Hello lovely members! I was thinking today, and I realized that although we may or may not know it, some of our beloved members here may be going through some rough times, whether it be depression, self harm, abuse, or anything really. I thought it'd be a good idea to make a support thread for these members.

As for general advice, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE TALK to someone if you need any help. It can be someone on the site, or you can try one of the hotlines (which I will include at the end, in a spoiler). Talk and be honest and know that it's okay to cry and to be weak and to ask for help. There's no shame in getting help, whether it be from a trusted adult or on the internet, just get help!

You are free to ask for advice here if you are comfortable with publicly posting, but I ask for other members to be sympathetic and if you have no advice to give or nothing nice to say, please don't respond to someone's post. We want to help people, not put them down.

If you are not comfortable asking for advice publicly, I will be posting another list, a list of members you can privately message for help. So far it's just me, but if you're interested in helping out and forming a little advice team, message me and I'll add you to the list. As well, if you have any hotline numbers for other countries, please post them so I can add them to the list.

I will also try to post information on different things (like depression, bipolar disorder, sexuality, gender dysphoria, etc)

 

Also remember, none of us (as far as I know) are professionals! So our advice may not be absolutely perfect, but we'll try to help the best we can.

 

Members you can privately message:

Koko

Think Pink

Not-a-whimper

AnsemTheWise

devereauxr

Snow

 

 

Hotlines:

 

 

North America

Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696

Self-Injury Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (366-8288)

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433

National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)

National LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900

 

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-439–4253

 

 

United Kingdom

Samaritans

Tel: 08457 90 90 90 (National number charged at local call rates)

To find a local center in the UK, you can click here

Minicom/textphone: 08457 90 91 92

Email: [email protected]

 

Violence and Crime

0845 30 30 900 (local rate)

 

Womens aid domestic violence helpline

08457 023468 (local rate)

 

Health NHS direct (mental health/suicide)

0845 46 47 (local rate)

Website: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/ > NHS Direct Mental Health FAQ

 

CHILDLINE (young person or child helpline)

Free call calls cant be traced

0800 1111

Website: http://www.childline.org.uk/

 

Alcoholics anonymous

0845 769 7555 (local rate)

Website: http://www.alcoholic...onymous.org.uk/

 

Curse bereavement care

0870 167 1677 (local rate)

 

Sexuality

(020) 7837 7324

 

National Debt Helpline

0808 084000

 

Cruse Bereavement Care

0870 1671677

 

Farmers in Difficulty

07002 326326

 

Worried someone is having thoughts of Suicide - Call PAPYRUS HOPEline

0870 1704000

Ireland

Samaritans

Tel: 1850 60 90 90 (National number charged at local call rates)

To find a local Samaritans center in Ireland, click here

Minicom/textphone: 1850 60 90 91

Email: [email protected]

 

Childline - freefone 1800 666 666

Depression - Aware (01) 676 6166

Bodywhys (help for Anorexia and bulimia) - (01) 283 5126

NSPCC, Child Protection Helpline:freephone, 24 hrs - 0800 800500

NICAS-n.i.community addiction service, alcohol,drugs addiction – 028 90664434/90330499/90731602

Zest for the prevention of suicide -Londonderry -028)71266999

Eating Disorders Assessment (NI) - 90618299 /90621627

Contact Youth (counselling for young People) - 028)90457848

Youthline - 0808 808 8000

Young Persons Advice line - 0808 808 5678

Childline - 24 hr helpline for children and young people in trouble - 0800 1111 / Website: http://www.childline.org.uk/

 

Nexus Rape and Incest Counselling

Belfast centre - (028)90326803

Londonderry centre-(028)71260566

Enniskillen - (028)66320046

Portadown - (028)38350588

 

Rape crisis and sexual abuse centre - (028)90249696

Freephone - 0800 0526813

Victim Support Belfast - (028)90244039

 

