Before I say anything on this post. Please don't be like "Oh another one of these stupid posts." Because I know people are like that.

 

I wanted to ask. Am I a bad person? Recently I got called a "Self-Sacrificing Idiot" because I always put myself before others. I'm very selfless and I don't like putting others before myself because it makes me feel guilty and selfish. It's starting to make me think, Is it wrong to put myself before others? Is it making me a bad person? Am I a bad person for being selfless? I mean It's not like I have anything to lose. I'd sacrifice my life if it was to save another's. They said "I'd live a Self-Sacrificing Idiot and die a Self-Sacrificing Idiot." Is it wrong? This has all really upset me because I always thought I was doing the right thing by putting myself before others. So guys.. Am I a bad person? You can be dishonest as you like and put positive things just to make me feel better. But It won't help me. I'd rather honest things. Even if you are saying I'm a bad person..

I personally fail to see how being selfless and wanting to help others is bad. Anyone who tells you otherwise is probably some selfish jerk who really doesn't care about other people. I think selfless people are really respectable, honestly.

Nothing's wrong with that, people are just being idiots. A cool guy like you shouldn't have to worry about what other people think.

 

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LOL HOW DID I KNOW

No.

You are not a bad person and no that isn't wrong at all. 

It's alright to help others (If it's really necessary). 

It's better than being selfish.

And if that person or anybody else say that you are a "Self-sacrificing idiot", know that you are who you are; NOT what they say you are. 

What I'm saying is, you are not a "Self-sacrificing idiot".  

It's your life, NOT theirs. 

It's your decision to help others, NOT theirs. 

People are selfish. Everyone. Me, you, and the people around us. It's just... some are more selfish than others. But... is that really a bad thing? Is wanting your own happiness a bad thing? I respect people who give something important to help others, people who have very little selfishness. But not everyone's like that. Most people only worries of their own happiness, and the happiness of those important to them, is that wrong? I think not.

 

If you think you're bad because you're selfish, then we all are bad people.

Most people in the world don't see the point in helping others because they think about only helping themselves, it might just be my teen opinion, but I think whoever called you that is just stupid, or doesn't know what they are talking about,honestly I think that you sound like a great person, selfless people are something this world, so I think your an amazing world.

I think you'd be an idiot if you only think about others and sacrifice your happiness for theirs; all it does is make you sad in the end. You gotta think about yourself and what you want too. That way, both parties can be happy :>

Edited January 4, 201510 yr by KazeNari

My honest response? I don't know you well enough to make that call. The only thing I can say is that it's all well and good to help others, and that sometimes you do need to put others before yourself, but there's such a thing as taking it too far. Again, I don't know you, but the only reason I can imagine they're calling you a self-sacrificing idiot is either 1) they're assholes who think generosity is for chumps, or 2) you consistently care for others at the expense of yourself. That doesn't make you a bad person at all. If anything I wish there were more people who took others into account. But sometimes being too self-sacrificing is overbearing to others, and does a disservice to yourself.

 

It may sound selfish but you do need to help yourself first and foremost. Parents for instance put the child's needs before their own, but they can't care for that child unless they themselves are cared for (i.e. watching their health). Saying things like "I have nothing to lose" or "I'd sacrifice myself to save another" is noble, but it also raises some concerns about the value you put in yourself... Why don't you have anything to lose? Why are you so willing to sacrifice yourself? Mindsets like that can be overbearing to other people. It can make them feel guilty for why someone else would need to put themselves on the line just so they can be accounted for.

 

There's a balance. It's good you think of others like this, but you also need to think of yourself.

My honest advice?

 

Its okay to put others needs ahead of yourself, the best people do, but you'll get the respect you seem to be looking for if you can learn not to let people walk all over you, i went through something similar, and im not going to lie, it is tough. but its part of growing up, balancing your needs and others effectively.