Is romantic love real? Are a husband and wife, who claim they love each, actually married in lust?

it is definatly real

Romance is a byproduct of our perceived superiority. We have long thought of ourselves as creatures beyond mere animals, and have created various formalities to help prove it. Romance is a concept that promotes ideas like 'Love at first sight' and condemns any disloyalty.

Basically, romance is a concept people use to trick themselves into thinking that their sex drive is something deeper. That we 'love' for any reason other than chemicals. Any and all cases of 'romance' stem from a deep rooted instinct to impress those you would like to have sex with, we have simply chosen to interpret that as our own choice.

It doesn't help that love has been disgustingly capitalized on, mainly towards women. Most women, for example, find buying an expensive diamond ring for a proposal romantic, or having a destination wedding. Guys aren't exempt either, particularly as advertisements are shifting their demographics to focus more on males.

 

I'm sorry if that seemed a little disjointed, I'm feeling a bit disoriented at the moment

But yeah, basically, 'romance' is an entirely fictional concept, a very literal example of romanticizing.

I think it's real. Even if I haven't been subjected to love myself as many times as other claim to be.

It's real. I've seen it

I don't believe in true love. Sure, I can like someone, maybe as a friend or so, but I don't trust people. Some of them end up emotionally hurting you in the end...

I've been in love twice. And it was real, 100%.

 

Love is when you love someone more than yourself, you'd do absolutely anything for them, stand by them no matter what, guide them, help them, comfort them... Unfortunately both times it wasn't "right." That just simply means we grew apart because we wanted different things in life. But I still love them and they still love me and we're still friends.

 

So yes, I do believe in love. I also have both my parents in my life and my Dad has stuck by my Mom when she was sick. She had liver cancer and needed 2 surgeries. (Bad time in our lives then) and not ONCE did my Dad leave my Mom's side. And neither did I. My Mom pulled through and she's doing great! But you don't stand by them like that just because of lust lol.

 

But love is definitely something more than just imagination and lust. When you're lusting for someone, you just want to be intimate with them. There really are no feelings other than that. Love is an entirely different emotion and being in itself and it's beautiful.

 

We've all been hurt by it at one point, but that hurt grows wisdom and a lesson learned. I believe in it and I hope one day I can have a happy life like that

 

P.S. There are all different kinds of love! Just because you can't find a "significant other" yet or think you never will, doesn't mean you'll be miserable if you don't. You have love of family, friends, self, pets, art, hell even video games! There's so many types of love. That's why I got "All you need is love" tattooed down my side. It's a reminder everyday that love exists and it comes in many different shapes, sizes and forms! ^.^

I beleive romanic love is real. There are times in which people confuse lust for true love saddly.

waytothexdawnx went all out i agree with her

What a bunch of romanticists we have here

I don't really believe in love. I've seen love happen and I've seen love part from the couple. My parents always argue with each other, one of the many reasons why I don't believe in love.

waytothexdawnx went all out i agree with her

 

thank you

How can you not believe in true love. Geez. I believe in love not lust. Although that doesn't mean it start out as lust.

Romance is a byproduct of our perceived superiority. We have long thought of ourselves as creatures beyond mere animals, and have created various formalities to help prove it. Romance is a concept that promotes ideas like 'Love at first sight' and condemns any disloyalty.

Basically, romance is a concept people use to trick themselves into thinking that their sex drive is something deeper. That we 'love' for any reason other than chemicals. Any and all cases of 'romance' stem from a deep rooted instinct to impress those you would like to have sex with, we have simply chosen to interpret that as our own choice.

It doesn't help that love has been disgustingly capitalized on, mainly towards women. Most women, for example, find buying an expensive diamond ring for a proposal romantic, or having a destination wedding. Guys aren't exempt either, particularly as advertisements are shifting their demographics to focus more on males.

 

I'm sorry if that seemed a little disjointed, I'm feeling a bit disoriented at the moment

But yeah, basically, 'romance' is an entirely fictional concept, a very literal example of romanticizing.

 

Exactly what I want to say X3

I, as an incurable romantic guy, do believe some romance, but it seems girls just like to treated like trash, in these days... I try to be a gentleman, they look me through the corner of the eye. Some guy treats them like they're worth nothing, and they fall automatically in love. I hereby declare that as the "Bad Boy Silly Girl" Syndrome, nicknamed "A Girl's Confusing Spot".

If you want it to be. You can force yourself into it, or you'll force yourself out of it. It's all in black and white guys.

I, as an incurable romantic guy, do believe some romance, but it seems girls just like to treated like trash, in these days... I try to be a gentleman, they look me through the corner of the eye. Some guy treats them like they're worth nothing, and they fall automatically in love. I hereby declare that as the "Bad Boy Silly Girl" Syndrome, nicknamed "A Girl's Confusing Spot".

 

A 'bad' guy appeals to a innate nurturing sense women possess (Meant to be used to raise children, as their bodies are built to bear children) basically, they want to nurture or change (Or rather, fix) the person. Also keep in mind that North American advertising currently supports this concept.

That or they're great in bed.