Other useful numbers in Northern Ireland:-

Belfast city Hospital – 028 90329241

Royal Victoria Hospital –028 90240503

Mater Hospital – 028 90741211

Dunlewey Substance advice - 028)90743999

Alcoholics Anon – 028 90434848

Aids Help Line - 0800 12743/02890 326117

Relate Marriage Guidance counselling -028)90323454

Brook advisory centre (Family Planning for under 25)

- (028)90328866

Family Planning association -(028)90325448

 

Other useful numbers in ROI:-

Dublin

Rape Crisis centre - 6614911/6615464

Sexual assault unit, Rotunda Hospital - 8732111

Women and aids - 8745302

Women’s aid helpline - 1800 341 900 or 01 8745302/3

Women’s aid refuge - 961002

 

Galway

Rape Crisis Centre - 563676

Women’s aid refuge - 63581

 

Limerick

Rape Crisis Centre - 311511

 

 

 

I want to give everyone in this thread a gigantic hug. :'(

 

He is probably going through a few more...but here are some I saw and he told me about:

 

Bullying: People make fun of the way he dresses, acts, and talks. I stand up for him at times when I am around, but it does not help...Also people annoy him telling him he is gay, when he know he is, but he finds it annoying since they use it as an insult. Also they make fun of him because he hangs out with me now and a group of girls...

 

 

He also has not told anyone in his family, and I have been around his mother and father. His mother is kind, but I have asked her questions about homosexuality, well his brother did and I added. She replied that "Oh if my son is gay then ill be scared! I mean most gay people always think about sex all the time!" I wanted to stand up but I couldn't do it in front of his mother, or it make it show able that her son is gay if I bring it up.

 

He also feels like he is hated by everyone, he is scared on what everyone is going to do if they find out about his sexuality, even though he accepts it.

 

I feel bad that he has a fake smile, when he is hurt inside. He shows it, but never admits it.

 

Please help...btw I hope I can show him tomorrow, if his parents make him able to come outside tomorrow...

 

first off, if the bullying is getting really bad, definitely get an adult involved, and get them to cut that shit out. I know it sounds cliche and may not even work, but sometimes it can make a huge huge difference. otherwise, keep standing up for him, and help him stand up for himself as well.

 

family problems are a bit harder. if you feel comfortable with her, try and correct her, at least a little bit; chances are, she won't find out her son is gay if you do so (awkwardly worded sentence, but whatever).

 

if he feels he's hated by everyone...just let him know you're there for him. trust me, I've been in the same exact situation, and knowing that my friends were there to support me helped more than anything else ever could have.

 

I wish him the best of luck

*takes a deep breath* I became lesbian after the last guy I dated attempted to use me for sex, I started to date my best friend senior year of high school. around October during my college football game my mother found out about us. ever since then she's been treating my girl like a plague and practically disowned me. I gave up being with my family to be with her. Yes I stay with my parents but I live with my girl and her accepting family. Things were great, I proposed she said yes, we were gonna move in together, travel, everything was perfect but my mom wouldnt let up. she said everything she could to make me distrust my girl. But it never worked....much.. it made issues and we broke up twice but now things are getting back to normal. I just wish I could be her daughter again. but no. I'm nothing to her anymore, that's what she says anyways....

I am schizophrenic. I hear things. They are not good things either, voices tell me to kill myself and to harm others or myself. It's hard battling with this everyday, but my medication blocks out the voices although some voices slip in now and again if I don't take my medicine on time. Being schizophrenic makes you unemotional....It's hard for me to relate to others and I try so hard everyday of my life to understand people and to be normal and fit in. I'm tired of trying so hard everyday...it wears me out.

I am schizophrenic. I hear things. They are not good things either, voices tell me to kill myself and to harm others or myself. It's hard battling with this everyday, but my medication blocks out the voices although some voices slip in now and again if I don't take my medicine on time. Being schizophrenic makes you unemotional....It's hard for me to relate to others and I try so hard everyday of my life to understand people and to be normal and fit in. I'm tired of trying so hard everyday...it wears me out.

