Well, there's this boy I like. In case you guys still don't know, yes, I'm gay.

Now, I've been dealing with being obsessed with him for at least 4 months now.

Last year, towards the end of classes, I told my father I was gay. However, he refused to believe so, stating that I was too young and setting a set AGE for when to assume this. His set age was 20 year old. And I'm not going to wait that long, because I know who I am and what gender I am attracted to. Sexuality is fluid, yes, but I don't see why he's putting such a limit.

Anyway, I told him about this boy I likes. That's how I told him I was gay, actually.

This boy... well he's a perv. I think most people already read the threads I posted previously and should know what I mean...

And he did some jokes which can be considered inadequate.

The thing is, I liked it when he did those "jokes", "teases", whatever they were. And I let him. Because he's goofy and likes joking around as much as any boy.

My father told me not to let this boy do those anymore near me. I ways follow my parents' orders, without even trying to argue back. So that's what I did.

I was so confused at the moment, that when he did those teases again, I asked him to stop. He didn't even care, really. I had to punch him to make him stop, causing us to get in a fight and having me needing to inform my parents about what happened(or else the school would).

My dad told me not to ever stay near that boy again and simply marked him as "evil". But I'm the one who started the fight, because of HIS orders. My dad thinks he's the one who confused me into "thinking I was gay". He never put it out like that but I can tell that's what he's thinking. He's trying to "heal" me, for god's sake.

I couldn't stand ignoring him though... For all the last days of school, the final week to be exact, he came to me everyday apologizing, and asking me to be buddies with him again. I told my dad and he told me that "When someone did these things to me, you know when I forgave them? Aaaaallll the way through. It's not a thing you can forget over a week and forget and just be buddies again".

Truth is, this boy I like is complicated. He has his bad sides but you should know you don't choose who you like. He's "bullied" me once before, but he didn't really mean it. I hated him at the time, but suddenly I started growing closer to him and we both became more friendly to each other, in fact, he became a more friendly person.

Anyway, school's back. I haven't had ONE full conversation with him, because I was waiting for him to come over to me and try to talk to me. Turns out he didn't.

I started only looking at him by distance, etc.

One day, I walked into the library, was gonna play some Mario Kart, and him and two other boys from our grade were sitting on the same table. They told me I could sit down on that table. Why not, right?

I sat down. Started playing Mario Kart. One guy asked to play a race. So did the other one, and then him.

When it was his time to play, I sat next to him o watch him. I think I grabbed my 3ds to play after him, and turned the 3D on. He was like "I wanna see, too!" and squished his face next to mine. I felt his cheeks. His face. I was loving that moment. I think I blushed at the moment, hope no one noticed. He went back to his normal position and said "cool".

When I was going away, I couldn't stop thinking about that... his face...

I felt it. Next to mine.

I just... loved the moment, y'know? I don't know if many members know what it's like to love/like

 

Now... I just wanna bond him again... to the point in which I can one day tell him how I feel about him.

But then I remembered my promise to my parents... No, their order.

So... I'm asking for advice from you guys. Should I try to get closer to him again, or follow my parents' orders?

 

 

TL;DR Should I disobey my parents and try to befriend the guy I like again?

I think you need to find out if his intentions and everything else he did to you have been malevolent. If he's really sincere about being friends with you, I say give him another chance. Otherwise, keep your distance.

I think you need to find out if his intentions and everything else he did to you have been malevolent. If he's really sincere about being friends with you, I say give him another chance. Otherwise, keep your distance.

 

Well he cried when we both got in trouble. We were alone, so only I know that

And he sounded pretty sincere. Why would he ask me to be friends with him again and insist so much if he wasn't?

I guess I should give him another chance... But I'll try to find out if he WAS being sincere.

That a hard choice to make there. I always go with what my gut is telling me. I mean your parents are not always going to be there telling what to do and what not to do, but they are still your parents. I never had a good relationship with my parents and I try to avoid talking or seeing them. I think you should give him another chance, everyone deserves another chance, we are only human after all.

Oh Kinode. Damn you mate! I'm in tears over here!!

You're in a awkward place here mate. The thing is, I've been in a pretty similar position to you regarding the guy you like. Mate, you just need to confess. Be very serious so it seems you're not joking and see his reaction. If he really does seem to be completely unattracted to you, you laugh it off. Or try to at least. I know, harsh, but, trust me when I say, it's harder when you put that off for two bloody years and then you confess in a blur just when you're about to move to a new country and he says "he might have felt the same way, given more time!"

At any rate, after this, at least you know. Then, if he really doesn't like you, you can do what your dad says and not be around him. Moving on's tough, trust me I know, especially when you're head over heels in love but it's not the end of the world.

However, if he does return your feelings, then you need to decide what's more important, obeying your parents or having this guy in your life.

Get closer to him. Your parents aren't there to tell you who you should love and who not to love. If you love this guy will all your heart, then you should. Your dad is a jerk, making you get "healed." Seriously forget about your dad. Only care what your heart is feeling, and you could never change that.

