So I'm here again and I really need some help on my relationship. I am dating a video game addict and I'm just becoming very bored of the relationship. He's a great guy, but he has his flaws. Every time I go over to his house I just play on the computer while he is playing video games and our sex life is horrible also; I just don't feel the chemistry and while we are doing "it" and after we do "it," I just regret it and don't feel anything special or a connection, like I picture other people or think of other guys in my head. We don't do anything fun, it's like he is afraid to take me anywhere and go to parties and we sit in his house like old people, doing nothing. I come from the country and I am used to country boys and 4-wheeler riding or hunting and going to hunting camps to have fun. He says there is nothing to do in my town and that is his excuse. Whenever I just want to go to the mall or go walking he says no or "Why don't you get your friends to do that with you?"

I just get really hurt that he doesn't want to do anything with me. Lately, we are running out of things to talk about and lately I cringe every single time I say,"I love you." I feel like I'm lying, which I probably am. I'm not in love with him, I don't think I am? I wouldn't be complaining if I were....

 

I'm just really confused and I don't know what to do at this point. I'm just so sick of sitting at his house doing nothing and just playing around on the computer. I just feel like a lazy piece of shit when I am over at his house doing nothing. Another thing that is putting a strain on the relationship is that I work all the time now and I don't get to see him as much and I'm just tired all the time and I actually enjoy the distance away from him. When I'm over at his house or when we are in his truck we barely talk...

 

I'm just so tired of being taken and I want to be single and be young and experience more people.

 

My boyfriend and I even talked about marriage and I am scared to death of getting married to him. I don't want to marry this guy. He is 22 without a job and all he does is plays video games and I feel like he is keeping me behind from reaching my goals and dreams.

 

I'm just so tired and I don't know what to do. Please someone tell me what I should do next. I want to break up with him but I am so scared of the break up process and of hurting people....What is the best thing to do?

If he does nothing now, he probably won't change. If he's holding you back, and you don't like him that much, break up with him. You're ambitious, he's not.

 

Not a very compatible couple.

Well obviously you are not having a good life being with him.

You need to be blunt and straight out with this. Have a very serious talk with him and explain him everything you said here. And tell him that if he doesn't change you're going to leave him.

And even if you do break up with him, don't worry. Sometimes once that happen, a guy will change his ways and then he's better.

But i'm sorry, you really need to be blunt and straight forward here. Especially if you guy's are thinking about marriage. Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings. Because you don't need to be having a bad life all because you felt sorry.

Don't sugar coat it either, be completely honest and blunt.

Well the best thing to do is tell him the truth

I think that you already seem to know the answer : The relationship has run its course and its time to move on .If you are that unhappy there is no reason to deprive yourself of finding happiness...People grow apart .It happens . You deserve someone that will care about what makes you happy and will put the effort into the relationship ( which he seems to not be doing ). A relationship takes two and if one isnt doing their part its no longer a relationship worth being in .Be honest with him and seek your own happiness .

Well obviously you are not having a good life being with him.

You need to be blunt and straight out with this. Have a very serious talk with him and explain him everything you said here. And tell him that if he doesn't change you're going to leave him.

And even if you do break up with him, don't worry. Sometimes once that happen, a guy will change his ways and then he's better.

But i'm sorry, you really need to be blunt and straight forward here. Especially if you guy's are thinking about marriage. Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings. Because you don't need to be having a bad life all because you felt sorry.

Don't sugar coat it either, be completely honest and blunt.

 

I think that you already seem to know the answer : The relationship has run its course and its time to move on .If you are that unhappy there is no reason to deprive yourself of finding happiness...People grow apart .It happens . You deserve someone that will care about what makes you happy and will put the effort into the relationship ( which he seems to not be doing ). A relationship takes two and if one isnt doing their part its no longer a relationship worth being in .Be honest with him and seek your own happiness .

 

Couldn't have put it better myself.

Well, there's obviously a problem here. If he's talking about marriage and he doesn't know you don't like being married to him as he is, then he probably doesn't know that there's a problem with the relationship and that you're unhappy. Or if he does, he thinks that it will be something that can just solve itself. I think the best course of action would be to flat out tell him "I don't like the way things are going between us, and here are the problems:..." If you are willing to give him one more shot, tell him that if he can't fix these issues then you're gone. If there's anything that can motivate a guy, it's knowing what he stands to lose if he doesn't get himself in gear. And if you really don't think this has a future, then the best course of action is to just break up with him. Even if you don't want to hurt him, it will be worse for both of you if you continue the relationship when you don't want any part of it.

What guy in there right mind would rather play video games then spend time with a girl who is craving his attention. That makes zero sense if you ask me. I'm sorry to here your having relationship problems but it seems to me you have put all you can into th e relationship and aren't getting anything back in return. I think it's best to consider if the relationship is worth saving while your both on good terms. Someone I consider one of the smartest person I know once told me you get what you give. If your putting all in and he is giving back I think you could do better. Also you could cut the plugs to his video game systems. :I

Just dump the man! If he's just some lazy person with no life and is holding you back from going out and having fun, then you shouldn't be with a guy like that! And firetruck marring him! If he has no job, and you go through with this, you're already in for some tough times ahead! I knew a lot of people that'll say together with a person they don't even like, and make up some weird excuses just to stay with them. And while their together they always argue about pointless stuff. Believe me I've seen it. But at least that's how I'd handle it. You wanna be happy with a guy that's actually down to earth and likes to have fun instead of a person that is scared of the outside world and meeting other people right? The deal question isn't what SHOULD you do... but what do YOU want to do? Ask your heart and you'll find the answer.