 

I'm glad at least most of the time you don't have to worry about the voices. If things get too bad, maybe you should talk to a therapist? One of my friends from middle school that I don't get to see much anymore had the same problem. She would always complain there were bad voices in her head and stuff, and after she got on some meds and started talking to a therapist, she was a lot happier. Hopefully that would help you out some more. Best of luck, Cricket.

*takes a deep breath* I became lesbian after the last guy I dated attempted to use me for sex, I started to date my best friend senior year of high school. around October during my college football game my mother found out about us. ever since then she's been treating my girl like a plague and practically disowned me. I gave up being with my family to be with her. Yes I stay with my parents but I live with my girl and her accepting family. Things were great, I proposed she said yes, we were gonna move in together, travel, everything was perfect but my mom wouldnt let up. she said everything she could to make me distrust my girl. But it never worked....much.. it made issues and we broke up twice but now things are getting back to normal. I just wish I could be her daughter again. but no. I'm nothing to her anymore, that's what she says anyways....

 

Your Mom sounds like maybe she's going through more of a personal crisis of accepting her daughter as a lesbian, rather than not liking you. It sounds like she still loves you very much, but can't admit it because maybe she feels kind of betrayed. Not that she is, because you have a right to be whatever you want. I'm just saying that's how it seems like she might feel right now. Try to reconnect with her slowly. For the time being, try not to bring your girlfriend it that upsets her so much. Ease into bringing your girlfriend over once your mom becomes more comfortable. Just start by maybe having a lunch together, seeing a movie you both would like--just something casual, fun, and that you can connect over. Good luck<3

*takes a deep breath* I became lesbian after the last guy I dated attempted to use me for sex, I started to date my best friend senior year of high school. around October during my college football game my mother found out about us. ever since then she's been treating my girl like a plague and practically disowned me. I gave up being with my family to be with her. Yes I stay with my parents but I live with my girl and her accepting family. Things were great, I proposed she said yes, we were gonna move in together, travel, everything was perfect but my mom wouldnt let up. she said everything she could to make me distrust my girl. But it never worked....much.. it made issues and we broke up twice but now things are getting back to normal. I just wish I could be her daughter again. but no. I'm nothing to her anymore, that's what she says anyways....

 

I don't really know what to say D:

First, congrats on the engagement!

If the whole ordeal with your mom makes you sad, get your mind off it by focusing on what's going to come. I mean, I would be so ecstatic about being engaged.

Anyways, why is it that your mother isn't accepting? Do you know? Is she like homophobic or thinks it's wrong or maybe is uneducated about it?

You could try visiting her and trying to have a heart to heart with her. Tell her how she's making you feel and that you want to be her daughter and just let her know that what she's doing is hurting you. Parents aren't there to hurt their kids.

If that doesn't work, I'm not sure what else to say

 

edit: LISTEN TO LEXI I LIKE HER ADVICE MORE

 

I am schizophrenic. I hear things. They are not good things either, voices tell me to kill myself and to harm others or myself. It's hard battling with this everyday, but my medication blocks out the voices although some voices slip in now and again if I don't take my medicine on time. Being schizophrenic makes you unemotional....It's hard for me to relate to others and I try so hard everyday of my life to understand people and to be normal and fit in. I'm tired of trying so hard everyday...it wears me out.

 

I LOVE YOU CRICKER

This is going to be more personal bc Cricket, you're like the best and you're always going to be the same friendly and awesome Cricket I first met.

I believe you are strong enough to ignore the voices in your head and even though it is a big obstacle, I believe that you will still overcome it.

Don't beat yourself up so much about not being able to relate to others and feeling unemotional. Focus on yourself and what's best for you.

Idk what else to say except you're the best ok.

I don't really know what to say D:

First, congrats on the engagement!

If the whole ordeal with your mom makes you sad, get your mind off it by focusing on what's going to come. I mean, I would be so ecstatic about being engaged.

Anyways, why is it that your mother isn't accepting? Do you know? Is she like homophobic or thinks it's wrong or maybe is uneducated about it?