 

8DDDDDDD That was one of the cutest moment i have read in my life 8DDDDDDDDD

Im only going to offer advice here and no more, no less but hey if you truthfully honest with yourself being gay and loving this guy both then hey go for it even if you should disobey your parents for in the end your life is your to make choices with for good or worse and i don't think this kind of thing is "betrayal" and if your parents or any one for that matter believe otherwise then they are idiots for not all parents are wise even if they think they are which some at least care to admit and they shouldn't really interfere with their children's love lives for they can't help loving someone if they can even if they are of the same gender and also who their children love is none of their damn well business unless things take a very bad if not very very bad turn and in fact they should be proud of the fact that their children have got someone to love even if that person happens to be from the same gender that their children are apart and/or they are not of the gender that they want their child to be in love with so think, say, do and/or believe in what want to believe Kinode i don't let any one else not even your friends and/or family decide who you love unless that person you love turns out to be very bad if not very very bad and i hope that this advice was at least a little helpful to you.

For me and the girl that owns my heart 100%, it is very complicated. I used to be the one who got on her bad side, but in 8th grade we made up and became friends. Years later, I go into the 10th grade and I find out I have a class and lunch period with her. I never could get myself to come talk to her and now we are one semester later, and have another class together. After just watching her for a year, I am trying to get close to her. I know that my best friend saw my looking at her more times than anything else in the first semster lunch period, mainly because every time she got up I sorta wondered where she went and my friend told me, but I told him I didn't like her. So this time, I am trying to talk to her and make her fall in love with me. And last Friday, we both came to the door of the classroom at the same time and both smiled at each other. I dont know how love is for gays, but it can't be as different as nongay love. But the fact about parents, they tell you that they dont want you to be in love with someone out of their past, like my dad said to never fall in love, but it always happens the way God wants it to be. So I say do what your heart is telling you, and if it goes okay then tell your parents, and whatever they say or do, just know that they do it because they love and care for you. I mean when I finally get to ask my love out, then I will tell my parents and if they don't like it then I could care less.

 

"Just hang in there, baby. Things are crazy, but I know your future's bright." - Bridget Mendler, Good Luck Charley Theme Song

Oh Kinode. Damn you mate! I'm in tears over here!!

You're in a awkward place here mate. The thing is, I've been in a pretty similar position to you regarding the guy you like. Mate, you just need to confess. Be very serious so it seems you're not joking and see his reaction. If he really does seem to be completely unattracted to you, you laugh it off. Or try to at least. I know, harsh, but, trust me when I say, it's harder when you put that off for two bloody years and then you confess in a blur just when you're about to move to a new country and he says "he might have felt the same way, given more time!"

At any rate, after this, at least you know. Then, if he really doesn't like you, you can do what your dad says and not be around him. Moving on's tough, trust me I know, especially when you're head over heels in love but it's not the end of the world.

However, if he does return your feelings, then you need to decide what's more important, obeying your parents or having this guy in your life.

 

I've thought about that... I'd probably screw it up, though. He could end up telling everybody, oh I don't know.

I've thought of having someone else ask him what he thinks about me... Then asking him. Just to be sure.

I might give it some more time. I can barely ever find a moment where both of us are alone.

EDIT: Wow, lots of replies... And all are telling me to go for it o-o

Not gonna reply to everyone individually but thanks everyone. As soon as I get a chance, I'll go talk to him.

Yes. You are your own person and they don't have any license to tell you not to be with people you enjoy the company of, and who aren't being violent/getting involved in illegal activities. You should be cautious though, especially since it seems like your parents are having a hard time accepting your sexuality.

 

I admit I can't say anything with certainty, since I come from a very different family/cultural climate where this wasn't as much of an obstacle to me.

so does that mean your happy or the other gaye sorry you have to spell it right for me ive had this situation in school whenn a person called somebody gay and my teacher told me to get a dictionary to find out what it means and it said happy but if you are the other one do wat YOU think is right so make the right choice do whats in your heart id listen to my parents but thats my opinion

 

Well he cried when we both got in trouble. We were alone, so only I know that

And he sounded pretty sincere. Why would he ask me to be friends with him again and insist so much if he wasn't?

I guess I should give him another chance... But I'll try to find out if he WAS being sincere.

 

I've had many people screw me over because they were 'sincerely' wished to be my friend again. That's why I think you should be on your guard. So I think it really is important to find out how sincere his sincerity is. As for your father, I also think you should educate him on homosexuality.

I've thought about that... I'd probably screw it up, though. He could end up telling everybody, oh I don't know.

I've thought of having someone else ask him what he thinks about me... Then asking him. Just to be sure.

I might give it some more time. I can barely ever find a moment where both of us are alone.

EDIT: Wow, lots of replies... And all are telling me to go for it o-o

Not gonna reply to everyone individually but thanks everyone. As soon as I get a chance, I'll go talk to him.

 

Don't get someone else to do it, that's like the worst possible thing, because he will think you're joking...or well actually, could be a good thing. But, do you have someone you trust enough to do that for you? It might be a good way because he will probably think it's a joke but it's also a good way to judge his reaction.

Kinode I have the sudden urge to hug you. Can I?

 

I've thought about that... I'd probably screw it up, though. He could end up telling everybody, oh I don't know.

