Hello lovely members! I was thinking today, and I realized that although we may or may not know it, some of our beloved members here may be going through some rough times, whether it be depression, self harm, abuse, or anything really. I thought it'd be a good idea to make a support thread for these members.

As for general advice, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE TALK to someone if you need any help. It can be someone on the site, or you can try one of the hotlines (which I will include at the end, in a spoiler). Talk and be honest and know that it's okay to cry and to be weak and to ask for help. There's no shame in getting help, whether it be from a trusted adult or on the internet, just get help!

You are free to ask for advice here if you are comfortable with publicly posting, but I ask for other members to be sympathetic and if you have no advice to give or nothing nice to say, please don't respond to someone's post. We want to help people, not put them down.

If you are not comfortable asking for advice publicly, I will be posting another list, a list of members you can privately message for help. So far it's just me, but if you're interested in helping out and forming a little advice team, message me and I'll add you to the list. As well, if you have any hotline numbers for other countries, please post them so I can add them to the list.

I will also try to post information on different things (like depression, bipolar disorder, sexuality, gender dysphoria, etc)

 

Also remember, none of us (as far as I know) are professionals! So our advice may not be absolutely perfect, but we'll try to help the best we can.

 

Members you can privately message:

Koko

Think Pink

Not-a-whimper

AnsemTheWise

devereauxr

Snow

 

 

Hotlines:

 

 

North America

Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696

Self-Injury Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (366-8288)

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433

National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)

National LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900

 

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-439–4253

 

 

United Kingdom

Samaritans

Tel: 08457 90 90 90 (National number charged at local call rates)

To find a local center in the UK, you can click here

Minicom/textphone: 08457 90 91 92

Email: [email protected]

 

Violence and Crime

0845 30 30 900 (local rate)

 

Womens aid domestic violence helpline

08457 023468 (local rate)

 

Health NHS direct (mental health/suicide)

0845 46 47 (local rate)

Website: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/ > NHS Direct Mental Health FAQ

 

CHILDLINE (young person or child helpline)

Free call calls cant be traced

0800 1111

Website: http://www.childline.org.uk/

 

Alcoholics anonymous

0845 769 7555 (local rate)

Website: http://www.alcoholic...onymous.org.uk/

 

Curse bereavement care

0870 167 1677 (local rate)

 

Sexuality

(020) 7837 7324

 

National Debt Helpline

0808 084000

 

Cruse Bereavement Care

0870 1671677

 

Farmers in Difficulty

07002 326326

 

Worried someone is having thoughts of Suicide - Call PAPYRUS HOPEline

0870 1704000

Ireland

Samaritans

Tel: 1850 60 90 90 (National number charged at local call rates)

To find a local Samaritans center in Ireland, click here

Minicom/textphone: 1850 60 90 91

Email: [email protected]

 

Childline - freefone 1800 666 666

Depression - Aware (01) 676 6166

Bodywhys (help for Anorexia and bulimia) - (01) 283 5126

NSPCC, Child Protection Helpline:freephone, 24 hrs - 0800 800500

NICAS-n.i.community addiction service, alcohol,drugs addiction – 028 90664434/90330499/90731602

Zest for the prevention of suicide -Londonderry -028)71266999

Eating Disorders Assessment (NI) - 90618299 /90621627

Contact Youth (counselling for young People) - 028)90457848

Youthline - 0808 808 8000

Young Persons Advice line - 0808 808 5678

Childline - 24 hr helpline for children and young people in trouble - 0800 1111 / Website: http://www.childline.org.uk/

 

Nexus Rape and Incest Counselling

Belfast centre - (028)90326803

Londonderry centre-(028)71260566

Enniskillen - (028)66320046

Portadown - (028)38350588

 

Rape crisis and sexual abuse centre - (028)90249696

Freephone - 0800 0526813

Victim Support Belfast - (028)90244039

 

Other useful numbers in Northern Ireland:-

Belfast city Hospital – 028 90329241

Royal Victoria Hospital –028 90240503

Mater Hospital – 028 90741211

Dunlewey Substance advice - 028)90743999

Alcoholics Anon – 028 90434848

Aids Help Line - 0800 12743/02890 326117

Relate Marriage Guidance counselling -028)90323454

Brook advisory centre (Family Planning for under 25)

- (028)90328866

Family Planning association -(028)90325448

 

Other useful numbers in ROI:-

Dublin

Rape Crisis centre - 6614911/6615464

Sexual assault unit, Rotunda Hospital - 8732111

Women and aids - 8745302

Women’s aid helpline - 1800 341 900 or 01 8745302/3

Women’s aid refuge - 961002

 

Galway

Rape Crisis Centre - 563676

Women’s aid refuge - 63581

 

Limerick

Rape Crisis Centre - 311511

 

 

 

This this this

 

Do not let a single person control how you feel

You are in control of your emotions

You are in control of yourself

 

@Austin

 

You need to get over him. I'm sorry I'm so blunt, but it's true. He doesn't support it, there's nothing you can do. You just need to move on, as hard as it may be. But do not let this one thing control your emotions and your life.