You could try visiting her and trying to have a heart to heart with her. Tell her how she's making you feel and that you want to be her daughter and just let her know that what she's doing is hurting you. Parents aren't there to hurt their kids.

If that doesn't work, I'm not sure what else to say

 

edit: LISTEN TO LEXI I LIKE HER ADVICE MORE

 

 

 

I LOVE YOU CRICKER

This is going to be more personal bc Cricket, you're like the best and you're always going to be the same friendly and awesome Cricket I first met.

I believe you are strong enough to ignore the voices in your head and even though it is a big obstacle, I believe that you will still overcome it.

Don't beat yourself up so much about not being able to relate to others and feeling unemotional. Focus on yourself and what's best for you.

Idk what else to say except you're the best ok.

 

she's religious and a homophobic. I try to talk to her and tell her about it but she doesnt care. her beliefs r more important

she's religious and a homophobic. I try to talk to her and tell her about it but she doesnt care. her beliefs r more important

 

That's tough

I'm not really sure what else you could do ;A;

That's tough

I'm not really sure what else you could do ;A;

 

nothing yet. I'm going back to college soon before that I'll be moved out so it'll be over soon

she's religious and a homophobic. I try to talk to her and tell her about it but she doesnt care. her beliefs r more important

 

If she's religious, most religions promote acceptance and tolerance. For instance, I'm Christian and while I myself am not gay, I'd never be mean to someone who is. I'll accept them the way they are. Try telling her that. If her beliefs are most important to her, then she should know that her religion probably is telling her to love and cherish you. If she's Christian, look up passages in the Bible that support your cause.

 

EDIT: Even if you're returning to college soon, still try to rebuild your relationship with your Mom. She may not understand you and be angry right now, but deep down she loves you more than anything. Don't lose out on that relationship because you two can't come to an understanding. You never know how long you'll have her, and when she's gone, trust me when I tell you you will regret every moment you didn't spend with her. It might take her a while to realize she's wrong, but don't give up on her. Best of luck<3

If she's religious, most religions promote acceptance and tolerance. For instance, I'm Christian and while I myself am not gay, I'd never be mean to someone who is. I'll accept them the way they are. Try telling her that. If her beliefs are most important to her, then she should know that her religion probably is telling her to love and cherish you. If she's Christian, look up passages in the Bible that support your cause.

 

EDIT: Even if you're returning to college soon, still try to rebuild your relationship with your Mom. She may not understand you and be angry right now, but deep down she loves you more than anything. Don't lose out on that relationship because you two can't come to an understanding. You never know how long you'll have her, and when she's gone, trust me when I tell you you will regret every moment you didn't spend with her. It might take her a while to realize she's wrong, but don't give up on her. Best of luck<3

 

I don't see how people can call themselves Christians if they're going to shut out and hate people. Jesus only ever spoke out against the "religious leaders" of his day. I'm still rather uneducated on homosexuality, but I would never judge or hate someone based on it. Also, as a heterosexual guy who isn't a total jerk, I'd just like to say that on behalf of every good guy out there that not all of us are, pardon my language, dicks. I'm sorry that you happened to formerly be in a relationship with one who was.

I've got my problems under control, but I am available if anyone needs help.

 

Honestly, I'm not good with the mushy stuff. My territory's in the physical world. While you should see a doctor about any medical problems, I'm free for any questions you might have. The internet's not always the best place to go (anyone can post whatever up), so turn to you resident medic! I specialize in human biology and chemistry, so I've got a pretty good understanding about what makes you tick (cases like Joseph's Crohn's is what I'm used to working with). I'm also open to anything else you wanna get off your chest. My family's basically got everything in the book, so I've seen it all.

 

I'm never really open for chat (everyone always starts messages while I'm typing and then leaves. Plus, I usually just pop on for a minute or two.), but you can shoot me a PM and we can set up a chat time if you'd like.

I'm basically the opposite of AnsemTheWise in that regard. The physical stuff I'm not so good with, but when it comes to heartache and emotional pain then I'm your guy. I'm on here pretty often, but if I'm not then just PM me and I'll get right back to you.

