Hey there everyone, how's it going!?  Okay, I know what you're thinking!  "Um, why would I talk about my flaws?"  Well, it's because this is a topic I've been thinking about since last night and during the day today, ya know?  Because you know how there are people that just love to point out flaws in everyone?  I just wonder if they ever stop to realize their own flaws!  With that in mind, I've made this thread so we can all gather and discuss our flaws, because hey, we're human beings, and if we're anything, we're flawed, but there's beauty in imperfection, ya know?  But anyways, I'll start!

 

I think I can safely say that one of the biggest flaws I have is being indecisive.  Like, for example, there are a few shows I want to watch, but I don't know where to begin, and if it narrows down to just two choices, I have a tough time deciding, ya know?  The same goes for cooking!  Sometimes when I cook, I think to myself what I want to do, but then another idea pops into my head and then I start thinking about that, and before I know it, I'm indecisive about what I want to cook!  This also applies to books that I see, video games, movies, etc. Sometimes there are two really good choices, and I just don't know which one I'd enjoy more, ya know?  I hate being indecisive, and it's something that really bothers me! X_X

 

Another big flaw I have is that sometimes I'm just too nice!  Okay, wait, what I mean is, that when I try to be blunt, it doesn't work!  Let me explain.  You see, sometimes, when things happen or someone talks to me in a certain way, I think of a really good comeback or just some comment in general to throw back at the person, and though I picture it all great and dandy in my head, when it really comes to it, I just kind of shy out and don't say shit!  It's frustrating! -_-  It's like when I'm handing out job resumes!  The heads of the establishments are like: "We're already full on employees, but if anything comes out, I'll let you know!"  That's the response I always get, and sometimes I just want to go out and say: "Look, I know that I'm not the only one in the world looking for a job, and I know the economy is rough, but damn it, I am trying my hardest to get a job, but nothing happens as much as I try!" Like I said, it all sounds neat and awesome in my head, but when it comes to speaking my mind...well, I go flat.  Sometimes I wish I could have the ability to be blunt, ya know?

 

So yeah, those are my two biggest flaws!  What about all of you?  What would you say are your biggest flaws, things that you think mess you up personally?  Feel free to share below, I won't judge, and no one here will judge, because we're a good community!  We won't bite! ^_^

 

 

I have a tendency to remember things in the past that I'd rather not remember.

 

Sometimes, I hide my feelings way too much.

 

Pretty lazy at some points.

My gosh you are a sweetheart. Haha yeah but my indecisiveness stems from my paranoia of displeasing others so I just let them decide my life for me (hence vicarious), and I have trouble deciding for myself as a result. 

Being indecisive is a struggle, but I'm managing as I'm sure you are as well. 

Thanks for this though, it brought a smile to my face :>

 

Aw, well, I can understand not wanting to displease anyone, but hey, there's a famous saying that goes: "You can't please everyone!"  But yeah, I can understand that you want to help people out or do what you can for them at the expense of yourself, but you shouldn't let that be what rules your life, ya know?  It's good that you're working on that, because that way, when the time comes, you'll be able to make your own decisions without having to worry about anyone's thoughts and opinions!

 

But yeah, indecisiveness is definitely a b*tch!  I feel for ya! *Fist bumps.* X3

 

And well, I'm glad I can bring smiles to people's faces!  It makes me feel good that I can help others with my words!

 

Too many... a few bigger ones are my temper: I have none. I fly off the handle too easily. I don't trust people easily, and i'm shy in public to points of embarrassement. I think bad posture's a flaw as well. And paranoid thoughts sometimes in crowds. 

That, and I can be a real a@# when I want to be. 

Those are the biggest, and I admit to them. I'm trying to work on them.

 

Well hey, like you said, you're trying to work on your flaws, and ultimately, that's what matters!  You're doing your best to become a better person, and I'm sure you'll be able to reach your goal in the end! So keep your chin up!

 

I have a tendency to remember things in the past that I'd rather not remember.

 

Sometimes, I hide my feelings way too much.

 

Pretty lazy at some points.