I've thought of having someone else ask him what he thinks about me... Then asking him. Just to be sure.

I might give it some more time. I can barely ever find a moment where both of us are alone.

EDIT: Wow, lots of replies... And all are telling me to go for it o-o

Not gonna reply to everyone individually but thanks everyone. As soon as I get a chance, I'll go talk to him.

 

Make sure you have a plan to every little thing that can happen. Like if you messed up. Didn't he know before you were gay? If he did, i would not think he would say you liked him. Because if that does go around, then they will find out you were gay or bi.

 

EDIT: Forgot to mention this, the reason we replied is because were trying to help. Also because your an amazing fun friend. We all love and care about you. You should go for it, and even though we should not be telling you this, since it is your heart and your feelings. But you should.

 

I've thought about that... I'd probably screw it up, though. He could end up telling everybody, oh I don't know.

I've thought of having someone else ask him what he thinks about me... Then asking him. Just to be sure.

I might give it some more time. I can barely ever find a moment where both of us are alone.

EDIT: Wow, lots of replies... And all are telling me to go for it o-o

Not gonna reply to everyone individually but thanks everyone. As soon as I get a chance, I'll go talk to him.

 

Is there one reason why we wouldn't do this? Kinode, you're a friend and we care about you. Plain and simple.

IIf it's for love, you should do love.

Don't get someone else to do it, that's like the worst possible thing, because he will think you're joking...or well actually, could be a good thing. But, do you have someone you trust enough to do that for you? It might be a good way because he will probably think it's a joke but it's also a good way to judge his reaction.

 

Well I'm thinking of asking for a friend to ask him if he hates me because of our fight, and/or why we fought. Not exactly asking if he loves me or if he thinks of me in any special way or anything yet.

I want to get friends with him again first. Then we get together if all goes well.

 

Kinode I have the sudden urge to hug you. Can I?

 

 

 

Make sure you have a plan to every little thing that can happen. Like if you messed up. Didn't he know before you were gay? If he did, i would not think he would say you liked him. Because if that does go around, then they will find out you were gay or bi.

 

Yes, yes you can

And not many people suspected, I think. It went around mostly as a rumor and the first person I asked where they heard it from said this boy was one of the people who told them.

And yes, I'll plan everything carefully, don't worry

so does that mean your happy or the other gaye

 

Well I specifically said he was a boy. Look in a my profile and check my gender. i think you can figure out.

Meh.. love..

 

Do what makes you happy.. Thats all i will say.

 

 

 

Yes, yes you can

And not many people suspected, I think. It went around mostly as a rumor and the first person I asked where they heard it from said this boy was one of the people who told them.

And yes, I'll plan everything carefully, don't worry

 

 

 

*hugs*

 

What happened to my other gay friend, is that people think he is gay (which he is) But seriously people got so surprised when he told some people he was gay. Do you show it? Like dress and act in a feminine way?

I've never been one to let people tell me what to do, so any advice about your dad would involve bricks.

 

As for your "friend"... I'd have to agree with everyone else. See exactly where this guy's coming from. My sister started a relationship like this, it went wrong, and it totally screwed her up. I'm always worried about these things...

 

Take this thing for a test drive, check the mileage, and keep the mechanics (us) informed of any difficulties.

I've thought about that... I'd probably screw it up, though. He could end up telling everybody, oh I don't know.

I've thought of having someone else ask him what he thinks about me... Then asking him. Just to be sure.

I might give it some more time. I can barely ever find a moment where both of us are alone.

EDIT: Wow, lots of replies... And all are telling me to go for it o-o

Not gonna reply to everyone individually but thanks everyone. As soon as I get a chance, I'll go talk to him.

 

Name us one good reason that we wouldn't try and help you. You are like the red solo cup of this site, a life long friend to everyone. We all care for each other here, and accept one another for who we are and not for what we aren't. Just, once again, listen to your heart and go for it. But lets see which one of us goes for our loves first! lol

well i didnt know u were gay. its nice to know another gay person around here

Dude, you only need to do one thing, do what you think is right, my parents said moving from home would be the worst mistake of my life, when actually i have an awesome job, a real house, and 2 puppys, to be honest, best thing i have ever done, go with your instinct and do what is right for you and only you!

*hugs*

 

What happened to my other gay friend, is that people think he is gay (which he is) But seriously people got so surprised when he told some people he was gay. Do you show it? Like dress and act in a feminine way?

 

Not really... Most people probably don't think I am. I try to act as straight as possible, too. And my voice really toughened up on the last few years(More than most people) so it totally made people less suspicious.

Not really... Most people probably don't think I am. I try to act as straight as possible, too. And my voice really toughened up on the last few years(More than most people) so it totally made people less suspicious.

 

It should have not been said like that, but ill leave it like that.

Well then thats good, I guess. Well only thing left to do is you to ask him out. Or wait for a while to make sure if your doing the right thing.

Wow, that's tough Kinode.

 

Your dad can't tell you what to love and such, it's your love life.

 

And if you choose to be gay and like this guy, I say go for it.

 

If you're happy, then good.