I've got my problems under control, but I am available if anyone needs help.

 

Honestly, I'm not good with the mushy stuff. My territory's in the physical world. While you should see a doctor about any medical problems, I'm free for any questions you might have. The internet's not always the best place to go (anyone can post whatever up), so turn to you resident medic! I specialize in human biology and chemistry, so I've got a pretty good understanding about what makes you tick (cases like Joseph's Crohn's is what I'm used to working with). I'm also open to anything else you wanna get off your chest. My family's basically got everything in the book, so I've seen it all.

 

I'm never really open for chat (everyone always starts messages while I'm typing and then leaves. Plus, I usually just pop on for a minute or two.), but you can shoot me a PM and we can set up a chat time if you'd like.

 

I'll you to the list of members to privately message then!

 

Also, I think I'm going to post some of my own troubles here.

I'm pretty content with my life.

My relationship with my parents is steadier than before, my grades are great, my friends are good and my girlfriend is amazing.

I've been trying to lose wight for the past few months. I believe I started in September. I've lost about 18 pounds since then.

The thing is though, periodically, throughout those months, I obsessively tracked my calorie intake. Some days I would have just under 200 calories. I even tried the ABC Diet (Ana Boot Camp) but stopped, not because I couldn't do it or felt bad, but because I kept staying WAY under the daily limits and the point of the diet was to be as close as what the designated intake was for that day. Sometimes I would forget to eat, if it was on purpose or not, I don't know. I'd get sick to my stomach and hate myself for having more than 1000 calories sometimes.

I even found out a few days ago that the average caloric intake of a girl my age is somewhere between 1800 and 2400 depending on level of activity.

Lately my intake has been at 1200 or lower.

I've been trying to get back into a healthier pattern, but I can't seem to.

I do eat more fruits and veggies, I drink lots of water and tea, I try to have what I need to have so I never feel faint or weak, I actually feel more energetic.

But I feel like it's wrong for me to be consuming so little calories. I still constantly check labels and read the nutrition information several times and the calories per serving even more.

My mother constantly reminds me of how fat I am and makes me be even more conscious in what I eat.

I just am not content with my body especially since everyone around me are very thin and lean while I'm just fat.

I'll you to the list of members to privately message then!

 

Also, I think I'm going to post some of my own troubles here.

I'm pretty content with my life.

My relationship with my parents is steadier than before, my grades are great, my friends are good and my girlfriend is amazing.

I've been trying to lose wight for the past few months. I believe I started in September. I've lost about 18 pounds since then.

The thing is though, periodically, throughout those months, I obsessively tracked my calorie intake. Some days I would have just under 200 calories. I even tried the ABC Diet (Ana Boot Camp) but stopped, not because I couldn't do it or felt bad, but because I kept staying WAY under the daily limits and the point of the diet was to be as close as what the designated intake was for that day. Sometimes I would forget to eat, if it was on purpose or not, I don't know. I'd get sick to my stomach and hate myself for having more than 1000 calories sometimes.

I even found out a few days ago that the average caloric intake of a girl my age is somewhere between 1800 and 2400 depending on level of activity.

Lately my intake has been at 1200 or lower.

I've been trying to get back into a healthier pattern, but I can't seem to.

I do eat more fruits and veggies, I drink lots of water and tea, I try to have what I need to have so I never feel faint or weak, I actually feel more energetic.

But I feel like it's wrong for me to be consuming so little calories. I still constantly check labels and read the nutrition information several times and the calories per serving even more.

My mother constantly reminds me of how fat I am and makes me be even more conscious in what I eat.

I just am not content with my body especially since everyone around me are very thin and lean while I'm just fat.

 

`1 I don't think your mom thinks your fat. I think she just saying that cause she don't want you to eat to much or get sick or anything like that.

2 it not about how many calories you eat. IT ABOUT WHAT YOU EAT AND HOW YOU WORK OUT!

