I was feeling bad for 2 weeks about this. Usually I used to hang with guys (the reason I became more of a tomboy) because they wanted me to sit with them, and I was like "sure". This all happened in 6th grade. I fell in love blah blah then was love confused in 7th grade and eventually got over it in 8th grade. I help them buy giving they money, when they needed it, and give them food, when they needed it. I felt happy helping out people and when people smile back.

 

Now this is the worst part. In the first part of 8th grade, I was happy to be back to school. But now all of my friends started turning into total dicks and using me for money and food and I just felt bad. The guy that I like hurted me emotionally and I got over him. Nearly everyone of my guy-friends got so annoying and irritating. Sometimes I get hungry (I cant eat school food because I need to pay) and they dont even give two shits and they just take all my food and eat it leaving me starving. I tried to hold all my anger which worked. Now around January I left them for real friends this time, so I went to the girls table. I got happier but now what gets even worse is that they start getting pissed. In the middle of the hallways they start hitting me, or even pushing me. They call me a slut, (people used to call me that when I hanged with them and now they are using it against me) (I am not a slut) bitch and a lot more things. They just come up to me and do these stuff and talk shit behind my back. I now see it clear they just were using me the whole time, and my new friends know its troubling me but dont know if its true since I hide it. I just get too sad and mad and I feel I am just going punch one in the face one day, and I dont want that to even happen. Also they write over everything and just spread rumors and gossip a lot. Also I have been through a lot of crap worse than this and it just doesn't help at all for me to become happier. I just want to have a smile again. They also say no one likes me as a friend and everyone uses me. Which makes me think its true, and makes me just feel so sad.

 

I just wanted to know, am I wrong for leaving them? Or was it better if I just stayed with them till the end of Highschool? I dont know what to do, and I just feel too sad.

 

PS: I feel stupid after all those choices of being too friendly and nice too people.

 

Also:

*hugs*

 

I can't say how serious it is for u, but be angry...

 

Never hold anything like that in, u'll slowly turn emotionless (i did) and that is some of the worst crap that can happen for a person.

 

Being friendly and nice have its ups and downs, but u'll usually feel happy about it later on. Those guys will be treated like crap later on, whereas u will be the one the real "friend-material" people will be seeking out.

 

Being a dick, douche or just outright arse will only make ur life seen as less worth than it really is, that is what those guys will eventually experience.

 

But i'll say it again, let ur anger out, u dont wanna keep something like that locked up.

Tell somebody. You have to tell somebody who works in the school. And no your not wrong. They used you and their assholes.

No your wrong about the part where you said that it was stupid of being nice and friendly to people because personally i admire that trait because not a lot of people these days show that and just want to complain about justin bieber and all them other maybe worthless things to talk about and also if you believe you haven't got any friends then don't worry since i will be your friend if you want me to and i will at least try to respect your wishes if i can and if you ever feel like talking then just come and see me if i am online :].

feeling better?

ouch, im sorry to hear that. Like 4everbee said, tell someone, like a guidance counselor because they were basically bulling you, right? i wouldn't say it's bad to be frendly to others but just be careful.

*hugs*

 

I can't say how serious it is for u, but be angry...

 

Never hold anything like that in, u'll slowly turn emotionless (i did) and that is some of the worst crap that can happen for a person.

 

Being friendly and nice have its ups and downs, but u'll usually feel happy about it later on. Those guys will be treated like crap later on, whereas u will be the one the real "friend-material" people will be seeking out.

 

Being a dick, douche or just outright arse will only make ur life seen as less worth than it really is, that is what those guys will eventually experience.

 

But i'll say it again, let ur anger out, u dont wanna keep something like that locked up.

 

The thing is I am scared of it. I get angry at least 50x a day because of how people make fun of me or anyone else on a subject they have little to or no knowledge on. Also they hit me in the hallways or just start yelling and cursing at me every time im with them, think of what they would do if I fight back. Its 8 vs 1. I dont think ill win. I am not planning to fight back either, I just waiting for it to end.

 

 

No your wrong about the part where you said that it was stupid of being nice and friendly to people because personally i admire that trait because not a lot of people these days show that and just want to complain about justin bieber and all them other maybe worthless things to talk about and also if you believe you haven't got any friends then don't worry since i will be your friend if you want me to and i will at least try to respect your wishes if i can and if you ever feel like talking then just come and see me if i am online :].

 

I guess I was wrong on that. I just want to be nice and friendly to people, but to people who cant take advantage of me anymore.

 

 

Tell somebody. You have to tell somebody who works in the school. And no your not wrong. They used you and their assholes.

 

The school goes too far with these type of situations, and these guys dont speak up at all. If no one speaks up, I get the blame and trouble from the dean or they just go for an investigation. I like them but now all they start talking about is drugs and one time they wanted me to come with them after school, and basically every time someone comes with them they get addicted so that I am even scared of.