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Well obviously you are not having a good life being with him.

You need to be blunt and straight out with this. Have a very serious talk with him and explain him everything you said here. And tell him that if he doesn't change you're going to leave him.

And even if you do break up with him, don't worry. Sometimes once that happen, a guy will change his ways and then he's better.

But i'm sorry, you really need to be blunt and straight forward here. Especially if you guy's are thinking about marriage. Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings. Because you don't need to be having a bad life all because you felt sorry.

Don't sugar coat it either, be completely honest and blunt.

 

There's Nothing Really Left To Say Here EveryOne Said It All But Don't Worry Thing Always Work Out In The End

Edited August 28, 201213 yr by RikuLove416

Well Cricket, details you told me from before hand, it would seem he really doesn't care in the relationship. All he cares about is shooting virtual people and doesn't want to hang out with you.

 

If you want my opinion, I'd say screw the nerd, there's PLENTY of fish in the sea. Or in a nice way, tell him that you're not happy with what he does and wish to end the relationship on a good note, and still try to be friends. If he doesn't and is going to be one of those, "OMG MY EX IS A BITCH, SHE FRIENDZONED ME, TAKING MY FRUSTRATION OUT ON COD", then it seems he isn't even the right person to talk to.

 

Honestly, when I saw the word marriage, I had a little baby barf right there. Seriously, end the relationship on a good note, do not marry this guy. He'll bring you misery.

 

Please Cricket, you got to do it, you're not going to lose anything out of it. Sure, it might hurt him, but who's really hurting? You are, and you can't let it happen. He'd probably just end up not caring you broke up with him and continue playing video games.

 

Break up with him.

 

Don't be unhappy with him, and don't think you're going to hurt him.

 

Find other guys.

 

Trust me, I'd hate to see you being meh on MSN. We have good chats

Drag him into the sunlight. If he disintegrates, he's a vampire.

 

But in all seriousness... tell him what you just told us! I'm sure he'll get the picture. And if not, break it off with the dude, seeing as he obviously doesn't respect you enough to give you the slightest ounce of attention.

 

I myself used to be a serious gaming addict... and then I saw the light beyond...

So I'm here again and I really need some help on my relationship. I am dating a video game addict and I'm just becoming very bored of the relationship. He's a great guy, but he has his flaws. Every time I go over to his house I just play on the computer while he is playing video games and our sex life is horrible also; I just don't feel the chemistry and while we are doing "it" and after we do "it," I just regret it and don't feel anything special or a connection, like I picture other people or think of other guys in my head. We don't do anything fun, it's like he is afraid to take me anywhere and go to parties and we sit in his house like old people, doing nothing. I come from the country and I am used to country boys and 4-wheeler riding or hunting and going to hunting camps to have fun. He says there is nothing to do in my town and that is his excuse. Whenever I just want to go to the mall or go walking he says no or "Why don't you get your friends to do that with you?"

I just get really hurt that he doesn't want to do anything with me. Lately, we are running out of things to talk about and lately I cringe every single time I say,"I love you." I feel like I'm lying, which I probably am. I'm not in love with him, I don't think I am? I wouldn't be complaining if I were....

 

I'm just really confused and I don't know what to do at this point. I'm just so sick of sitting at his house doing nothing and just playing around on the computer. I just feel like a lazy piece of shit when I am over at his house doing nothing. Another thing that is putting a strain on the relationship is that I work all the time now and I don't get to see him as much and I'm just tired all the time and I actually enjoy the distance away from him. When I'm over at his house or when we are in his truck we barely talk...

 

I'm just so tired of being taken and I want to be single and be young and experience more people.

 

My boyfriend and I even talked about marriage and I am scared to death of getting married to him. I don't want to marry this guy. He is 22 without a job and all he does is plays video games and I feel like he is keeping me behind from reaching my goals and dreams.

 

I'm just so tired and I don't know what to do. Please someone tell me what I should do next. I want to break up with him but I am so scared of the break up process and of hurting people....What is the best thing to do?

 

First, he is not the one who is holding you back from reaching your goals and dreams since in the end it is actually just you yourself and you yourself alone and second, if you really feel like breaking up with him then just say so since romance is about facing all of the good times and all of the hard times together rather then just one or the other and also humans aren't as weak as they may seem so if you feel like that your loved one can take it then break up with him with a clear conscience and just remember that romance doesn't just mean one love and one love alone for it's about experiencing love with other peoples as well and seeing either or not if your really compatible in the end that so much you would want to marry and have kids just to show how much you really love that person in the end.

I want to break up with him....What is the best thing to do?

 

You answered your own question, also what do you fear more: hurting him by breaking up with him (well deserved IMO), or living a lie by being with him?