You have to work out if you want to lose wight. Why? Cause you know how you see ppl who are soo skin but they use to be really fat? Well they didn't eat big meals for lunch and dinner every day and they worked out. They took walks they did the work out thing on the TV. And your not fat I seen you! Nobody is fat!!!

So this is what I say. Eat a big breakfast for you won't get hungry till lunch and even then you won't be that hungry so you'll have a small lunch.

Then dinner eat a big or small up to you. And work out walk around. Just cause you don't eat does not mean you gonna lose wight. You have to work out.

And I'm so so sorry if I'm not helping.

Are there hotlines I can instant message instead of calling? I don't like calling over the phone.

I'll you to the list of members to privately message then!

 

Also, I think I'm going to post some of my own troubles here.

I'm pretty content with my life.

My relationship with my parents is steadier than before, my grades are great, my friends are good and my girlfriend is amazing.

I've been trying to lose wight for the past few months. I believe I started in September. I've lost about 18 pounds since then.

The thing is though, periodically, throughout those months, I obsessively tracked my calorie intake. Some days I would have just under 200 calories. I even tried the ABC Diet (Ana Boot Camp) but stopped, not because I couldn't do it or felt bad, but because I kept staying WAY under the daily limits and the point of the diet was to be as close as what the designated intake was for that day. Sometimes I would forget to eat, if it was on purpose or not, I don't know. I'd get sick to my stomach and hate myself for having more than 1000 calories sometimes.

I even found out a few days ago that the average caloric intake of a girl my age is somewhere between 1800 and 2400 depending on level of activity.

Lately my intake has been at 1200 or lower.

I've been trying to get back into a healthier pattern, but I can't seem to.

I do eat more fruits and veggies, I drink lots of water and tea, I try to have what I need to have so I never feel faint or weak, I actually feel more energetic.

But I feel like it's wrong for me to be consuming so little calories. I still constantly check labels and read the nutrition information several times and the calories per serving even more.

My mother constantly reminds me of how fat I am and makes me be even more conscious in what I eat.

I just am not content with my body especially since everyone around me are very thin and lean while I'm just fat.

 

If you feel like you're eating too much, then let yourself splurge a little! Have a scoop of ice cream or some french fries--cheating a little to fill in what calories you have left isn't going to kill you. A lot of diets even give you a whole day to eat whatever you want. And heck, as long as you keep active, you can eat a little more than what they say. Michael Phelps eats 4,000 calories a day or something. He should be 9000 pounds by now. But he works out enough it doesn't matter how many calories he intakes. I think I mostly keep in shape by doing Zumba four nights a week, and it's really fun too. I eat whatever I want on those days, cuz I know I have a big two hour work out coming up. Don't be so worried--I've seen the photos you post on the picture thread, and you look beautiful.

`1 I don't think your mom thinks your fat. I think she just saying that cause she don't want you to eat to much or get sick or anything like that.

2 it not about how many calories you eat. IT ABOUT WHAT YOU EAT AND HOW YOU WORK OUT!

You have to work out if you want to lose wight. Why? Cause you know how you see ppl who are soo skin but they use to be really fat? Well they didn't eat big meals for lunch and dinner every day and they worked out. They took walks they did the work out thing on the TV. And your not fat I seen you! Nobody is fat!!!

So this is what I say. Eat a big breakfast for you won't get hungry till lunch and even then you won't be that hungry so you'll have a small lunch.

Then dinner eat a big or small up to you. And work out walk around. Just cause you don't eat does not mean you gonna lose wight. You have to work out.

And I'm so so sorry if I'm not helping.

 

No, my mom thinks I'm fat. She comments about how much bigger I am compared to her and my sister. She makes me feel bad for eating anything at all.

And calories actually have a big role.

About two days ago, I only had 900 calories, without working out and in that day I did not get the recommended amount of nutrients.

Also, workout programs on TV tend to make it seem so easy and lie a lot.

I can't eat a big breakfast since I don't have time, I eat a small lunch and I either eat a teeny dinner or no dinner.