*hug*

as flash would do is tell em to leave if that dont work kick their A$$

Those are ridiculous questions!

You did the right thing leaving them! (Really I would not last a day with people stealing my food and not get a fist to the face for it!) and you should really tell your parents or if that is too hard for you talk to someone at your school.

 

ANYWAY! *HUGS*

The thing is I am scared of it. I get angry at least 50x a day because of how people make fun of me or anyone else on a subject they have little to or no knowledge on. Also they hit me in the hallways or just start yelling and cursing at me every time im with them, think of what they would do if I fight back. Its 8 vs 1. I dont think ill win. I am not planning to fight back either, I just waiting for it to end.

 

 

 

 

I guess I was wrong on that. I just want to be nice and friendly to people, but to people who cant take advantage of me anymore.

 

 

 

 

The school goes too far with these type of situations, and these guys dont speak up at all. If no one speaks up, I get the blame and trouble from the dean or they just go for an investigation. I like them but now all they start talking about is drugs and one time they wanted me to come with them after school, and basically every time someone comes with them they get addicted so that I am even scared of.

 

Then tell your mom and schools HAVE to go to far, They have to make sure the kids in the schools are okay. And tell your mom or dad and maybe they will talk to the moms and dads of the assholes. AND I DON'T WANNA HEAR I CAN'T TELL MY MOM OR DAD YOU CAN TELL THEM EVEN IF YOU DON'T WANT TO TELL THEM YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM!

I agree with you, be friends with only the people you actually want to be friends with, not just by random draw.

yea, tell a teacher, I know it seems like a stupid thing to do but it helps a lot, plus you get to know the teachers better and it's more power to you. And don't worry, once you get to high school you'll meet a whole lot of new people who you can trust and hang out with .. assuming it revolves around multiple districts, pick your crowds wisely. sometimes the stupid ones are the fun ones lol

Ignore them and move on. Life is a bitch. Slap that bitch in the face. Talk to your parents/family or someone important at school. They are wrong. Begin a better life. Don't let @$$holes ruin your life. Search for people who truly care about you. They seem far, but they aren't. Your life can change only if you want to.

 

 

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Shana you were like my first friend on this site *hugs*

 

I'm sorry your going through this.. Its the same experience for me as a junior in high school.. Assholes, dickwads, fowl play, etc, etc, etc...

 

The best thing to do, is stand strong and imagine it as getting through a couple years of high school.. You don't have to deal with the dicks during summer...Its not going to be easy :c... What you need is a true friend with you, someone you truly trust and can rant too.. I would be careful with your love.. If they use you once.. they are destined to use you again :c.. so don't hang out with those people.. hang out with someone you can truly relate and be friends or more with.

Then tell your mom and schools HAVE to go to far, They have to make sure the kids in the schools are okay. And tell your mom or dad and maybe they will talk to the moms and dads of the assholes. AND I DON'T WANNA HEAR I CAN'T TELL MY MOM OR DAD YOU CAN TELL THEM EVEN IF YOU DON'T WANT TO TELL THEM YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM!

 

Ill try, but only on the right time, my mom has a lot of problems and started to cry even by this minute. Ill tell her when she calms down and gets a little better. My dad isn't here.

Shana you were like my first friend on this site *hugs*

 

I'm sorry your going through this.. Its the same experience for me as a junior in high school.. Assholes, dickwads, fowl play, etc, etc, etc...

 

The best thing to do, is stand strong and imagine it as getting through a couple years of high school.. You don't have to deal with the dicks during summer...Its not going to be easy :c... What you need is a true friend with you, someone you truly trust and can rant too.. I would be careful with your love.. If they use you once.. they are destined to use you again :c.. so don't hang out with those people.. hang out with someone you can truly relate and be friends or more with.

 

I got over my love, he was indeed a total jerk to me. I think I got a few friends I can relate to now but I hope I can find more in Highschool, since were all going to different ones.

 

(i tried to like ur post but got to the limit of my likes ;A;)

 

 

Ignore them and move on. Life is a bitch. Slap that bitch in the face. Talk to your parents/family or someone important at school. They are wrong. Begin a better life. Don't let @$$holes ruin your life. Search for people who truly care about you. They seem far, but they aren't. Your life can change only if you want to.

 

 

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Thanks Golden :')

Yes I guess Life is a bitch at times. Like I said before, I will try and get a chance to talk to someone about this (Ill try telling my older brother, he is 21, ill see what he will say.) Ill find better people who actually care about me.

 

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Oh God not you too. I can't believe these people! Listen to people and tell someone! Tell the guidence cousiler or a nearby adult. They can't say they can't do anything because they totally can and don't take no for an answer. You can't let them get away with this trust me, I was bullied in 7th grade for something kind of like this but worse for a kid with low self-esteem and believed everything people said. Don't listen to them and ignore them and if they continue to bother you don't take it continue to tell someone. No matter what they do, if they upset you, you gotta tell someone because bullying isn't right and it hurts billions of people around the world! And...

