So me and my sis ? Are talking about being gay , she says that you become gay as you get older i say we are born gay . Do NOT say anything mean please.

It can be either

Not being gay I wouldn't know. But everyone seems to say they are born gay, it's not a conscience decision they make. So yeah.

Sexuality isn't a choice. The easiest way for me to understand it is that I'm heterosexual. If I see a fine female, I can't help but be attracted. It's natural. So if someone is gay, they can't help but be attracted to a fine male or fine female, depended upon what gender they are.

A mixture of both but for some its one or the other due to life factors, Birth factors, Environmental factors, and the Persons Perception on everything.

mixture, but in my opinon it's a choice..

I'm not sure about "born" with your sexuality, but it's definitely part of your brain's growth and reaction to certain chemicals, it's not the person's choice.

 

Telling a gay person they chose to be gay is like telling a clinically depressed person they chose to be depressed. It's just ridiculous and insensitive.

Ultimately, it's your choice. You may have one inclination or another, but it will all come down to how you live you life.

A person can become straight or gay by creating a 'habit' of liking the sex they are not normally attracted to, for example.

It's ALL in the mind

Generally it's a natural factor, you are born attracted to a gender, but environmental factors can be a major contributing factor, particularly in a situation that leads to an intolerance of the opposite gender.

Logically and technically if you think long and hard about it its a yes and no thing because guys are born straight and then females are born gay/lesbain (gay and lesbian mean samething) because of the whole boob sucking thing, and then actually becoming gay/lesbian or a transexual (i guess same thing) would all be up to you as you get older to see if your more interested in the same sex, opposing sex, or even both sex's so 4everbee it is a yes and no solution with multipull answers you just gotta think bout it

Logically and technically if you think long and hard about it its a yes and no thing because guys are born straight and then females are born gay/lesbain (gay and lesbian mean samething) because of the whole boob sucking thing, and then actually becoming gay/lesbian or a transexual (i guess same thing) would all be up to you as you get older to see if your more interested in the same sex, opposing sex, or even both sex's so 4everbee it is a yes and no solution with multipull answers you just gotta think bout it

 

Uh...

Feeding in order to survive isn't a sexuality

Also, wouldn't that mean that anybody who drinks milk from a store is committing bestiality?

It could just come naturally to you, but in todays society it can have a major impact on you.

Edited October 10, 201213 yr by xxClouDxxmoon

It depends.

 

There are some cases which they are born gay, and there are soe cases where people choose to be gay.

 

I believe that people are born gay.

i think it is a choice

I won't say it's defined when you are born, because I'm honestly not sure. I slowly started realizing that I was gay, but I didn't really go "Oh, I guess I'll just go gay from now on! ┗┃・ ■ ・┃┛"

You're not born gay and you're not born straight either. You're born as a human being. You're experiences and the environment you've been raised in are what influence your sexual preference.

Edited October 10, 201213 yr by Lt.Random

I was born in the matrix. I didn't have a choice in my sexuality. Mr Smith touched me when I was little.

Ultimately, it's your choice. You may have one inclination or another, but it will all come down to how you live you life.

A person can become straight or gay by creating a 'habit' of liking the sex they are not normally attracted to, for example.

It's ALL in the mind

 

Many people tried those kind of methods, but ultimately they don't change anything, even though you have an "habit" and a "straight behavior", deep inside you will feel restrained as you in some way forced yourself to go either way, and will still feel attraction to the gender you were originally attracted to, no matter.

 

As for the whole "born this way or not" thing, I wouldn't know. Homosexuality is a really large thing, lots of factors are involved, and those may not even be the same from one person to another. I tend to think that it's a mix of everything, maybe some people are born with some factors that'll make them attracted, but then as they grow up other factors make it so they are attracted to the other gender, or something along those lines. Too may people are involved for us to be sure.

 

All I can say is that it's not a choice, you don't wake up one day and choose what you like, it's like asking someone to like chocolate if they like strawberry better, eventually they will grow used to the first but will still like the second. The only case in which it would be a choice is if a person is attracted to both (a bisexual or pansexual person), but chooses to only have sexual intercourse with one gender for whatever reason, because of what the society may think or just because they're more confortable this way.

There have been a lot of studies in the subject, and you are born that way. Even with animals, it's the same thing. You are what you are.

well are you born straight?

To me it's not something you really have the choice of. I think it's most likely being born that way.

I don't think there is a "homosexual" person or a "heterosexual" one. I just think that's a human invention. Of course, due to obvious reproduction necessities men feel sexually atracted to women and vice versa, but apart from that I don't think you have to choose to be gay, bisexual or heterosexual. I thing puttin yourself in a box reduces your options.

I'll let my body and feelings decide. We can't control it either way.

You don't choose to be gay. It all just depends on what you are attracted to. It's sorta how some people find gloomy weather beautiful, while others feel the sunny weather is beautiful. People are just attracted to different things.

There are many, many factors that go into it. It has been observed naturally in the wild though, including among birds, elephants (Bruce Bagemihl, Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity, St. Martin's Press, 1999; ISBN 0-312-19239-8),)

and Dragonflies

Edited October 10, 201213 yr by Spectrum of Life

Example: You have twins. Other is gay but other isn't. If people born gay, then both of them would have to be gay. But other isn't gay.

So no, you don't "born gay". You become gay.

 

(I'm pansexual, but mostly all people I've fell in love were men. I mean men, not boys. Like 27-years old men... xDD)