So i was at school today and a bunch of friends of mine randomly fell into this topic about having crushes and mumbo jumbo. A particular friend says that crushes are 'useless' because you'll eventually 'fall in love' with another person later. Another said it'll only make you sad to know that the person you had a crush on wouldn't or might not like you as much. I dont think so at all. Anyways, any 'opinions'? -__-

Edited April 1, 201312 yr by Shera Wizard

I've given up on crushes a looong time ago, haven't crushed on a guy since 2008ish...

 

They're not bad, but sometimes when you over fantasize over the crush, it can lead to real serious heart break and devastation. But if you keep it healthy, I don't see the problem with having one. 

But seriously, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a crush, as long as you don't go too crazy or fantastic about it. Your friends are just being pessimistic. :l

However, I will say that there's a fine line between having a crush and keeping it under control, and being a crazy stalker who terrorizes his/her "crush".

I think crushes are fine, but there's usually little reason not to try and get to know the true person you have a crush on. A crush is usually a pretty shallow thing, and I think there's a lot more to be gained from a deep personal relationship if you have the guts to go for it. Which isn't necessarily asking them out, but just getting to know them.

 

Crushes are often fantastical views of people, real relationships are usually more deep, more human, and more rewarding. Crushes aren't bad, but I don't think it's always very hard to make them more and not enough people try.

I wont lie and not say I was largely pessimistic like that, but now I just noticed crush is just the first step of falling in love. It's like trying to become a doctor but then you come across an obstacle, you still don't stop and complain about that obstacle you just keep on going till you become a doctor. Usually if you keep on thinking and thinking about the guy/girl then it becomes MORE than a crush since you are basically in love with the person, and the heartbreak is gonna be more severe depending on the person. 

Edited April 1, 201312 yr by Shana09

well.. I have a crush since 2009..still loving her.. 

 

it changed me a lot..it hurts... i don't know how to stop loving her..

I have this MASSIVE crush on my teacher... He is just too awesome. And I know that he doesn't like me at all. I try to be nice to him and to be a good student, but it doesn't work... It's depressing ):BUT IT'S STILL SO WONDERFUL!

i've had a crush since i was in middle school...still haunts me today

I've had crushes. Let me tell you this story about one of my crushes. I had a crush on her and then eventually we started dating. Now we're together, in love, and planning on moving in together. But no crushes are useless.

I've only ever crushed on two guys in my lifetime. Both of them were fully aware of how I felt and despite the fact that neither of them are interested in men they're both still very good friends. Crushes aren't bad. They're just difficult to get over.

Edited April 1, 201312 yr by Sora_Kuno

I have had a crush on the same person for 12 years. You could say its a waste of time, especially since I'm pretty sure he barely notices my existence, but I personally think that caring about someone else, whether or not they know it or care themselves, is never truly a bad thing.

If someone has a crush or a squish there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes the crush/squish won't work out but there is a chance it could and it's definitely not a bad thing, imo.

I have had a crush on the same person for 12 years. You could say its a waste of time, especially since I'm pretty sure he barely notices my existence, but I personally think that caring about someone else, whether or not they know it or care themselves, is never truly a bad thing.

This, although for me it is now 7 years going on 8.

I've had a crush on the same girl for around five years now.

 

From experience...it can be unhealthy. But sometimes, you got nothing else but hope.

 

No, crushes are not necessarily bad. Nor is having hope.

 

And what Zola said.

Never had a Crush on anybody so cant say anything...of course I'm home schooled so I barley every see any girls...

I have had a crush on the same person for 12 years. You could say its a waste of time, especially since I'm pretty sure he barely notices my existence, but I personally think that caring about someone else, whether or not they know it or care themselves, is never truly a bad thing.

Have you tried making it more than a crush? Does the person not notice you because they just don't want to get to know you, or have you never tried? If it's possible, making an effort to get to know someone and actually being there for them can be far more rewarding for both parties. It depends how much you like them, but don't be afraid to take a chance. That's the one thing that annoys me about crushes, is that they often fall short of what they could be. If you care about them in a deep way, then most people would be happy to know that somebody like you does, so why not try to create an actual relationship with them?

Have you tried making it more than a crush? Does the person not notice you because they just don't want to get to know you, or have you never tried? If it's possible, making an effort to get to know someone and actually being there for them can be far more rewarding for both parties. It depends how much you like them, but don't be afraid to take a chance. That's the one thing that annoys me about crushes, is that they often fall short of what they could be. If you care about them in a deep way, then most people would be happy to know that somebody like you does, so why not try to create an actual relationship with them?

 

I have never tried, partially because they rather obviously like other people, and partially because if I admitted such to them, and they wanted to take it further, I would probably just end up causing them emotional problems at best.  People are all so touchy feely, and I am the polar opposite of touchy feely, so why would anyone ever pay me attention if they know that I will refuse most forms of physical contact?  I like to think there are people out there who would understand and be okay with my feelings on that subject, but I haven't found any yet.  Everyone just wants to kiss and hold hands, so I will just continue to admire people in my own ways.

Crushes suck.

They hurt like hell when you find out the person you like doesn't like you back.

Or when you find out that person hates your guts.

It. Sucks. Balls.

I have never tried, partially because they rather obviously like other people, and partially because if I admitted such to them, and they wanted to take it further, I would probably just end up causing them emotional problems at best.  People are all so touchy feely, and I am the polar opposite of touchy feely, so why would anyone ever pay me attention if they know that I will refuse most forms of physical contact?  I like to think there are people out there who would understand and be okay with my feelings on that subject, but I haven't found any yet.  Everyone just wants to kiss and hold hands, so I will just continue to admire people in my own ways.

Fair enough. There are people out there, I'm sure you'll find them eventually.

i've had a crush since i was in middle school...still haunts me today

I've had one

and I've tried convincing myself I don't like them

 

and it works temporarily, but still constantly taunts me

I like maybe 5 people and I tell myself not to, but they keep reoccurring 

I've probably never had a crush but I've had friends who were heartbroken when they found out their crush didn't like them or that they were going out with somebody else. I wouldn't really say having a crush is bad but some people go too far with it so i just don't bother with it