 

For some reason this made me stop thinking of him as much... I still enjoy talking to him but I don't feel that sad without him. I guess this site was so much fun he kinda popped out of my head

Ok so I know I posted a thread but I have other problems too

well two weeks ago my bf for a year and a half ignored me, broke up with me, and won't tell me why. I still miss him and care about him even though he flirts with other girls, and called me a bipolar pms-ing bitch.

my dad got re-married to his gf who I always fight with, and I fight with her spoiled kids. They got married in a courtroom and didn't tell me about it. That doesn't bug me. The part that pissed me off is my dad always wanted a church wedding. He even criticized my sister who's not having a catholic wedding. The he does this.

My mom is dating a guy who cares about her, but thinks my sister is a slacker cuz she had to pay for community college but had to drop out cuz she ran out of money.

I try talking to my friends but they don't understand. I have nowhere to go and my heart hurts. im considering running away

Ok so I know I posted a thread but I have other problems too

well two weeks ago my bf for a year and a half ignored me, broke up with me, and won't tell me why. I still miss him and care about him even though he flirts with other girls, and called me a bipolar pms-ing bitch.

my dad got re-married to his gf who I always fight with, and I fight with her spoiled kids. They got married in a courtroom and didn't tell me about it. That doesn't bug me. The part that pissed me off is my dad always wanted a church wedding. He even criticized my sister who's not having a catholic wedding. The he does this.

My mom is dating a guy who cares about her, but thinks my sister is a slacker cuz she had to pay for community college but had to drop out cuz she ran out of money.

I try talking to my friends but they don't understand. I have nowhere to go and my heart hurts. im considering running away

 

Please think before you run away. You already said you have nowhere to go; how would running away and ending up on the streets make your life any better? You have a family (even if you don't like some of them), you have a home, don't throw that away so easily.

Ok so I know I posted a thread but I have other problems too

well two weeks ago my bf for a year and a half ignored me, broke up with me, and won't tell me why. I still miss him and care about him even though he flirts with other girls, and called me a bipolar pms-ing bitch.

my dad got re-married to his gf who I always fight with, and I fight with her spoiled kids. They got married in a courtroom and didn't tell me about it. That doesn't bug me. The part that pissed me off is my dad always wanted a church wedding. He even criticized my sister who's not having a catholic wedding. The he does this.

My mom is dating a guy who cares about her, but thinks my sister is a slacker cuz she had to pay for community college but had to drop out cuz she ran out of money.

I try talking to my friends but they don't understand. I have nowhere to go and my heart hurts. im considering running away

 

honestly

you are just whining

 

your ex boyfriend is nothing but an ex.

what good is a guy who won't tell you why he acted in such a way and calls you horrible things.

get over him.

he's not a good guy.

he wasn't worth your time.

and definitely is not worth running away for

 

your dad can do what he wants. if he decided to have a courtroom wedding that is his own choice. i'd be more worried about the fact that he married someone you didn't approve of. that's something you need to talk to him about. but as long as she isn't abusing you, then really, there's nothing to complain about

 

and whatever is going between your mom and sister has nothing to do with you, so move on.

 

sorry to be so blunt.

 

there's no reason to run away

there's itty bitty baby problems

Sry for wasting your time

Edited April 26, 201213 yr by SummerRain

Sry for wasting your time

 

you didn't waste anyone's time honey but you need to think sometimes

'is this really something worth running away for?'

'is this really a reason to be so upset?'

 

you can't let a broken heart and a passing by anger tell you to run away because you'll regret it.

what will running away do anyways?

make you even more miserable

just think things through

This weekend I'm going for coffee with my best friends and their older brother. My best friends, J and A, are both sixteen and eighteen. S, the brother, is twenty five and has Asperger's Syndrome. Being an Aspie myself, I've never had contact with anyone who's had the same mental disability. This made me really eager to meet S because he has the same interest as me. Manga, anime, books and video games. But what's making me so uncomfortable is that S likes me. Which is ridiculous because I've only met him three times. I don't know much about him but he is always asking J and A questions specific to me every time he visits the house.

 

And then there's his entire family convinced he likes me because he's adjusting certain quirks of his just to make me feel comfortable which is in fact doing the opposite. I've been getting weird looks from people all day because they're convinced, "Geneviève is going on a date." One of the teacher aids at school and my parents are giving me advice and info how should act accordingly on a date. But it isn't one!