 

Ah, well, the things that happen to us in the past can serve as lessons and building stones for the future!  As long as you acknowledge your past but you don't let it rule your present, you can push forward and build a better future! (Yeah, it sounds corny, but the message is heartfelt!)

 

Ooh, that's something you and my best friend/soul brother Jonathan have in common!  He's not one to show his feelings to just anyone, but I being his closest friend, practically a brother, I've been able to see his emotional side.  The dude may be all tough on the outside, but he's got a heart of gold on the inside!

 

Lol, yeah, I think all of us can be lazy at times.

Edited March 8, 20169 yr by The Transcendent Key

All of my flaws in one way or another are an extension of my social abilities. 

 

1. I'm overly honest and outspoken.

My honesty is very raw with absolutely no added sugar or preservatives which results in a disrespectful tone though that is far from the intention and I have a habit of giving my feedback when it's inappropriate of me to.

 

2. I can be one-dimensionally minded. Sometimes it takes a push to help me see multiple possibilities or a possibility at all where I perceive one as absent. I'm creative but can handicap myself by treating a given situation as hopeless when one method isn't working out.

A lot of the time though this only appears to be happening when in actuality I'm trying to get out of something I'm uncomfortable with, usually as a bus route I've never taken before. That's not right, I have to try it in order to learn and get used to it. 

 

3. Verbally, I'm a social flutterby. I have trouble initiating a conversation and keeping one going. I'm terrible at thinking on my feet and as a result can be incohesive.

I've also been scolded for following certain rules of etiquette such as a year or two ago when I didn't say anything when I wasn't able to get my best friend a gift for her birthday. She didn't care about not getting a gift from me but felt it strange for me not to have said anything while in the presence of two other friends who each presented her with one.

This isn't a conscious thing, I just tend to make the incorrect assumption that something like that is a given to those who know me well or just not have a clear notion of certain rules. When one does come to mind, I certain will act on it. 

 

4. As a result of both #2 and #3, I don't take as much initiative to work towards a goal such as applying for jobs and learning to drive as I know I need to. My mother and my stepfather are both people who need to be nagged to get something done a lot of the time and that directly challenges my weakness.

My desires are strong, I just let my social issues bind me.

 

5. I get jealous easily and tend to be a bitch when I am. 

6. I can annoy easily at "spilt milk". 

 

These are all things, I know I need to change and am already improving on some of them. 

Edited March 12, 20169 yr by FinalRest

All of my flaws in one way or another are an extension of my social abilities. 

 

1. I'm overly honest and outspoken.

My honesty is very raw with absolutely no added sugar or preservatives which results in a disrespectful tone though that is far from the intention and I have a habit of giving my feedback when it's inappropriate of me to.

 

2. I can be one-dimensionally minded. Sometimes it takes a push to help me see multiple possibilities or a possibility at all where I perceive one as absent. I'm creative but can handicap myself by treating a given situation as hopeless when one method isn't working out.

A lot of the time though this only appears to be happening when in actuality I'm trying to get out of something I'm uncomfortable with, usually as a bus route I've never taken before. That's not right, I have to try it in order to learn and get used to it. 

 

3. Verbally, I'm a social flutterby. I have trouble initiating a conversation and keeping one going. I'm terrible at thinking on my feet and as a result can be incohesive.

I've also been scolded for following certain rules of etiquette such as a year or two ago when I didn't say anything when I wasn't able to get my best friend a gift for her birthday. She didn't care about not getting a gift from me but felt it strange for me not to have said anything while in the presence of two other friends who each presented her with one.

This isn't a conscious thing, I just tend to make the incorrect assumption that something like that is a given to those who know me well or just not have a clear notion of certain rules. When one does come to mind, I certain will act on it. 

 

4. As a result of both #2 and #3, I don't take as much initiative to work towards a goal such as applying for jobs and learning to drive as I know I need to. My mother and my stepfather are both people who need to be nagged to get something done a lot of the time and that directly challenges my weakness.

My desires are strong, I just let my social issues bind me.

 

5. I get jealous easily and tend to be a bitch when I am. 

6. I can annoy easily at "spilt milk". 

 

These are all things, I know I need to change and am already improving on some of them. 