We're here for you with hugs for you no matter how far away we are

Any man that puts his hands on a women for any reason deserve to get my foot shoved down their throats. And no shana you are not wrong for leaving those assholes.

I'm gonna be as blunt as possible:

Stop being too nice.

I learned this the hard way. I went through a similar thing and the only way I got it to stop is that I didn't take shit from anyone anymore.

It's hard but you just need to stand your ground and tell them to stop their shit.

Best advice I can give.

Oh God not you too. I can't believe these people! Listen to people and tell someone! Tell the guidence cousiler or a nearby adult. They can't say they can't do anything because they totally can and don't take no for an answer. You can't let them get away with this trust me, I was bullied in 7th grade for something kind of like this but worse for a kid with low self-esteem and believed everything people said. Don't listen to them and ignore them and if they continue to bother you don't take it continue to tell someone. No matter what they do, if they upset you, you gotta tell someone because bullying isn't right and it hurts billions of people around the world! And...

We're here for you with hugs for you no matter how far away we are

 

I cant believe these people either. Read my other posts for telling nearby adults, deans and guidance counselor. I had (or still have) low self-esteem. I just believed everyone and just try not to argue, thinking everyone else around me is right and I am wrong. But this year just showed me everything to make me say I am right. Well it got better and worse.

 

 

Any man that puts his hands on a women for any reason deserve to get my foot shoved down their throats. And no shana you are not wrong for leaving those assholes.

 

Thanks devy, Ill try to get them back.

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I'm gonna be as blunt as possible:

Stop being too nice.

I learned this the hard way. I went through a similar thing and the only way I got it to stop is that I didn't take shit from anyone anymore.

It's hard but you just need to stand your ground and tell them to stop their shit.

Best advice I can give.

 

I guess being too nice isn't good...

Thanks Koko, Im trying not to take shit anymore, I guess thats also the reason they are getting mad at me...

Ill tell them tomorrow.

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I cant believe these people either. Read my other posts for telling nearby adults, deans and guidance counselor. I had (or still have) low self-esteem. I just believed everyone and just try not to argue, thinking everyone else around me is right and I am wrong. But this year just showed me everything to make me say I am right. Well it got better and worse.

 

 

 

 

Thanks devy, Ill try to get them back.

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You shouldn't have too they should have never laid a finger on you I take that shit seriously I beaten the crap out of people for hitting girls

You shouldn't have too they should have never laid a finger on you I take that shit seriously I beaten the crap out of people for hitting girls

 

I guess, but its not the same as girls hitting guys, I dont tolerate both.

 

Thanks again Devy. *big hug*

WHERE DO YOU LIVE IM GOING TO STOMP OVER TO YOUR SCHOOL AND BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF ANYONE WHO MESSES WITH MY FRIENDS! (activates mangekyo sharingan)

First off its very rare to find a good friend such as yourself and that you were doing the right thing being nice to them. Second it is there stupid fault for taking advantage of that. When there is a problem you need to confrot someone trustworthy such as a bff or an adult. Alot of people do horrible stuff to me as well for being nice and i always think that i get treated badly for being nice but thats far from the truth. You dont deserve what happened but if you have any problems with people then talk to your folks or us here online. We'll be happy to help. Hope this speech helped.

First off its very rare to find a good friend such as yourself and that you were doing the right thing being nice to them. Second it is there stupid fault for taking advantage of that. When there is a problem you need to confrot someone trustworthy such as a bff or an adult. Alot of people do horrible stuff to me as well for being nice and i always think that i get treated badly for being nice but thats far from the truth. You dont deserve what happened but if you have any problems with people then talk to your folks or us here online. We'll be happy to help. Hope this speech helped.

 

Thanks I guess my personality is rare. It did help like the other posts. I think talking online can help a lot, I can get things out here than to people i know (im really shy and when it comes to topic like these ones I get even more shy and nervous) Thank you.

First of all, I'm not going to hug you. I'm going to smother you.

 

What on Earth could make you think you were wrong for leaving them? I'm going to stress this as the most important part. You have to tell somebody. A teacher, a guidance counselor and your parents. Tell all of them. I'm not going to stop bothering you until you do this. And Koko's right. You have to stop being so nice. At this point, you need to ignore them or be frank. Whenever they approach you, you need to act like they aren't getting to you. But if they do get physical, you need to be completely honest with them and tell them how you no longer want any part of their crap. If they start insult you again, you need to snap right back. Don't insult them or make a big show out of it but you can't leave yourself completely defenseless. This is how they'll know they're affecting you. Above all, tell, tell, tell an adult.

If this is how they're treating you, then no, you're definitely not wrong for leaving them. No one deserves to be treated that way, and staying with them would only make it worse. It's great that you did moved past them and got a new group of friends.

 

Don't hide it; tell your friends, tell your parents, tell a teacher, tell someone. They need to cut that shit out, and you need to show that to them.