 

This probably won't make sense to any of you, but because of my synesthesia I often get sensory overloads consisting of colour. Heat colours give me pain while cool colours offer me comfort. It can range from a way a sound feels to the way a situation is. And when my friends give me these knowing looks and my parents are calling it a date the colours all feel so wrong I feel like clawing out of my own skin.

 

On top of that, this entire situation, whether it be a "date" or not, is so out of my comfort zone. I have absolutely no experience in this field. And I'm so uncomfortable I feel like I'm going to cry.

 

Maybe I'm being petty and childish for feeling this way but I needed to vent because I have all these pent up feelings.

Try taking a day or two for yourself to try to sort things out and relax?

I don't really have much advice ;n;

Try taking a day or two for yourself to try to sort things out and relax?

I don't really have much advice ;n;

 

It's fine.

 

I needed to let it out.

 

;A;

I finally stopped loving that boy owo.

I have started to hate him... at first I thought I would be better off and I would stop thinking of him. But now I just think of him when I'm not around him even more. I never want to see him again........ but now I feel more lost without him. I don't know why this happens T3T, I wish I could just tell him I don't wanna see him again.... but going out of my way to talk to him (we haven't been as good friends as we used to be weeks ago, not sure why) wouldn't feel right to me.

Plus we have an after school club that we both attend and we (or just him) might take it over once our normal adviser is in college

 

Edit: We are somehow friends like before. I still don't have feelings for him and he treats me like a human. I also don't think about him much....

i have a bullying problem well bullying might be a understatement anyway this guy always harasses and punches me for a example so today i was already pissed off the my teacher banned my computer account for something my friend did (not getting into that story) so he comes an starts his usual harassing shit and so i just get so pissed off i tell him to firetruck off and then he starts saying "come on hit me you lil bitch come on!" after that i felt mix emotions of sadness, anger, and a little depression i swear im done with that class i feel like i should just skip the rest of that class for the rest of the year!!

 

any advice will help thx

Edited May 31, 201213 yr by FLASH45

i have a bullying problem well bullying might be a understatement anyway this guy always harasses and punches me for a example so today i was already pissed off the my teacher banned my computer account for something my friend did (not getting into that story) so he comes an starts his usual harassing shit and so i just get so pissed off i tell him to firetruck off and then he starts saying "come on hit me you lil bitch come on!" after that i felt mix emotions of sadness, anger, and a little depression i swear im done with that class i feel like i should just skip the rest of that class for the rest of the year!!

 

any advice will help thx

 

Don't do that. If he's bulling you then tell a teacher or your mom. If you skip class it won't do anything for you.

I don't have anything else to say. Just tell a teacher if one teacher won't do anything then tell another. Bulling is not okay and tell your mom to.

Sorry if I'm not helping.

i have a bullying problem well bullying might be a understatement anyway this guy always harasses and punches me for a example so today i was already pissed off the my teacher banned my computer account for something my friend did (not getting into that story) so he comes an starts his usual harassing shit and so i just get so pissed off i tell him to firetruck off and then he starts saying "come on hit me you lil bitch come on!" after that i felt mix emotions of sadness, anger, and a little depression i swear im done with that class i feel like i should just skip the rest of that class for the rest of the year!!

 

any advice will help thx

 

You should go to an adult. Someone who knows about this kid and about everyone at your school overall. I was always really depressed about stuff before I went to my counselor, if they can't confirm that guy leaving you alone some times just venting and potentially getting advice can make you be more optimistic about the situation.

 

Your counselor will probably call your parents and you could tell your friends about it as well. Your friends could stick up for you and/or your parents knowing that you should get some help or something might make you feel better if you know they care ( probably not what you're looking for but me going through this definitely made me feel better )

I finally stopped loving that boy owo.

I have started to hate him... at first I thought I would be better off and I would stop thinking of him. But now I just think of him when I'm not around him even more. I never want to see him again........ but now I feel more lost without him. I don't know why this happens T3T, I wish I could just tell him I don't wanna see him again.... but going out of my way to talk to him (we haven't been as good friends as we used to be weeks ago, not sure why) wouldn't feel right to me.

Plus we have an after school club that we both attend and we (or just him) might take it over once our normal adviser is in college

 

 

Breaking away from someone you were friends with/romantically liked is always difficult. It sounds cliche, but it will get better as time goes on. In a few months you're going to wonder what on earth made it so hard to hang out with him less. If you don't want to see him again and you're too afraid to talk to him, then don't talk to him. Your body language can say a lot about how you're feeling. Just don't talk to him, don't wave, ect. and he'll get the message. If he's treating you badly it's the answer he deserves.