 

Ah, I see.  Well, the important thing here is that your conscious about your flaws, and you're doing all that you can to get past them, ya know?  Being brutally honest can be a good thing, but yeah, in certain situations, sometimes its better to cover up, so as to not make the other person feel bad or anything.  Ah well, and as for your one-dimensional mindset, all you have to do is be more open with your thoughts and not get stumped when things get in your way!

 

Hmm, I see, most interesting.  Well, when it comes to a conversation, the key thing is to just keep a cool and level head, and just go with the flow, ya know? Listen well to what's being talked about, and respond accordingly!  That should help!  But yeah, sometimes keeping a conversation can be rough. X3

 

Well, I can see that you really are working on your flaws, and that's a good thing!  Keep up the good work!

Ah, I see.  Well, the important thing here is that your conscious about your flaws, and you're doing all that you can to get past them, ya know?  Being brutally honest can be a good thing, but yeah, in certain situations, sometimes its better to cover up, so as to not make the other person feel bad or anything.  Ah well, and as for your one-dimensional mindset, all you have to do is be more open with your thoughts and not get stumped when things get in your way!

 

Hmm, I see, most interesting.  Well, when it comes to a conversation, the key thing is to just keep a cool and level head, and just go with the flow, ya know? Listen well to what's being talked about, and respond accordingly!  That should help!  But yeah, sometimes keeping a conversation can be rough. X3

 

Well, I can see that you really are working on your flaws, and that's a good thing!  Keep up the good work!

 

Your feedback and support is appreciated Transcendent. 

I've improved much on holding back some of my honesty, my jealousy and annoyance in the past several years. 

It's mostly my social issues I still have to work greatly on. It's been absolute hell on my presentation in job interviews. 

Your feedback and support is appreciated Transcendent. 

I've improved much on holding back some of my honesty, my jealousy and annoyance in the past several years. 

It's mostly my social issues I still have to work greatly on. It's been absolute hell on my presentation in job interviews. 

 

Well of course!  That's why I made this thread in the first place, ya know?  So we could all gather and talk about our flaws and just support each other!  And well, I'm glad to hear you've improved on those aspects you were having trouble with!  And well, it's understandable if you still have social issues!  It's not easy talking to people, because not everyone is friendly, ya know?

 

Haha, and I can understand when it comes to job interviews!  They're nerve racking affairs! X3

Well of course!  That's why I made this thread in the first place, ya know?  So we could all gather and talk about our flaws and just support each other!  And well, I'm glad to hear you've improved on those aspects you were having trouble with!  And well, it's understandable if you still have social issues!  It's not easy talking to people, because not everyone is friendly, ya know?

 

Haha, and I can understand when it comes to job interviews!  They're nerve racking affairs! X3

 Indeed, I feel like I can't be myself. I have to dress in a way I don't like and I have to lie about some of my experiences...or try and fail to. Lying makes me uncomfortable and I suck at it which shows. 

My biggest flaw is that I'm super ripped and it makes all the other guys jealous.

 Indeed, I feel like I can't be myself. I have to dress in a way I don't like and I have to lie about some of my experiences...or try and fail to. Lying makes me uncomfortable and I suck at it which shows. 

 

Ah, I see.  Well, there's nothing worse than a situation that forces you to not be yourself, and that's just sad, ya know?  If anything, being oneself is the best way to go, but yeah, sometimes the interviewers are straightforward b*tches that enjoy sucking out the souls of others for fun, so yeah, it's understandable if you have to try to lie about your experiences and such.  But yeah, I'm also a bad liar, so I can sympathize with you there. X3

 

But yeah, always be yourself!  Take pride in being who you are! ^_^

 

My biggest flaw is that I'm super ripped and it makes all the other guys jealous.

 

Lol, are you actually being serious, or is this just a joke? X3  Because when I read your reply, it looked like you were making a joke, haha!  But if you're serious though, then there's nothing you can do!  It's not like you can get un-ripped, so I suggest that the jealous guys work on their bodies if they want to get rid of their jealousy!