That's why I say most girls are irrational and mostly instinctive(even so with their "woman's intuition" that isn't worth anything). Even though some men focus their intelligence down "there", mostly think with their brains, instead of instincts... If you want to try and captivate a woman, treat her like a whore and she'll fall right in... Dumbest and most simple strategy ever...

 

And why the hell do girls think they can change us? Because they've seen it in the movies? Pffff, nobody can change at a HUGE rate. If they want to change a "bad" guy, they better prepare themselves for more than 10 years of waiting...

 

And the theory that "bad boys are good in bed" is just a myth... AGAIN created by girls with their creepy bad boy fantasies...

 

Is it just me or are the girls the main reason that romance dies? I know that men have the blame(most of the time) but girls are also pretty exigent... I've thought about it and here's what I've come up with:

- A bad boy at heart, someone who treats them coldly and badly, yet respects them and their image;

- Someone who is good in bed and that will fulfill their every wish;

- Someone who can cook, clean and have the basic knowledge to take care of himself;

- Serious yet funny;

- Cold yet warm;

- Etc...

Basically, a perfect guy for a girl is an impossible mirage... We're not automatons that can be reprogrammed... We're recording-one-time-only CD's!!!

 

EDIT: Again, I must underline that there are cases and there are cases, I'm not saying that girls are the fault for everything, but also not saying that boys are the fault for the end/beginning of weird romances. I'm saying that they share the same blame in it. Guys tend to be cheating(if they're bad boys). Girls tend to be picky(practically every single girl).

The way I see it:

If you believe in love you will find love/it will be easier to fall in love

 

If you don't, it will probably be harder to 'fall in love'

 

Not to say that love is real or not. Not really sure if anyone can prove that 100%, but it depends on ones views.

Someone who is hopeful in love and believes in will find it easier to accept their feelings for someone while someone who doesn't might not even realize they have feelings.

Love is also easy to fabricate and trick yourself or others into. Which is why there's a lot of cases with people staying with their abusive significant others.

 

That's just imo.

I personally believe in love, always have always will and I do really love my own girlfriend.

love is real? ask yourself this...is hate real? is sadness real? is the internet real? is the universe real? are YOU real??????

 

yes x6

I'm married...so yes.

Also we should take into account asexuality. There is such a thing as being heteromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, and aromantic.

Basically, saying romantic love isn't real is kind of like saying heteromantics and etc don't exist.

just putting that out there

But they don't. Simple as that. All those types are just creations of the human mind to comfort people and to say in some way that "nobody is alone in this world". Dumbest... thing... the brain.... has. Love is a combination of pheromones and psychological "hints" that makes us want to like our "partner" in reproduction in a way that transcends anything else. But remember, all creation of our brain and some hormones and pheromones. Nothing more, nothing less. Love doesn't exist, therefore romantic love doesn't either.

But they don't. Simple as that. All those types are just creations of the human mind to comfort people and to say in some way that "nobody is alone in this world". Dumbest... thing... the brain.... has. Love is a combination of pheromones and psychological "hints" that makes us want to like our "partner" in reproduction in a way that transcends anything else. But remember, all creation of our brain and some hormones and pheromones. Nothing more, nothing less. Love doesn't exist, therefore romantic love doesn't either.

 

Um

Asexuals exist

who are you to say hundreds of people that identify as being heteromantic or homoromantic or just plain asexual don't exist?

 

Because, obviously, they do.

 

It's one thing to say you don't believe in it yourself, that's your problem, but don't go around claiming it's not real at all because to some people it is.

It's one thing to say you don't believe in it yourself, that's your problem, but don't go around claiming it's not real at all because to some people it is.

 

Okay, I'm not even responding to that statement, since I'm too shy and weak and *insert weak self-esteem adjectives here* to fight against a mod. That and I like this website.

 

But I am going to leave a question: If a group of people(say.... 200) thought this world is not real and therefore not living in, would that be true to everyone else? Does something one or a couple of people believe become the ultimate truth or reality to everyone else?

 

Um

Asexuals exist

who are you to say hundreds of people that identify as being heteromantic or homoromantic or just plain asexual don't exist?

 

Because, obviously, they do.

 

It's one thing to say you don't believe in it yourself, that's your problem, but don't go around claiming it's not real at all because to some people it is.

 

The simple answer is that asexual people are chemically 'wrong'

I don't like using that word to describe it, because obviously wrong has a lot of negative connotation. But basically, if a person is asexual, it's because the chemicals that make them sexual or not responding to them properly. This can be a natural occurrence, or a gradual psychological one.

In fact, while I'm at it, things like homosexuality and such fall into a similar category, but rather than simply ignoring the pheromones, they basically apply them to the 'wrong' sex.

This is why it bugs me when people say that homosexuality is a perfectly natural thing. While it's a perfectly viable option for people, and I have no personal qualms with it, but it is NOT a natural occurrence. The purpose of sex is to reproduce, but people have becomes convinced that it primarily exists for pleasure. The pleasure is a side effect.

In short, everybody in the world has the right to be gay, but it is by no means natural.