A week ago, I received the news that a young teenager commited suicide on my town. He did this, because he was a victim of bullying.

 

(For those that are a bit sensitive, don't open this spoiler tab, as it's a bit... explicit.)

 

 

Apparently he's been a victim of bullying ever since he started elementary school. He was in his second year of high school, and he couldn't take it anymore. His parents weren't helping him that much, so he threw himself off his window. He lived in the sixth floor. Instant death.

 

And from what I've heard, his collegues and his teachers don't care. I've heard that one of his teachers went to a local meat shop, and started complaining that it was his parent's fault that he commited suicide. She was expelt from that shop, with the owner screaming that she and her students should be ashamed of themselves.

 

 

Now here's the thing. I was a victim of bullying. 7 years non-stop. I know what he was going through, and I'm sad to see that he suicided himself. So why do I feel guilty about this?

I never met him, I don't know who he was. But why do I feel that maybe I could have stopped this? I feel that if I knew him, I could have convinced him that there are better days to come, I know that myself.

 

I feel angry about his teacher and his collegues, because they had the same reaction has my teacher and collegues regarding my situation. It just kills me on the inside to see this happen, and I feel so guilty about this

This makes me feel sad... especially the fact that nobody seems to care about what they did to him.

I think your reaction is very understandable. Even though you didn't know him, things like this are pretty shocking especially when they happen close to you. I think I would feel like that too if I were you. It's just easy to go on imagining what could've happened if only you'd been able to help, even when you're not personally involved.

Just remember it's absolutely not your fault.

I only lived two years bullying and it was horrible. Those were the worst years of my life and suicide would sometimes come to mind.

Thankfully, I got friends when I needed them the most and now I'm all better.

Ever since, I feel guilty whenever I hear about others having commited suicide for whatever reason, because I too feel like I could make them believe in better future days to come.

 

I really do feel sad for his loss despite not knowing him. Sorry.

 

 

While I feel for the situation, there is no point in blaming yourself about something that you couldn't ever stop. It would (and is making) just make you feel miserable when you have no faults at all.

 

Also we don't know the whole story so it's hard to just blame someone. How was he bullied? Why are you blaming the teachers and the students? Did the bullied guy report the situation more than once? Did they do something at all? I kinda agree with the teacher in one way: it was mostly his parents fault for not helping him, no matter what.

Edited February 10, 201510 yr by Shuy

Well... First and foremost. I'm terribly sorry for this loss and my condolences go out to the friends and family who actually cared for him.

 

It's okay, Weedy, it's a natural feeling to feel guilty about someone's death even though it isn't your fault.

Edited February 10, 201510 yr by Scottish Skarmory

A week ago, I received the news that a young teenager commited suicide on my town. He did this, because he was a victim of bullying.

 

(For those that are a bit sensitive, don't open this spoiler tab, as it's a bit... explicit.)

 

 

Apparently he's been a victim of bullying ever since he started elementary school. He was in his second year of high school, and he couldn't take it anymore. His parents weren't helping him that much, so he threw himself off his window. He lived in the sixth floor. Instant death.

 

And from what I've heard, his collegues and his teachers don't care. I've heard that one of his teachers went to a local meat shop, and started complaining that it was his parent's fault that he commited suicide. She was expelt from that shop, with the owner screaming that she and her students should be ashamed of themselves.

 

 

Now here's the thing. I was a victim of bullying. 7 years non-stop. I know what he was going through, and I'm sad to see that he suicided himself. So why do I feel guilty about this?

I never met him, I don't know who he was. But why do I feel that maybe I could have stopped this? I feel that if I knew him, I could have convinced him that there are better days to come, I know that myself.

 

I feel angry about his teacher and his collegues, because they had the same reaction has my teacher and collegues regarding my situation. It just kills me on the inside to see this happen, and I feel so guilty about this

 

You feel this way because you can relate to what he was going through. In fact, to say that you feel so strongly for someone you've never actually met, is proof that you have a great heart. And I'm not just saying that either, it's true! But what you must remember is that there are millions of people in this world who unfortunately commit suicide, and you can't be there for them all. But what you CAN do is take a little time out of your routine each day, and be kind to someone. Anyone. Friend, family, stranger... No matter how simple the act, it can go a long way....and you never know if something kind you decide to do for someone will be the one thing that makes them change their mind about dying.

I dunno man. i dont understand why i feel sad for his loss either. What pandy said makes sense, that we can relate to his situation and we wish we could have helped, and i totally get wishing you could stop him,  because i agree that there really are better times ahead. but there is no real reason for us to feel bad for his is there? we didnt know him, and yet we still feel so bad. i dont know why myself, pandy seems to have said it best. but i do want to say one thing weed. from someone who once attempted the same thing he did, ill say thanks for him. i know he didnt get to see it in life, but someone like you, who genuinely cares for others even if you didnt know them can put a smile on even the most depressed of us all. i know, i was there once, and those people, while few and far between, were my saviors. if it werent for people like you i may not be typing this right now. so thank weed. from all of us, those past and present who are or were sad. you really do help us see a ray of light in our darkest hours. 

Sorry if that got a little personal, but i hope it helps.

 

A week ago, I received the news that a young teenager commited suicide on my town. He did this, because he was a victim of bullying.

 

(For those that are a bit sensitive, don't open this spoiler tab, as it's a bit... explicit.)

 

 

Apparently he's been a victim of bullying ever since he started elementary school. He was in his second year of high school, and he couldn't take it anymore. His parents weren't helping him that much, so he threw himself off his window. He lived in the sixth floor. Instant death.

 

And from what I've heard, his collegues and his teachers don't care. I've heard that one of his teachers went to a local meat shop, and started complaining that it was his parent's fault that he commited suicide. She was expelt from that shop, with the owner screaming that she and her students should be ashamed of themselves.

 

 

Now here's the thing. I was a victim of bullying. 7 years non-stop. I know what he was going through, and I'm sad to see that he suicided himself. So why do I feel guilty about this?

I never met him, I don't know who he was. But why do I feel that maybe I could have stopped this? I feel that if I knew him, I could have convinced him that there are better days to come, I know that myself.

 

I feel angry about his teacher and his collegues, because they had the same reaction has my teacher and collegues regarding my situation. It just kills me on the inside to see this happen, and I feel so guilty about this