 

 

 

Lol, are you actually being serious, or is this just a joke? X3  Because when I read your reply, it looked like you were making a joke, haha!  But if you're serious though, then there's nothing you can do!  It's not like you can get un-ripped, so I suggest that the jealous guys work on their bodies if they want to get rid of their jealousy!

 

I have not gained a pound since I was, like, 15.

One of my biggest flaws is that I have a very difficult time making decisions. I also fret over things obsessively. So . . . yeah. I'm flawed in many areas.

Ah, I see.  Well, there's nothing worse than a situation that forces you to not be yourself, and that's just sad, ya know?  If anything, being oneself is the best way to go, but yeah, sometimes the interviewers are straightforward b*tches that enjoy sucking out the souls of others for fun, so yeah, it's understandable if you have to try to lie about your experiences and such.  But yeah, I'm also a bad liar, so I can sympathize with you there. X3

 

But yeah, always be yourself!  Take pride in being who you are! ^_^

 

 

 

Always, no matter what.

I have not gained a pound since I was, like, 15.

 

 

One of my biggest flaws is that I have a very difficult time making decisions. I also fret over things obsessively. So . . . yeah. I'm flawed in many areas.

 

Oh, I feel for ya, sister!  I can also be a bit rough when it comes to decision making!  I really hate having to choose between two things, ya know?  It's nerve racking! D: And yeah, sometimes I fret over things as well, such as double or triple checking that all of my electronic devices are off, and checking that everything in the house is in its place.  Ugh, I hate how I fret unnecessarily when things are going just fine, ya know? X_X

 

Always, no matter what.

 

Indeed!

Indecisiveness and social awkwardness are my greatest flaws. I can hardly convery my thoughts without people misreading them, and I often have trouble reading into other people. I am constantly obsessing with my own image, how others perceive me and what not, which leads me to try to be perfect in my character, though I fail miserably at it. When it comes to critical decisions, I lack the confidence to make a firm one, and will often second guess my decision once I've made it. I especially do this in my social decisions. I am struggling to conquer my lack of confidence. It is a long and difficult battle, but I am hopeful that I will eventually overcome it.

 

I do tend to be selfish sometimes, too. It is another tough battle there. It's not the greedy type of selfishness, but rather the thought that my opinions can be superior to others' at times, even though it's really just me being closed-minded, and shutting out those opinions. I tend to be selfish in my own desires at times, as well, especially when other people are involved, e.g. if we want to play a game, I end up being slightly aggitated when the other person chooses a game that I don't want to play at the time. I hate being selfish like that, when I should just appreciate the fact that that person even wants to spend any time with me at all.

Indecisiveness and social awkwardness are my greatest flaws. I can hardly convery my thoughts without people misreading them, and I often have trouble reading into other people. I am constantly obsessing with my own image, how others perceive me and what not, which leads me to try to be perfect in my character, though I fail miserably at it. When it comes to critical decisions, I lack the confidence to make a firm one, and will often second guess my decision once I've made it. I especially do this in my social decisions. I am struggling to conquer my lack of confidence. It is a long and difficult battle, but I am hopeful that I will eventually overcome it.

 

I do tend to be selfish sometimes, too. It is another tough battle there. It's not the greedy type of selfishness, but rather the thought that my opinions can be superior to others' at times, even though it's really just me being closed-minded, and shutting out those opinions. I tend to be selfish in my own desires at times, as well, especially when other people are involved, e.g. if we want to play a game, I end up being slightly aggitated when the other person chooses a game that I don't want to play at the time. I hate being selfish like that, when I should just appreciate the fact that that person even wants to spend any time with me at all.

 

 

Ah, so you too have suffered from indecisiveness, huh?  Well, I feel for ya pal, being indecisive can definitely be a bummer!  But, as long as you strive to work on fixing that, that's what matters!  As for your social issues, you just have to be yourself and don't think about how other people perceive you, ya know?  Just go with your gut feeling and get out there and form conversations and bonds with people!  It can be tough, sure, but little by little, you can get out of your shell, ya know? Nobody's perfect, so don't beat yourself up! You'll win this battle for sure!

 

Heh, and well, I think that deep down, we're all a little selfish at times.  The thing is to keep our selfishness in check and think of others first!  That's the key there, ya know? ^_^