Guys, really, if there's someone you are really close, spend most of the time you can with them. Follow this, and you might see that when you no longer can stay with them -- all the fun you had, the time you spent -- it was worth and awesome.

 

I really approve that sentence that says 'If you've never lost anyone very close to you, you won't know the feeling.'

 

As some of you know, I've lost my great grandfather on December 29th... He was really close to us...

He was like a dad to me, since my parents are divorced, I rarely see my real dad..

 

His name was Edgard, he was 85 years old -- He would complete 86 on January 9th...

He came to our house three times per week [Monday, Wednesday and Friday]. We had dinner together. And on some Saturdays he came to have lunch with us. We were a happy small family -- He, me, mom and grandmom.

 

He started having health problems on December 12th -- he fell and fainted on the ground. Some good people helped him and calles us and his wife [not my grandmom's mom, another woman which he's been together for 27 years].

 

Then, he fainted again on December 14th... He couldn't go to my graduation on December 15th... So my dad went on his place.. My grandmother was taking care of him -- he lived in a hotel, so she went there every day and had lunch with him, and then later we had dinner together. His wife left him with my grandmom on December 16th, when she went to live in a friend's house for a while. She said she was having depression.

 

On December 24th, at night, we were bringing him to the hotel -- he almost fainted, but we were there to help him out -- so he didn't fall on the ground. And so, on December 26th, he and my grandmom went to a doctor.

 

She said that he was very anxious, and so she gave some medicine to make him calm down a bit. She also said that if he fainted again, then it'd probably mean that it was some problem with his head...

 

On December 29th, he fell on the street, had a principle of heart attack, but a guy rescued him. We went to the hospital -- he was strange, couldn't talk very well, and kept asking where we were going to.

 

We stood on the hospital waiting for 2 hours, and then the doctor came and told everything to my grandmom -- That he had a serious heart attack, and they weren't able to 'revive' him...

 

At that moment, we felt a deep sadness -- My grandmom's birthday was on December 25th, and on the 24th, he told her that he would not last long... We had a happy Christmas together -- the last one..

 

On December 30th, it was the funeral. I had to be strong for my grandmom and mom.. I didn't cry -- just one time when I really couldn't hold it anymore... But on the 29th I cried so much... I was and I still am pretty sad, and probably will be for a long time...

 

It's been hard -- we didn't celebrate New Year as we were going to -- lost all the spirit when he died. So we're going through a hard time.

 

Thanks for hearing. I needed to tell it to someone.

 

Edgard Trajano - 1926-2011 --> I've always loved you and I'll always remember you. When you left us, it was like a piece of my heart broke and disappeared... You were an excellent great grandad I'll miss you forever!

i remebered when my uncle died a week before my birthday this year. hope u feel better soon

That's horrible Lu Xun. But as I said before you don't need to worry about the Poll of the Day. I can take care of it for as long as you need me too.

 

I'm giving you a big Internet hug.

Hey he'll be in you're heart forever.

my grandmother has a problem with an illness,we know that she doesnt have much time left,so i try to spend as much time as i can with her,so i understand what you feel,dont worry your grandfather will always be with you as long as you cherish the happy memories you had with him

Sorry about your great grandfather.

 

Try not to get sad.

 

If you want to talk about it, I'm here bro

I'm really sorry for your tragic loss Lu Xun. I understand how hard it is to loose someone very close to you. I lost a friend who was literally like a brother to me in October. He left behind a wife and daughter. I was so sad because he had cancer and we had many opportunities to visit him, but my parents didn't take me. He eventually died and I was left with the pain that I never saw him before he died.

 

I went through what you're going through. I tried to be strong, eventually I couldn't hold it anymore. I cried like hell, I'm a human too, I have emotions too. You got to keep strong and know (if it's your belief but it is my Catholic belief) that he's in a better place and looking on you and your family.

 

Trust me I know how bad you feel, like there's no one for you, that you've lost ALL hope and your left without faith. If you need anyone to talk to or any help, let me know. I'm here for you, even if you feel that no one is. Seasons will change and days will pass, but know you'll have to adjust to being without him anymore.

 

Now, just keep strong, it's going to be hard, but you CAN do it. I did it, I'm sure you can too.

 

Stay Strong Lu

I'm so sorry Lu Xun, I know how it feels to have lost someone close to you. For now I think it might make you feel a little bit better just to be with your family and talk about your favorite things about him. Your favorite memories and things like that. I know it made me feel a lot better talking about my Mom rather than just keeping it bottled up. And while a funeral would seem to make it worse, it may make you feel better. It'll give you a sense of closure and it'll be nice to know everyone there loved him just as much as you do. It's never going to stop hurting, but just remember he'll always be there for you. He'll always be looking down and protecting you from Heaven. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope things improve soon for you. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here.

Oh God Lu Xun I heard that your grandpa was doing bad but I didn't know about this. Man I'm sorry about this. I lost my Grandpa a couple years ago when I was 12. It was really hard on my family since he was almost like a rock for my family. When he died it was really hard on all of our family. I remember the funeral, I didn't cry either I tried to be strong for my mom, my sister, and some other family members. It was really really hard and I know what you're going through. I know you'll feel better soon. I hope you get a lot better soon buddy By the way, if you still need cheering up, I'm always free to chat.

Sorry to hear about it man. Hope you get better soon.

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm not good with words, but... I think your grandfather is a great man. He will be remembered. And, well... it's okay to cry. Don't hold them up. Your Grandfather will always be there for you. And we all will too. Take the time you need.

Hey there! Well first of all, you having the courage to share your ordeal on here in public like that is quite possibly the coolest thing I have seen today! Takes guts.

As for what happened, well there is nothing I or anyone else can do but offer my support, best wishes to you and the rest of your family. I will say though, I know exactly how that feels, and then some so if you do want to talk to anyone about it, shoot me a message =)

I'm so sorry about your loss I cant personally relate because I've never lost someone close to me but I've had friends who have and its tought to get past. If thiers anything I can do to help just say so

I'm sorry brother that I can't be there for you in real life. :C I really wish that he was still here and I hope that wherever he is now, he's happy and he's at peace. I'm here if you want to talk and I've been through the loss of things and I know how hard it is. *hugs you tight