Warning - rant ahead

 

It turns out I don't have to do much to make my mom mad at me.

 

Here's what happened.  On our way home from seeing my therapist we had to stop dealership because the window on my dad's car broke again.  We pull in and my om lets me out.  I walk in the building and find a place sit down and wait while working on the E3 countdown.  The last time my mom took the car in for the same problem, she sat there for three hours before they offered her a rental car, so I didn't think twice about the long wait.  Then my mom shows up and she was pissed out of nowhere because she couldn't find me, or get a hold of me.  Apparently they paged me twice, but I only heard one pause in the music and definitely not anything resembling comprehensible speech.  She's mad at me and I didn't do anything.  All I did was sit down and I still didn't do anything right.  It's not my fault the PA system is apparently crap.  And I had my phone on do not disturb mode so it wouldn't go off in the middle of my Dr appointment,and I forgot to turn it off which is why I didn't get any of her calls or was notified of her text.  I forgot.  That's no reason to be mad at me.  I can't control what I remember at what time.  That's why it's called forgetting.  It's ridiculous that I should be reprimanded for something that isn't my fault.  She expects me to tell her I'm sorry.  For what?  I'm sorry for just doing what I usually do?  Because that's all I did.  I don't even have to do anything to scare my mom.  And then I get talked to like I hid from her on purpose.    And the worst part - she never listens to me when I try to get her to see where I'm coming from.  I try to say things to her, but she she just says she gets it and then keeps acting like she's right.  So I didn't even try to explain because that will lead to just more yelling.  How the heck am I supposed to get anywhere if I keep getting in trouble when I don't do anything?

Parents always do that, it's not much of a surprise. I learnt to let these things go when I know Ive done absolutely nothing wrong and I suggest you do the same. Parents are always stressed about something and sometimes they just take it out on their sons/daughter. If you don't feel like you've done anything wrong then just forget it and move on

Well, it can be a little frustrating when you're trying to get in touch with someone, and they won't answer the phone...However,  I have never understood why people stay so mad afterwards. Even when you apologize later for not answering, they still act like you committed a felony! Yet, when the role is reversed and it's you calling THEM, you're supposed to forgive their delay.

 

 

Ahhhh, just let it go, hon. It happened, it was an accident, parents worry too much, life continues!

She might have gotten mad out of fear because she couldn't reach you. She probably thought something bad happened to you. I've noticed parents (and adults in general) get mad when they're scared, too. Not just to be mad at you. Even though you think it's unfair, you should say you're sorry anyway. You didn't do anything wrong, but life is too short to be mad at your mom for small things like that, especially when her anger could've been from fear of losing her child. That might sound extreme, but when you're a parent and your child isn't responding to you (whatever the reason may be), you fear the worst. She's probably more mad at you for forgetting to have your phone off silent mode. If you apologize, she may apologize too. 

 

I'm not a parent, but I know a lot of people who are and they easily get mad over things like this mostly out of fear, not true anger at YOU, you know?? Just try talking with her and apologizing for having your phone on silent and tell her you will try your hardest to remember to not do that anymore, but that you're human and you might make the same mistake again. No one is perfect.

 

But you only have 1 mom and these little things won't matter later on in life.

I'm sorry that happened to you with your mom, but like waytothexdawnx put it, maybe your mom was just really worried that she could not get a hold of you. I can't say why your mom does those things to you or how your life is with her, but I'm sure there must be an underlying reason or she just wants to protect you. A mother can be unpredictable when it comes to her children, haha. I really do hope things get better with you and your mom and that maybe you two can talk it out someday. 

Yikes.  It's really tough when parents get so bent out of shape over small things, especially when you look at the situation outwardly and think, "Really?  They're that mad over an accident?"  It is quite difficult for me to say what your mom was thinking, but obviously she felt herself justified in her actions.  To me it seems like it was more of a misunderstanding than anything else.  You forgot to turn your phone on and thus missed out on hearing the news or receiving her notifications.  While true, we're still held responsible for forgetting, there isn't too much to be angry for regarding this.  While she might've been worried I'm sort of thinking that she was probably more upset about missing out on the news, as well as getting ahold of you.  It's true that parents do get mad when they're worried about their children, but at your age I'm not so sure that she would've been that worried, know what I mean?

 

All-in-all, parents are human and aren't perfect.  They still express their emotions and feelings just as any person would.  I know that I spent way too many years expecting my mom to handle everything in that "perfect mom" manner.  As I've gotten older, however, I've discovered that just because a person is a parent doesn't mean that they change and become "perfect."  I'm not justifying your mom's actions, but rather trying to shed light on the matter that she is just a person who reacts to things as well, and I'm sure that it was nothing personal against you.

 

To be honest I feel that it's unfair that she demands an apology.  Sometimes parents can get pretty funny about feeling they're always right when, in truth, they really aren't.  Either way, I'm very sorry about the incident and I really sympathize with your side.  I hope that you guys have been able to work it out since the incident.  Feel free to vent at us (or even me directly) if you ever need to.  We all understand and most of us have probably even been there. : )

I get how you feel because this happens to me the whole time and over the years I have grown scared of my mom when she gets angry.

When that happens I'm afraid of talking to her or doing anything that might make things worse.

It's not the right thing to do but I just go with it just accept what she's saying because there is no talking to my mother when she's angry and that causes me way too much stress. I can't live with a person which makes me feel this bad and that's the reason why I want to leave my house and live somewhere away from them.

My dad can be the same sometimes so that's stress coming from two fronts.

 

Sorry, I was supposed to be helping but ended up talking about my worries instead.

I'm not sure what to do. Apologizing can be quite difficult since you believe it's unfair and you may be right but like the others have said parents get WAY too worried about you so I think you should try and justify her for this one moment.

If it makes you feel better I forget to to turn off the do-not-disturb mode on my cell phone too. It happens.

Yeah I get you. Mom's can be bitches sometimes. Mine just gets all over me for absolutely no reason.

Thanks guys.  The whole thing has blown over now - no apology needed.