There is this ongoing joke on the internet and in the real world, that when a guy is single barely any girls want him, but when he has a girlfriend almost every girl wants him all the sudden. Is this true ladies?

Edited January 13, 201411 yr by MasterRoxas13

Well I am not a lady, but I would say it's probably just a mindset. When you're single you feel less confident, like no one wants you. But when you're in a relationship it's like hey someone wanted/wants me. You feel wanted and more attractive.

I think it depends on the person.

Yeah, For most girls, well the ones I'm forced to be around, it's like little kids, for example the boy is a toy. you have the toy and playing with it and whatnot then one little bitch sees it, then all of a sudden they want it.

Jealousy really

They want something you have and if they work hard enough they can take t it away from you.

Edited January 13, 201411 yr by Xora98

No. I'm no lady, but I've been flirted with many times.

 

AND I'M HOME SCHOOLED

Queen Tray-that is true.it happen to me like once when I was in a relationship ( I only had one girlfriend lol) but I was not sure if it always happens.

 

I meant females as a whole. 

Edited January 13, 201411 yr by MasterRoxas13

I guess when a guy has a girlfriend he's a lot more aware of what others are up to - so his girl doesn't cheat on him - and he just happens to notice the girls too.

Xora98- I see in girls more so then guys. not saying guys don't do it however

 

itsameluigi1290- you must be very pretty then if that is happening lol.

 

Visitjoan-so the girls just want the guy because he is unavailable due the fact that he is in a relationship?

Well, from my perspective, no. If a guy that I like has a girlfriend, I respect that he does and I don't get jealous most of the time. If he breaks up with his girlfriend though, that's where I come in.

x0xKairix0x- I thought girls love it when guys are or act like we are unavailable or unattainable?

x0xKairix0x- I thought girls love it when guys are or act like we are unavailable or unattainable?

That's what I meant.

I think it's true even when the sexes are reversed.  When you're in a relationship, you're seen as desirable because, being taken, it's (apparently) a sign you're someone someone else would want.  When you're single, the opposite is true.  The catch-22 is god's idea of a sick joke.

Not for me.  When someone is in a relationship they are automatically a non-sexual entity to me, like a brother or a lamp.  

But I think a lot of people over exaggerate where "no one liked me for ages" probably is "no one I returned feelings for liked me during that period" and "now loads like me" is probably 1 or 2 expressing an interest or just playfully flirting.  No one starts diving on someone when their facebook status changes to in a relationship (I get a lot more messages when mine goes to single like), it's not lynx.

 

I love lynx.  

 

 

Except the Africa one cause it smells rank.  

It depends completely on the person. There IS a subconscious part of our brain that assumes that if a male is in a relationship--or even has someone attracted to him--then he must be desirable in some way. I can honestly say that I have yet to be in a situation where the fact that the guy was taken made him more attractive to me. From my perspective, if he's taken, he's at least temporarily unattainable, so there's not really a point in trying. I can recall one instance where I was attracted to a boy and then found out he was taken, and while the attraction didn't automatically vanish, any thought of actually flirting with him did.

and does Axe really smell that bad? I just bought some the other day

 

There is a Africa axe? I should buy it since I am black lol 

 

DracoZombie-yea guys do it a lot but I just seen it more in women however.

 

Caity Raindrop-I agree when a girl is in a relationship I treat her like one of the guys lol. and what's lynx?

I've never really seen that personally, the girls that I talk to will like a guy before, during, and after he is dating someone. Next time there is a guy they barely know about I will pay closer attention if they start obsessing over him when he gets a girlfriend lol

And I agree with Caity, if a guy is in a relationship already then 99% of the time I have no interest.

ChildOfTerra_FriendofRiku-thanks for the explanation. good to see that what I thought was not true.

 

Lalalalablah-I have seen in many times in my high school, where a guy would go unnoticed by females for a while then all the sudden, when he starts a relationship with a girl, more and more females start flirting and start showing more romantic or sexual interest in him ( when his girlfriend is not around).  

Before I was taken I found myself being flirted with way more and now that I am I don't think anyone's flirted with me so your theory doesn't always work maybe my gf is just too awesome? o.O

Before I was taken I found myself being flirted with way more and now that I am I don't think anyone's flirted with me so your theory doesn't always work maybe my gf is just too awesome? o.O

Maybe everyone is scared of your girlfriend. 0_0Anyways, I haven't seen much flirting at all at my college. So, I can't really help your study.Edit: It could be something very similar to what some others have said. Maybe something changed in the person shortly before they got a girlfriend and that change made them attract more people. (or it could just be what others have said, the old people want what they "can't" have, and the possible confidence boost from having a girlfriend.)

Edited January 13, 201411 yr by Tigerruss

Maybe everyone is scared of your girlfriend. 0_0

 

Anyways, I haven't seen much flirting at all at my college. So, I can't really help your study.

I'm forever alone, and uninterested in the love lives of others, so I can't help the study either.

AgentJade- usually the ones who want to be alone, always end up with somebody.

 

its the people who desperately try to find love that always end up alone.

Edited January 13, 201411 yr by MasterRoxas13

I'm forever alone, and uninterested in the love lives of others, so I can't help the study either.

I am curious if you are "forever alone" by choice or just cause. After all I do believe that being forever alone by choice is a valid way to make it through life, though if not, longing does suck. Anyways what ever path it may be, I hope that it leads you to your desires.

 

@MasterRoxas13 I don't like being completely off topic with my posts, so I'll contribute another idea. This is only a possibility, what if you simply don't notice girls flirting with guys unless if the guys already have girlfriends? It is also possible that the anime harem trope thing has some basis in reality, as much as I hate it. D:

There is this ongoing joke on the internet and in the real world, that when a guy is single barely any girls want him, but when he has a girlfriend almost every girl wants him all the sudden. Is this true ladies?

Okay, imo, that's utter bs. If there's a guy who's single and absolutely no girls want anything to do with him, then he's probably just not a nice guy. I'm sure there are a few girls who would get a crush on him because they like the challenge of going after a boy with a girlfriend, but if he wasn't a good enough person before, he probably won't be after. There's not some magic switch you flip that makes you suddenly attractive. (And if he is a nice person, the same goes--he's not suddenly going to be more desirable because now he's got a girlfriend.) 

 

There's this boy I find really creepy at school. He got a girlfriend last week. Regardless of that, everyone still thinks he's creepy and still keeps their distance. Girls aren't going to suddenly start worshiping a guy because he got a girlfriend. Actually, in cases like this, we just laugh at the girlfriend and wonder how on earth she agreed to date such a creepy guy.  

I am curious if you are "forever alone" by choice or just cause. After all I do believe that being forever alone by choice is a valid way to make it through life, though if not, longing does suck. Anyways what ever path it may be, I hope that it leads you to your desires.

 

@MasterRoxas13 I don't like being completely off topic with my posts, so I'll contribute another idea. This is only a possibility, what if you simply don't notice girls flirting with guys unless if the guys already have girlfriends? It is also possible that the anime harem trope thing has some basis in reality, as much as I hate it. D:

It's just cause.   :lol: But I won't be opposed if someone comes along and drags me into a romance someday!  

Edited January 13, 201411 yr by AgentJade