Working out excessively is just as bad as not eating enough too

Thanks for your input, I'm glad to know one person doesn't think I'm fat

 

 

If you feel like you're eating too much, then let yourself splurge a little! Have a scoop of ice cream or some french fries--cheating a little to fill in what calories you have left isn't going to kill you. A lot of diets even give you a whole day to eat whatever you want. And heck, as long as you keep active, you can eat a little more than what they say. Michael Phelps eats 4,000 calories a day or something. He should be 9000 pounds by now. But he works out enough it doesn't matter how many calories he intakes. I think I mostly keep in shape by doing Zumba four nights a week, and it's really fun too. I eat whatever I want on those days, cuz I know I have a big two hour work out coming up. Don't be so worried--I've seen the photos you post on the picture thread, and you look beautiful.

 

I just can't bring myself to eat anything like ice cream or fast food in general though. I feel sick and disgusted with myself when I do

lady Koko i would like to help,if anyone wants someone to talk to i volunteer,i have talked with some people in KH13 who were facing some difficult problems and i really want to help if it is ok with you,i am always available and even though i am not proffecional i want to help as a friend would help his friends

No, my mom thinks I'm fat. She comments about how much bigger I am compared to her and my sister. She makes me feel bad for eating anything at all.

And calories actually have a big role.

About two days ago, I only had 900 calories, without working out and in that day I did not get the recommended amount of nutrients.

Also, workout programs on TV tend to make it seem so easy and lie a lot.

I can't eat a big breakfast since I don't have time, I eat a small lunch and I either eat a teeny dinner or no dinner.

Working out excessively is just as bad as not eating enough too

Thanks for your input, I'm glad to know one person doesn't think I'm fat

 

 

 

I just can't bring myself to eat anything like ice cream or fast food in general though. I feel sick and disgusted with myself when I do

 

 

 

You aren't... Its hard when you try and fall to temptations of food like i do... Its hard when you were younger and could do all sorts of things like hike 15 miles in a day or ski that much.. but when i got bigger/fatter it got harder.. i could only start doing 10 miles.. 7 miles.. I know its a lot harder for me, and i hate that i cant do what i used to.. and i possibly might get diabetes and i think i might have a blood circulation problem from being overweight... Koko your fine :], as for me, a lot of work outs and avoiding temptations... =.=.... T_T

I just can't bring myself to eat anything like ice cream or fast food in general though. I feel sick and disgusted with myself when I do

 

Well that sucks. D: Maybe at least try eating more of everything. Like, if you're having only a scoop of peas, instead have two or three. Then you're eating healthy and getting the same amount of calories you need.

Okay, My ex-girlfriend comes to me saying shes pregnant. She says that she hasn't been tested yet, but has the symptoms. I didn't do anything with her.. i don't want to deal with this but shes the only comes to me... She wants me to be there for her, but in more of a way. Shes still apparently in "love" with me but no thanks i have no interest at all...

 

HELP MY INNOCENT SOUL, thanks.

Okay, My ex-girlfriend comes to me saying shes pregnant. She says that she hasn't been tested yet, but has the symptoms. I didn't do anything with her.. i don't want to deal with this but shes the only comes to me... She wants me to be there for her, but in more of a way. Shes still apparently in "love" with me but no thanks i have no interest at all...

 

HELP MY INNOCENT SOUL, thanks.

 

I think what you need to do is make sure she's pregnant.

Have her buy a pregnancy test from a small store or maybe go to planned parenthood for a free one.

If it turns out she is pregnant then she needs to find out what she wants to do: Whether she wants to keep the baby, put it for adoption or get an abortion.

Of course, she needs to tell her parents.

Hopefully her parents will help her and be supportive.

From the three options, I would highly suggest getting an abortion since keeping the child would probably not allow her to get the proper education and it's possible her family might not be able to financially support another child.

Adoption is shady and orphanages are not that great and are very underfunded and you never know if the child will be adopted into a good family or not.

She could also try setting up an adoption beforehand (like in Juno???) so she knows where her child is going, if she doesn't want have an abortion.

I'll dig around for some hotlines she can call to.

 

 

I'll you to the list of members to privately message then!

