Yeah. I hate this.

Loving someone who just doesn't, and can't love you because they don't work that way.

It sucks. A lot.

But I guess I have to deal with it right?

I'm having so many problems at school because of this, which might sound simple but is really heavy and painful for me...

I like a guy. And he's an idiot. I took so long to build up the courage to finally tell him... and he freaked out when I finally did.

Said first thing that came to his head not to offend me. He had good enough intentions. But he lied. We weren't friends anymore.

And I get it. But he went further, and he had to tell more people, didn't he?

It sucks.

Right now, I'm struggling with how to react once everyone knows. Do I pretend I'm not? Do I admit I am and deal with it?

I should preserve myself, but like... I don't really want to lie, and even if I do, too many people already know.

This sucks so much. I didn't want everyone to know, that's why I was careful with who I told. And it's over. I wasn't going to tell anyone else. Too many people know, already. I talked it out with the guy... It was difficult, because he didn't even want to look at my face anymore. He was disgusted. Maybe he felt guilty. But we agreed he'd stop doing anything, and I would stop having feelings for him.

Maybe he can do his part. But can I do mine...? We should treat each other like classmates. School mates. Mates. But not friends, I guess. Not like we used to be. Or at least, used to be for me, since he doesn't seem to see me as having been a friend, ever.

I still love him, and it's horrible because it's too strong. It's the strongest feeling I've ever had. But I can't, I can't.

But whenever I'm doing anything, I end up thinking too much. Thinking about him.

It sucks to say this, but... my first love didn't work out.

We don't work out, because he's just not like me. But he knows how selfish he was. How much he hurt me. He's jut too much of a jerk to do anything about it, because he's more worried about the impression his friends would have if he started treating me better.

Jerk, jerk, jerk!

I just don't know what to do, or how to do anything. I'm confused. Once everyone knows, too, I'll be in risk of violence and abuse. I just need help, guys...

What do I do?

Seems to me that you somehow need to give up on this guy.

Seems to me that you somehow need to give up on this guy.

 

I want to. He's seriously not worth it.

But it's difficult, I can't do it. I don't know how to explain. I keep thinking about him all the time, about what he says, it bothers me.

I want to. He's seriously not worth it.

But it's difficult, I can't do it. I don't know how to explain. I keep thinking about him all the time, about what he says, it bothers me.

 

I know it's difficult, but this should be your goal. Instead of thinking "how can I get with him?", you should be thinking "how can I get over and stop caring about him?" Personally I think the easiest way to do this is to find someone else to want.

You may have heard this many times, but only time can heal a broken heart. I know it's a cliche, but it works. Try not to think about him, do something u like to keep your mind busy, or go on a vacation far away and before you know it you'll be good as new. Trust me.

Well, I say that you should move on. Find a way to. And if anyone makes fun of you, don't put up with their crap, just walk away.

It wasn't mean to be. You'll find a better guy, one who really loves you. You're still young, and there's plenty of time for you to find "the one."

I know it is hard for you right now so for once I am going to stop being someone I am not and help you out with your problem. Okay first, whenever one person finds out something they tend to tell another and then another and so one since thats how people work, no one knows why. So if you can handle it, then be open out and truthful about who you really are. I for one can not live out in the open like I can on this site because I fear too much about what others would think of me, but if you can live out in the open than do instead of lying. I know for one that lies are never good and are hard to live with if you want to make them real enough for people to believe as true. Second, I think I know about how it feels to try and forget your love and you cannot I have beven in love with the same girl for 4 years now and I have never told her how I felt, but I could never stop thinking about her and still can't. So when it cSo when it comes to to forgetting about for first, it is tough to forget them. It will take sometime to be able to forget about your feelingsand be able to look at him and not feel anything. So for the time being just try and not see him and when you are in class together just forget he is there. In the end, everything will turn out right. God has a plan for you that you cannot see yet.

Follow or at least try to follow DC's advice...

Forgetting him won't be easy, but if you replace him for someone else, it surely is going to make it way easier...

But only time will tell... Good luck!

Seems to me that you somehow need to give up on this guy.

 

I want to. He's seriously not worth it.

But it's difficult, I can't do it. I don't know how to explain. I keep thinking about him all the time, about what he says, it bothers me.

 

 

 

I know it's difficult, but this should be your goal. Instead of thinking "how can I get with him?", you should be thinking "how can I get over and stop caring about him?" Personally I think the easiest way to do this is to find someone else to want.

 

Daniel's pretty much said what I have told you a thousand times, Felipe. I get it, it's difficult. I know, I dealt with it myself. Zac is a douchebag and I could list so much more. What helped me the most were my friends, the ones who actually cared. Thinking about them, spending time with them is what helped me cope. And eventually, I stopped thinking about Zac constantly. Now I wonder why the hell I had feelings for him in the first place.

 

I bet in a few months, you'll ask yourself, "What did I even see in Tiago?" You need to find yourself distractions, any distraction, whether it be friends or even homework. If you start to think about Tiago, put your mind to something else. Don't wallow in your thoughts because you'd be digging yourself into a deeper grave.

 

This situation won't last. You're only thirteen and you still have a long life to live. Hell, this is coming from a seventeen year old who also needs to live a little. Just give it time and it'll pass. Develop self-control on your thoughts. Make it your goal and maybe if that goal is constantly present in your mind, you'll forget to think about him so obsessively. (: If there's anything else you want to talk about, I'm always here.

Edited June 3, 201213 yr by TheApprenticeofKingMickey

Don't lie to both yourself and/or others and ignore the people who can only learn to both tease and/or bully others, for in the end, they themseleves might get bullied to but that shouldn't really encourage you to be happy about that, for that will make you no better then them and also, i myself have a thought in my head that im trying to let go but it just doesn't seem to both let go and/or give up but i realise that i must keep fighting against this bad thought in my head as long as i can and that even if your heartbroken now, that doesn't mean that you will be heartbroken forever, instead, let this serve as a lesson to remind you that yes, there will always be people who will discriminate others just because of their differences for example, skin colour, religion, disabilities, status and/or race but let them say what they want, for they will hopefully realise, either sooner or later, that they themseleves were being stupid, as they still could of had the chance to make friends with you, a chance that they had wasted when in fact they missed out on getting to know someone and that someone in return knowing them, both parties gaining lots of information about one another and duss, use it to their advantage, for example, going out together, inviting one another to a special party or something and/or other things but like i said, they had wasted that chance because of the stupid whatever is inside of them that prevents them from at least trying to keep someone's personal information from leaking out on purpose but despite that and/or things like that, don't go looking for a fight and continue on searching for whom you believe will definately accept your feelings after getting to know them after a while of course and enjoy having fun with those whom you both care about and/or believe that you can trust.

It's takes time to heal a broken heart.

It's take time to forget somebody.

He wasn't worth it anyways.

And when a door closes, another one opens.

Soon you'll find somebody way better then him.

Somebody who will love you back.

Sorry if I'm not helping.

I don't know the whole story but like the others said you should move on, I know you think it's real love but I wouldn't even really call it love till you're 18/19. I think you just have puppy love. As for the fact that it's guys you're into and I don't mean this in a way where you have to hide your real self, but most guys your age would normally give you a bit of a slagging for liking a girl but I wouldn't put it past a few of them if they wanted to bate you just cause of their own immaturities and insecurities. So as long as you're in school you should keep it on the down low. I hope you'll be alright