Please don't kill me for the stupid question i just uh don't know lmao

 

Since I'm really out of the loop and just normally don't care, I don't know: are people getting married and then having sex, or having sex without/before getting married? Like what do people do these days? I don't know

 

For me (personally) I have mixed feelings on the whole thing. For others I think it's wonderful no matter what they choose, so long as they KNOW it's what they want - but for me, I'm just not sure. I always picture myself living with 3,000 cats and strippers so...yeah. Thoughts, facts, etc.?

I have no idea, but I feel like the divorce rate is up, sadly.

You could have easily Googled it. It seems, though, that (at least in America) marriage is decreasing alarmingly rapidly. 

I think marriage is pretty high these days. But uh so is divorce.

Less.

You could have easily Googled it. It seems, though, that (at least in America) marriage is decreasing alarmingly rapidly.

Anything can be easily googled, but if felt like posting on the forum

Im not sure about marriage but I believe that divorce rates are at a low.

I feel like Divorce is high and Marriage is lower

I think it's more that people are waiting to get married later, not necessarily that there's less marriages in general. The divorce rate is higher, but you also have to remember that divorce is more socially acceptable nowadays.

I think it's more that people are waiting to get married later, not necessarily that there's less marriages in general. The divorce rate is higher, but you also have to remember that divorce is more socially acceptable nowadays.

Yeah, it's best to wait a little bit and f*ck as you please imo hehehehehehehehehe

Definitely not a stupid question. Its complicated. The idea of marriage is gaining less importance for the typical man/woman couple I think. For a gay couple its huge. And then there's the divorce rate and common law to take into account. You wouldn't think it'd be so complex but it is. 

Well , in my country , the divorces rate is higher than ever . Which means that even if people get married and even if they have sex  , it's all a waste of time as people usually divorce afterwards because of different factors (financial , lack of space etc.) .

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Edited July 11, 201411 yr by Ruby Rose

1 out of every 2 marriages fail. If 1 out of 2 planes crashed, no one would ride planes anymore. Since less people are getting married, divorce lawyers are losing their jobs, that's why they want to allow gay marriage. But in states where gay marriage is legal, gay couples don't even have the right to get divorced! It makes no sense.

1 out of every 2 marriages fail. If 1 out of 2 planes crashed, no one would ride planes anymore. Since less people are getting married, divorce lawyers are losing their jobs, that's why they want to allow gay marriage. But in states where gay marriage is legal, gay couples don't even have the right to get divorced! It makes no sense.

Huh, that's a really good way of looking at it, and it makes sense. Thank you!

Definitely not a stupid question. Its complicated. The idea of marriage is gaining less importance for the typical man/woman couple I think. For a gay couple its huge. And then there's the divorce rate and common law to take into account. You wouldn't think it'd be so complex but it is.

Yeah, that seems about right, thank you! I still don't know my personal stance on it to be honest.

3,000 cats and strippers 

 

Let me know when you find this paradise.

 

Since everyone's talked about the marriage part I'll talk about the sex part (it always falls on me to do this, oh the humanity). I don't think the number of people that have sex before marriage has changed much at all, it's more of the fact that back in the old days it was such a taboo that people just wouldn't mention they did.

I think it depends on the couple.  My aunt and uncle have been together for over 10 years, but they only got married three years ago because she has health issues and his insurance would not cover her.  The fact is, marriage has a financial aspect to it too, and if money is tight, it may be better for a couple not to get married.

I'm not sure...

I think that less people are getting married, but some get married more than once (if that counts).

Maybe it's less/about the same.

 

I don't really understand the meaning of marriage these days... what's the point really? Only makes things more complicated when you want to break up.

I recall reading an article a while ago that was basically like the marriage rate isn't changing, but people are waiting a lot longer to get married. People are pursuing their careers now and putting a family on the back burner, so there's no need to get married early. Now that (most) people have stopped demonizing premarital sex a lot of people are just happy living with their boyfriend/girlfriend/etc and essentially acting married so they don't have to go through the hassle and large amount of money spent on a wedding, or the legal issues should they want to divorce. 

I have no idea, but I feel like the divorce rate is up, sadly.

The divorce rate isn't higher than what it would naturally be. But for a ridiculously long time people were shamed for wanting a divorce - especially women. A tremendous amount of sexist societal pressure was put on (and still is) women to "be good" and keep their husbands happy. Until VERY recently a divorce was basically considered to be the woman's fault and something they were made to feel ashamed of. The divorce rate is only rising now because people aren't being pressured to stay in unhappy marriages.

I recall reading an article a while ago that was basically like the marriage rate isn't changing, but people are waiting a lot longer to get married. People are pursuing their careers now and putting a family on the back burner, so there's no need to get married early. Now that (most) people have stopped demonizing premarital sex a lot of people are just happy living with their boyfriend/girlfriend/etc and essentially acting married so they don't have to go through the hassle and large amount of money spent on a wedding, or the legal issues should they want to divorce. 

The divorce rate isn't higher than what it would naturally be. But for a ridiculously long time people were shamed for wanting a divorce - especially women. A tremendous amount of sexist societal pressure was put on (and still is) women to "be good" and keep their husbands happy. Until VERY recently a divorce was basically considered to be the woman's fault and something they were made to feel ashamed of. The divorce rate is only rising now because people aren't being pressured to stay in unhappy marriages.

And I really don't understand as to why someone would be prevented from divorcing a total jerk.If they are really thinking "OH NO IF THEY GET DIVORCED THEY ARE JUST ADULTEROUS SCUM!" Why not basically just allow them to be divorced and then pressure them not to remarry?

And if you say it is because of the Christian Bible, it could be possible, especially with how people interpret it. Though Jesus really spoke against getting divorced and then remarrying, basically saying it was adultery. (that being said, he basically claimed it was only allowed by Moses to basically keep order amongst the people) Though it required the condition of remarrying.

Not that you care, but probably to most law based Christians, they would consider living with someone outside of marriage and later living with someone else adultery or almost as bad as divorce.BUT that being said I do think it is better to have it that way for society than having people stuck in horrible marriages.

Honestly if I was to have a strict society with sex outside of marriage forbidden, I would actually want prospecting couples to live with each other (just not sexually) for months to a year before deciding to get married. Sure it would have tons of potential problems with rumors starting about couples committing social taboos, but it probably would decrease the amount of first marriage divorces.I am for life long partners, and monogamous relationships. But that doesn't mean I am going to condemn those who are for other plans. And I do understand that mistakes in choosing people happens.

 

And if some people want to read statistics on divorce rates. Here you go:http://www.divorcepad.com/rate/