to a druggies house or anything, but enough lee way that they will not become a disciplined Zombie like I was.

Mine'll be with Lexi so I already know they'll be great and won't need any help

 

 

WTF Lexi.

ilu hun~<3

 

Me, I would let my kids do WHATEVER they want!!! Now why would I do that? Simple, it's their life.

World-class parenting. Let me tell you...

Parents set rules to protect you, Kids 13-20 make choices such as sex, drugs and drinking, your parents are there to make sure you don't get hurt. Sure you can go out and party with your friends but all your parents care about is that you do whatever your doing responsibly. (Of course thats what my mom told me) Myself as every other teenager out there have made bad choices with my life and I told myself I should of listen to my parents! You get older you begin to realise all those times your parents were strict with you was cause they care and you thank them in the long run..

I don't even want to have kids.

 

I can't stand small children I see in public as it is. I doubt I could handle raising one and living with one.