 

Also, I think I'm going to post some of my own troubles here.

I'm pretty content with my life.

My relationship with my parents is steadier than before, my grades are great, my friends are good and my girlfriend is amazing.

I've been trying to lose wight for the past few months. I believe I started in September. I've lost about 18 pounds since then.

The thing is though, periodically, throughout those months, I obsessively tracked my calorie intake. Some days I would have just under 200 calories. I even tried the ABC Diet (Ana Boot Camp) but stopped, not because I couldn't do it or felt bad, but because I kept staying WAY under the daily limits and the point of the diet was to be as close as what the designated intake was for that day. Sometimes I would forget to eat, if it was on purpose or not, I don't know. I'd get sick to my stomach and hate myself for having more than 1000 calories sometimes.

I even found out a few days ago that the average caloric intake of a girl my age is somewhere between 1800 and 2400 depending on level of activity.

Lately my intake has been at 1200 or lower.

I've been trying to get back into a healthier pattern, but I can't seem to.

I do eat more fruits and veggies, I drink lots of water and tea, I try to have what I need to have so I never feel faint or weak, I actually feel more energetic.

But I feel like it's wrong for me to be consuming so little calories. I still constantly check labels and read the nutrition information several times and the calories per serving even more.

My mother constantly reminds me of how fat I am and makes me be even more conscious in what I eat.

I just am not content with my body especially since everyone around me are very thin and lean while I'm just fat.

 

Since July I have also been trying to lose weight. So far, it hasn't going very well. Exercise-wise, it's going just fine. I walk one hour a day on weekdays and two hours a day on weekends. It's simply my willpower to prevent eat the things I love that is lacking. Maybe it's just laziness and I'm trying to get a really good grip on myself to really start eating properly. But I made myself promise that starting in the spring I would commit myself to actually eating properly.

 

But here is something I find useful when measuring my food intake. I don't know if it'll help you but I thought I'd let you know that I follow the Canadian Food Guide to measure my food intake and it greatly helps. I have no idea if there is an American Food Guide but if you want I could scan the guide we have and send the scans to you in a PM if you'd like. As for exercise, try to walk for a minimum of 30 minutes a day and if you don't have the time, try to move around as much as you can. It's easier said than done, but give yourself a chance to stop worrying about the number of calories and concentrate on the appropriate amount of food you should feed yourself.

I think what you need to do is make sure she's pregnant.

Have her buy a pregnancy test from a small store or maybe go to planned parenthood for a free one.

If it turns out she is pregnant then she needs to find out what she wants to do: Whether she wants to keep the baby, put it for adoption or get an abortion.

Of course, she needs to tell her parents.

Hopefully her parents will help her and be supportive.

From the three options, I would highly suggest getting an abortion since keeping the child would probably not allow her to get the proper education and it's possible her family might not be able to financially support another child.

Adoption is shady and orphanages are not that great and are very underfunded and you never know if the child will be adopted into a good family or not.

She could also try setting up an adoption beforehand (like in Juno???) so she knows where her child is going, if she doesn't want have an abortion.

I'll dig around for some hotlines she can call to.

 

It depends on what agency you use koko my mom was a foster parent for over 50 years and raised over 275 kids in that tenure. I have also done interships with dyfys so I know how the system works. More often then not the bilogical parent will make what is called an adoption plan in which they plan who their child is left with. It really depends on what agency you use. Also add me to the list of contacts I have worked with countless of special needs kids with all sorts of diablities so I can give out first hand advice of needed

It depends on what agency you use koko my mom was a foster parent for over 50 years and raised over 275 kids in that tenure. I have also done interships with dyfys so I know how the system works. More often then not the bilogical parent will make what is called an adoption plan in which they plan who their child is left with. It really depends on what agency you use. Also add me to the list of contacts I have worked with countless of special needs kids with all sorts of diablities so I can give out first hand advice of needed

 

I know it varies, but it's just a general warning.

I know there are several great orphanages and foster parents but there are equally as many bad ones. I'll add you~