I was told that I had Bipolar Disorder when I was 9, from the news of my Bipolar to my 10th b-day there were 3 attempts of suicide, these were the early stages. My parents and doctors treated me and I fought through my depressed state, everyone preferred the mania. When we moved my doctors changed, along with the medicine I was on. I went to the mental hospital 2 times for medicine changes, my parents thought that way was safer as did I, every time my medicine is changed or adjusted now I go there. When I turned 13 I was a victim of attempted rape, this occurred 2 more times when I was 15. I am thankful for the people who helped me when I needed help. When my parents were told they sent me to a mental hospital to get the coping skills I needed and to check my medication levels. I ended up at home with new medicines, which have not been changed. These parts of me are the hardest parts to remember, but they have made me the young woman that people see today. These are the problems that made me fall, but now I am back on my feet and standing strong

 

Your problems make you who you are. Because how you react affects your character.

I was told that I had Bipolar Disorder when I was 9, from the news of my Bipolar to my 10th b-day there were 3 attempts of suicide, these were the early stages. My parents and doctors treated me and I fought through my depressed state, everyone preferred the mania. When we moved my doctors changed, along with the medicine I was on. I went to the mental hospital 2 times for medicine changes, my parents thought that way was safer as did I, every time my medicine is changed or adjusted now I go there. When I turned 13 I was a victim of attempted rape, this occurred 2 more times when I was 15. I am thankful for the people who helped me when I needed help. When my parents were told they sent me to a mental hospital to get the coping skills I needed and to check my medication levels. I ended up at home with new medicines, which have not been changed. These parts of me are the hardest parts to remember, but they have made me the young woman that people see today. These are the problems that made me fall, but now I am back on my feet and standing strong

 

Your problems make you who you are. Because how you react affects your character.

 

I gotta be honest that's a pretty inspiring story there. I've kinda went down on a large depression state for a few years 2009-2011. Smoking cigarettes and marijuana, suicide attempts, barricading myself in my room without food or drinks etc. Rough path I went through. The cause of my depression was mainly man terrible family. Both of my brothers are psychopaths and the oldest has been to an Asylum, a few foster homes, etc. then He finally came home and he once again went to another place for people of his type. Anyhow the point of him coming and leaving was he always tried to kill me and my family and such. The second oldest brother just liked to steal my valuables and things of meaning and destroy them and he would mess my room up too. My mom she never cared about me but only them always grounding me and blaming things on me and when they get caught in the act they never get grounded meanwhile I always was. Smoking I got into from my oldest brother who forced me to by threats became a habit and i started doing it often then quitting then often once more then quit again. I have officially quit thanks to the guy I love http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/happy.png But I think everyone has rough times in life and the times of happening vary i suppose. Me I tried suicide quite often jumped off a bridge survive no injury held knives to my throat and other things that I'm not proud of but I'm glad all of that's over But if anyone's going through a rough time just know the bad times will end

 

Don't think I wrote a bit of the story but that's a large majority of it in a few easy sentences.

Edited June 24, 201213 yr by Libirica

Ok so my college partner Ema[Which I like] is acting weird lately, what is going on? Sometimes she looks serious to me, but other times she is being sweet to me and everything, she says that She wants to see me more time.

 

What da heck is happening and how can I solve this?

Ok so my college partner Ema[Which I like] is acting weird lately, what is going on? Sometimes she looks serious to me, but other times she is being sweet to me and everything, she says that She wants to see me more time.

 

What da heck is happening and how can I solve this?

 

I don't see how this is any sort of serious problem If she likes you, she likes you, if she doesn't, she doesn't. Just ask her yourself.

I have a party this weekend. My buddy told me to be at his place at 18:00. He said that the party would last until 05:00.

 

The problem is that I have a concert the day after the party. The bus leaves at 06:30, and we'll be back at 04:00 of the next day.

 

He really wants me to be in his party, since he turns 18.

 

What can I do?

I have a party this weekend. My buddy told me to be at his place at 18:00. He said that the party would last until 05:00.

 

The problem is that I have a concert the day after the party. The bus leaves at 06:30, and we'll be back at 04:00 of the next day.

 

He really wants me to be in his party, since he turns 18.

 

What can I do?

 

OOOH thats a hard one....

I have a party this weekend. My buddy told me to be at his place at 18:00. He said that the party would last until 05:00.

 

The problem is that I have a concert the day after the party. The bus leaves at 06:30, and we'll be back at 04:00 of the next day.

 

He really wants me to be in his party, since he turns 18.

 

What can I do?

 

Leave before the party ends? Stay 2-3 hours then leave.

Leave before the party ends? Stay 2-3 hours then leave.

 

The problem is that this party will rock hard.

 

And now a girl I know wants to stay with me in that party long enough if you know what I mean

Edited July 11, 201213 yr by Sora's Little Helper

The problem is that this party will rock hard.

 

And now a girl I know wants to stay with me in that party long enough if you know what I mean

 

Ew. Just ew. I really don't need to know that dude.

Anyways.

I say tell your friend that you can't go. If you have things to do then you shouldn't go.

Hey guys, can we keep this for SERIOUS problems pls